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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/17/2009 2:57:06 PM

Missokyst

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So basically are you saying this is to test the masochistic levels?

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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/17/2009 3:01:14 PM

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Sex is not the only fun in this world.

Does not compute. Please try again.

Naw, just kidding. I know the couples we hang out with do seem to really get off on non-sexual play. This is why, when I have been offered casual spanking play, I politely decline. Not too many Doms would appreciate me spanking their girl, then ripping her panties off, grabbing her by the neck and slaveraping her.

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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/17/2009 3:09:57 PM

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BDSM makes me wet. What about you? Is BDSM sexual? If not, how do you view
BDSM? Is it relief? Is is power? What is your motivation for this stuff we
do?

For me the play is sexual even if we're not having sex..the bondage, canings, using toys, etc...yeah sexual.

But the d/s for me..no, not sexual at all. It's part of a relationship for me. It's something I need in a relationship. I need that power, authority from a man to feel attracted to him, to want more from him. Without that he's just another casual fuck and really, I have zero desire for casual fucks.

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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/17/2009 6:27:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
BDSM makes me wet. What about you? Is BDSM sexual?

Absolutely. There is no way that I am able to separate any part of BDSM from sexual feelings. It is such that I really can't understand how others can. I KNOW they can and do but I can't relate to that in any way. BDSM = sex to me....................luci

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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/17/2009 7:11:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

So for me, BDSM is sexual. D/s which is so often classified as part of the chain is also sexual because I respond to control. But D/s is more relationship stuff, less reliant on physical sensation and for that reason I can enjoy D/s without the craving for cock.

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BDSM makes me wet. What about you? Is BDSM sexual? If not, how do you view BDSM? Is it relief? Is is power? What is your motivation for this stuff we do?

For me, BDSM is everything—sexual, emotional, intellectual . . . what have you. BDSM makes me wet.

For me, D/s is less reliant on immediate physical sensation, but it is indeed sexual. When my boyfriend tells me to do something—even something entirely mundane, like make an appointment to get new tires installed—I have a sexual response, getting wet, but I also have a full-body physical response. It’s almost as if he’s putting his arms around me when he tells me to do something. It’s sexual, but also incredibly intimate on an emotional level.

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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/17/2009 7:27:18 PM

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In a way I can separate needs because I am a masochist and am more than capable of self reset by using pain. I don't find that sexual in any way, but I am pretty sure that is because I am not doing that for any other reason than relieving anxiety. If I am at a party and I enjoy the company I am with, casual play that touches the maso need will relieve anxiety for me..but it also is something I find arousing. I guess I cannot get a dual rush when taking care of things on my own. If I am playing at a party I will feel arousal, or it is just boring the heck out of me. It is amazing how fast I can slip my out of handcuffs when play is doing nothing for me.

In D/s.. I am connected, with or without play.

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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/18/2009 2:47:11 AM

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BDSM is extremely sexy between us, and if we have been playing at it for a while it sure is nice to have some intercourse too... though i could kneel happily for another and take his shoes off without immediately needing to get fucked by this person

i think dancing is extremely sexy too and when i am on the floor giving myself over to which everman leads me... oh yummy... sometimes it is like having sex and it sends me to subspace and all...

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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/18/2009 10:21:28 AM

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Can't do "Casual" anymore, not in a lot of years.
Not Play, Not Sex, there has to be some deeper connection on some level to even spark my interest.

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RE: BDSM, sexual or not? - 11/18/2009 12:29:47 PM

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D/S is sexual to me, but goes deeper than that as well. I get a thrill of delight from every command, every order, every word of praise for a job well done. It does thrill me sexually, but it also touches innocent and profoundly spiritual parts of me as well. In obeying Master, I feel a true rightness, I know deeply that I am a good woman. The closest thing I can equate it to is the thrill of initial seduction, the joy of validation as your affections are found to be reciprocated, only with D/S it does not fade, or diminish, instead it grows and matures. It is like falling in love more deeply, as the days go by.

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