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MagiksSlave -> Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 1:10:30 PM)
Okay, I have a question to ask. Doms would you take on a sub with a demanding job knowing that it most likely means they have less time and energy to serve you? Subs same question in reverse, would you consider a Dom with a demanding job knowing that it meant he would be taking and not really giving? Submissives with demanding jobs may not be able to serve whenever wanted and Doms with demanding jobs will want more service, since their job is demanding they may want and demand more of their sub yet be, in some cases, unable to do all the Domly things. I could see this becoming a problem in any relationship really. What are your thoughts? Magik

Mercnbeth -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 1:35:06 PM)
quote: ...Doms would you take on a sub with a demanding job knowing that it most likely means they have less time and energy to serve you?... one of Master's requirements for His slave was that she have only one very demanding job---serving Him. an involvement with a part-time submissive, however, He might not have the same requirement for. quote: ...Subs same question in reverse, would you consider a Dom with a demanding job knowing that it meant he would be taking and not really giving?... His job(s) are demanding, but this slave didn't sign up with a give/take score card in hand. this slave had no idea how mentally and emotionally exhausting a job it is for a person to be responsible for their elderly parents, but it doesn't negatively effect this slave's perception of our relationship that He does that job, in addition to His week-day job at the office, running a company. but then, this slave's a giver.[:)]

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 1:42:37 PM)
Does this rule out blow "jobs", as they can be quite "demanding", for some?!! [;)]

mmsprecious -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 1:52:40 PM)
For us, Master often extends His expectations of me to my job. Doing my job well IS service to Him in its own way. While sometimes we have less time because of our jobs, we are both proud of each other and our accomplishments.

agirl -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 1:54:44 PM)
Considering my owner has not only a job, but a demanding one ......... he still is by FAR and away the biggest giver. He certainly doesn't expect more service just because his life and responsibilitues differ from mine. I don't do* paidwork, but my life is stll valued...It's not that I can't* serve ......... he wouldn't ask anything of me that I couldn't produce. This is one of the reasons that I asked What does service mean. Neither of us can just drop everything and run off for no good reason. I'd never expect it of him and he'd certainly never expect it of me. We have stuff to take care of. It's different stuff but it's still important to each of us. Isn't it about appreciating the various responsibilities each has, understanding them and also understanding the different personalities involved?. Isn;t it about being realistic and knowing what you took on in the first place? agirl

AquaticSub -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 2:53:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave Okay, I have a question to ask. Doms would you take on a sub with a demanding job knowing that it most likely means they have less time and energy to serve you? Subs same question in reverse, would you consider a Dom with a demanding job knowing that it meant he would be taking and not really giving? Submissives with demanding jobs may not be able to serve whenever wanted and Doms with demanding jobs will want more service, since their job is demanding they may want and demand more of their sub yet be, in some cases, unable to do all the Domly things. I could see this becoming a problem in any relationship really. What are your thoughts? Magik Hey hon! It would depend on the situation honestly. I know that Val would take on a submissive with a demanding job if she were the right girl for him. Several of the jobs I would like to take on would more or less determine our schedule for us but he is still encouraging me to take them because they would make me happy. At the same time, I know I would take on being with a dom with a demanding job if we could make it work for us. :-)

leadership527 -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 3:00:58 PM)
I dont' think this question has a boolean answer to it. I like it that Carol has a wide variety of interests beyond me... in fact I cultivate that. Taken too far, however, I could see it as getting beyond what I would like/allow/approve. For instance, I doubt I'd marry an airline pilot who had to be gone 3 weeks out of every 4. Like everything else, I'd have to evaluate her job as a part of the package deal and see what I could make of it.

missannabellee -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 3:23:53 PM)
I only know this realm from my clients- and there are a lot of men who are in high stress, high power, demanding positions who have an aching need to be in a relationship where they get away from that and totally let someone else control the power dynamic. Bravo to a woman who can understand that and take complete charge domestically, while allowing their slave to do what he does best during the 9 to 5.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 3:45:59 PM)
I think he'd be ecstatic if I had a demanding job. It would mean that my business is successful. He is realistic about life and how it impacts a relationship. He knows I would just have to get up at 2 in the morning to do his laundry. 8) Seriously though... the things I do for him have become routine in my day and I don't think it would be difficult to incorporate them in other ways to fit around a work schedule.

