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Wolf2Bear -> RE: Setting the limits! (11/16/2009 7:33:17 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MTCell
When playing, at an open play party, for the first time with a new girl, do you discuss what toys you're going to use? her limits? a safeword? Do you review the safeword from the Dungeon Master and use them as well as recognize that if a safeword is used all play stops, if that is the rule of the DM? Do you hold back and find a comfort zone for you and watch her body language or bring her up to going all out?
Are you comfortable with another D or s playing with your partner, if they inform you they'd like to play with that person?
At any play party, what toys are being used is always discussed unless it is toys which I've played with prior.
Both limits of the sub and the dom are discussed before any play happens.
If it is a top I've played with before, a safeword is rarely used as that top/dom frequently checks to see how I am doing. That is MY opportunity to speak up and state if I need to either slow down for a bit or stop. If I play with a dom for the first time, we do discuss a safeword just in case it is needed. Neither myself or the dom solely rely on a DM to ensure our playing falls within aceptable limits. They are also busy watching others and it is my responsibility as well as the top's to determine if the play continues or it needs to end.
It's my opinion that the success of a play scene is from both the Dom and the sub being in sync and playing with the energy between them. It is the interaction between the Dom and the sub which determines the nature of the play. When the energy is good then that dictates the intensity and duration of the scene.
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