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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/16/2009 7:33:17 PM

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When playing, at an open play party, for the first time with a new girl, do you discuss what toys you're going to use? her limits? a safeword? Do you review the safeword from the Dungeon Master and use them as well as recognize that if a safeword is used all play stops, if that is the rule of the DM? Do you hold back and find a comfort zone for you and watch her body language or bring her up to going all out?

Are you comfortable with another D or s playing with your partner, if they inform you they'd like to play with that person?

At any play party, what toys are being used is always discussed unless it is toys which I've played with prior.

Both limits of the sub and the dom are discussed before any play happens.

If it is a top I've played with before, a safeword is rarely used as that top/dom frequently checks to see how I am doing. That is MY opportunity to speak up and state if I need to either slow down for a bit or stop. If I play with a dom for the first time, we do discuss a safeword just in case it is needed. Neither myself or the dom solely rely on a DM to ensure our playing falls within aceptable limits. They are also busy watching others and it is my responsibility as well as the top's to determine if the play continues or it needs to end.

It's my opinion that the success of a play scene is from both the Dom and the sub being in sync and playing with the energy between them. It is the interaction between the Dom and the sub which determines the nature of the play. When the energy is good then that dictates the intensity and duration of the scene.

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 4:11:12 AM

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I think if I were to play in public with someone else, which would never happen, I would only want my toys used on me. I don't like the idea of this sweat and cum covered crop going from the blonde in the other room, to me, to the redhead on the cross. I don't feel it's that safe, although I don't know about disease transmission on leather, but it just squicks me no end.

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 11:02:11 AM

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breatheasone; I am amazed that you'd find a flame necessary and of course you couldn't be far more incorrect. Many new people do read these posts and I've seen these questions on at least 2 other sites, so just bought them up for discussion. It would appear your personal desire to 'jump to conclusions' is indicative of who is really a D here and who needs some work. I don't flame anyone nor was this posted as a personal affront to question, if you take a moment to read them, they are open-ended, so perhaps reading is a little required as well.

Have some class, knowledge and respect before you jump to wrong conclusions without any knowledge and flame anyone. Your post certainly wasn't indicative of anyone I'd refer to as a D, worthy of My respect. Doesn't feel good does it? A lesson learned.

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 11:04:20 AM

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You are certainly free to interpret the post i made in anyway you wish.

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 11:18:22 AM

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breatheasone; I am amazed that you'd find a flame necessary and of course you couldn't be far more incorrect. Many new people do read these posts and I've seen these questions on at least 2 other sites, so just bought them up for discussion. It would appear your personal desire to 'jump to conclusions' is indicative of who is really a D here and who needs some work. I don't flame anyone nor was this posted as a personal affront to question, if you take a moment to read them, they are open-ended, so perhaps reading is a little required as well.

Have some class, knowledge and respect before you jump to wrong conclusions without any knowledge and flame anyone. Your post certainly wasn't indicative of anyone I'd refer to as a D, worthy of My respect. Doesn't feel good does it? A lesson learned.

Breathasone (in pink) is not a dominant. Just an aside. Keep in mind that anyone can post in any section on these boards regardless of orientation.

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 12:13:16 PM

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I'm tellin' ya. The patented "I gotta go" dance is much safer.

Doesn't it get confused with "yellow"?

*snickers* Only half the time.

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 12:14:40 PM

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MTCell, absolutely yes to all of the above. To be honest, it kind of alarms me that you needed to ask these questions. Does the "s" type you are playing with know you are this inexperienced? Perhaps talking FIRST and playing at least once alone the two of you, before playing in public.

I don't understand why you are alarmed at all. Plenty of experienced people start discussions similiar to these to gain perspective on how others do things and to get a discussion going. He may have withheld his own experiences to try and keep things neutral so people weren't responding to how he does things but answering as to how they do.

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 1:56:49 PM

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I don't understand why you are alarmed at all. Plenty of experienced people start discussions similiar to these to gain perspective on how others do things and to get a discussion going. He may have withheld his own experiences to try and keep things neutral so people weren't responding to how he does things but answering as to how they do.

Yeah right-on, good point.

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 3:16:27 PM

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I'm tellin' ya. The patented "I gotta go" dance is much safer.

Doesn't it get confused with "yellow"?

*snickers* Only half the time.

*snort* too funny!

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RE: Setting the limits! - 11/17/2009 5:52:25 PM

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