MagiksSlave -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 3:51:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 I think he'd be ecstatic if I had a demanding job. It would mean that my business is successful. He is realistic about life and how it impacts a relationship. He knows I would just have to get up at 2 in the morning to do his laundry. 8) Seriously though... the things I do for him have become routine in my day and I don't think it would be difficult to incorporate them in other ways to fit around a work schedule. I have the opposite problem... trying to make time to fit a SO in with my busy schedual, I feel like, no matter how much I want a relationship right now, I just dont have time and I hate that!! Magik

Aileen1968 -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 3:55:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 I dont' think this question has a boolean answer to it. Holy Fuck. Looks like I was dead wrong when I told my algebra teacher, "I'm never gonna need this crap."

antipode -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 5:19:46 PM)
quote: What are your thoughts? Applies to any kind of relationship, not specifically to BDSM. Why do you ask? I don't mind answering questions, but I do like two way traffic.

breatheasone -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 5:22:59 PM)
Watching ..... but leary to comment. i'm not sure i'd be very objective...So i have learned when thats the case, i shut up and listen.

littlewonder -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 6:01:09 PM)
Master has a demanding life. While it's definitely not something I was looking for, it did happen and I've learned to accept it and we find ways to deal with it. When you really want to be with someone you learn that life isn't always how you plan it. You weither learn to accept or move on.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 6:09:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave Okay, I have a question to ask. Doms would you take on a sub with a demanding job knowing that it most likely means they have less time and energy to serve you? Subs same question in reverse, would you consider a Dom with a demanding job knowing that it meant he would be taking and not really giving? Submissives with demanding jobs may not be able to serve whenever wanted and Doms with demanding jobs will want more service, since their job is demanding they may want and demand more of their sub yet be, in some cases, unable to do all the Domly things. I could see this becoming a problem in any relationship really. What are your thoughts? Magik In certain cases I would take on a slave with a demanding job. It can be a good thing, for someone like me who also has a demanding job, with little true leisure time. Who wants a sub pining away for you while you are gone for days, weeks, months, etc. at a time? Then again, it is nice for someone like me to have a sub who has time to take on those chores that I really don't have much time for. Keeping a home can be a job in itself. Which would I rather have? That depends on my circumstance.

LadyPact -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 6:18:20 PM)
My boy is a medic/nurse in the military. That seems pretty demanding to Me.

MaamJay -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/12/2009 7:14:01 PM)
i'm the one with the more demanding "job" at the moment, though as i work from our mobile home mostly, it's not a cause for separation unless i get bitten by the creative bug and work through the night. However, the propensity for me to do that, is something we factored in to this decision for me to start a PhD while we are travelling. He understands that this means time when i have to work away in my office instead of being out sight-seeing. He needs to have His own hobbies and interests to keep Him amused. Generally we work it out pretty well. Overall, it's about the package deal as someone else said. I'm looking for a sub, and whilst I'd prefer one who worked outside the home in some capacity, I'd prefer one who comes home every night, so I'm unlikely to consider someone in the military or the mines who operate on a fly in fly out system. But if the right package came along ... and I could see a long term bonus for short term pain ... I'd consider it! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

MagiksSlave -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/13/2009 5:08:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: What are your thoughts? Applies to any kind of relationship, not specifically to BDSM. Why do you ask? I don't mind answering questions, but I do like two way traffic. I ask because, well I have a highly demanding, stressfull and draining job that I happen to love and am unwilling to give up but I know that it has the propencity to OFTEN take me out of commission as I am too tired to do anything but snuggle up and I often come home sore or injured and need of care myself!! Thats not even figuring in all the hours I put in and the work that often gets brought home with me. Magik

breatheasone -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/13/2009 5:24:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: What are your thoughts? Applies to any kind of relationship, not specifically to BDSM. Why do you ask? I don't mind answering questions, but I do like two way traffic. I ask because, well I have a highly demanding, stressfull and draining job that I happen to love and am unwilling to give up but I know that it has the propencity to OFTEN take me out of commission as I am too tired to do anything but snuggle up and I often come home sore or injured and need of care myself!! Thats not even figuring in all the hours I put in and the work that often gets brought home with me. Magik Its VERY thoughtful and kind and all kinds of other really great words i can't think of right now, that you realize this. Imho, its very selfish, and even cruel to get into a relationship you don't have time for. You are to be applauded Magik!

Level -> RE: Demanding Jobs (11/13/2009 5:39:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave quote: ORIGINAL: antipode quote: What are your thoughts? Applies to any kind of relationship, not specifically to BDSM. Why do you ask? I don't mind answering questions, but I do like two way traffic. I ask because, well I have a highly demanding, stressfull and draining job that I happen to love and am unwilling to give up but I know that it has the propencity to OFTEN take me out of commission as I am too tired to do anything but snuggle up and I often come home sore or injured and need of care myself!! Thats not even figuring in all the hours I put in and the work that often gets brought home with me. Magik Sore and injured....... hmmmmm........bull rider? Kung Fu fighter?? Hmmm...... Yes, I'd have someone with a demanding job, as long as they could meet basic requirements.

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