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newneedexp -> Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/8/2009 3:00:44 PM)
Ok so first off thank you for looking at this post and let me get right down to it. I am a 25 year old male living in Charlotte, NC and I want to know if anyone has seen or is a woman like this. I’m looking to either just have someone confirm that I can actually find a woman like this or hopefully have a woman like this either give me some tips or introduce herself. I have been looking for a woman like this for a while and have decided that hopefully this post will put me out there a little more and one step closer to meeting a great woman with these qualities. I am looking to meet a woman that’s around my age and has a personality upbeat and like mine, good education, and is willing to give me a shot with some e-mails and go from there. I want a woman gamer that I can share my hobby with and have just a great time doing stuff together, either it be dating or what not. Now the problem is that there are something I really want from a woman and they are of course sexual. I have always loved the look of a woman in outfits and latex, its my major fetish and I love to buy outfits for the women I am with. Outfits for me are cosplay such as sailor moon and I love to see a woman dress up for me. Bondage, role-play, and many other things I enjoy doing with my partner but I have never been able to really find a woman that likes both my hobbies and my fetishes and this has caused more problems than I ever thought possible. I lost my last girlfriend about 9 months ago because she loved to be tied up but hated latex and did not accept or understand my cosplay fetish. I know this is basic but I am really just looking for some feedback and hoping that I can find a woman like this. So give me some feedback if you got. If you’re a woman like this give me a shout here or an e-mail.

DesFIP -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/8/2009 3:41:42 PM)
Maybe it would be easier to look in the cosplay community for someone who was adventurous sexually than here. But if you're going to want her to indulge your fetishes: latex, gaming, cosplay etc - what does she get out of it? Because you're approaching this from a very selfish angle. "You must do all this for me" without thinking about any kind of compromise or trade. What if someone liked cosplay and bondage but was allergic to latex? Going to kick them to the curb no matter how well you otherwise get along? What if she wants to be a furry but that's a turn off for you? Either you both get your needs met or you don't have a relationship. You can't build a relationship on your fetishes. If you want the fetishes indulged more than you want a relationship, then go see a prodomme. If you want a relationship then focus on that and compromise on how often or when you do the other stuff.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/8/2009 4:43:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Maybe it would be easier to look in the cosplay community for someone who was adventurous sexually than here. But if you're going to want her to indulge your fetishes: latex, gaming, cosplay etc - what does she get out of it? Because you're approaching this from a very selfish angle. "You must do all this for me" without thinking about any kind of compromise or trade. What if someone liked cosplay and bondage but was allergic to latex? Going to kick them to the curb no matter how well you otherwise get along? What if she wants to be a furry but that's a turn off for you? Either you both get your needs met or you don't have a relationship. You can't build a relationship on your fetishes. If you want the fetishes indulged more than you want a relationship, then go see a prodomme. If you want a relationship then focus on that and compromise on how often or when you do the other stuff. [sm=agree.gif][sm=goodpost.gif]

AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/8/2009 6:47:08 PM)
Hi. Most of the Mistresses I am friends with love wearing latex pvc and costumes so I don't see why you can't find a woman into that. Didn't you go out on Halloween and look for women wearing latex? Latex and costumes are important to you so start with that fetish and the other interests might be easier to find. Hope this helps.

AquaticSub -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/8/2009 6:58:12 PM)
First off, I love your username. Second, where are you looking and how are you approaching women? I'm in Greensboro and LOVE cosplay. Granted, I stay away from anime and manga and focus on DC/Marvel for the most part but it's a huge thing for me. Not really a fetish... meh. Have you tried hitting up the TNG groups or any of the munches? I think if you get active in the local community you'll have some good results.

newneedexp -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/8/2009 8:33:39 PM)
Ok I have to answer these with first saying that I completely agree with you DesFIP. I would never expect someone to indulge my fantasies with reciprocating and making these come true as well. If they had an allergy or problem with latex I would never expect them or force them to wear Latex. I think you misunderstood what I was asking about this post, I was saying I would like to find a woman interested in these fetishes and hobbies or get advice as to where I might have better luck. I can see why it looks like I am being a selfish a** but understand that was not my intention. Having a 2nd to your post only confirms to me that I did indeed mess up and I needed to word my question better. My interest is to find some help or find a woman interested in these things and start a conversation, if she has fetishes such as furry or anything I would be glad to talk to her about it and see if we had any interest in talking to each other. I already have 100 + views on this post and only 4 responses…crap I should have worded this better. Thanks AquaticSub for the feedback, hopefully I will get more.

AnimusRex -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/8/2009 8:54:20 PM)
I agree with most of the comments here. My add is twofold- One, you may have to accept that no one woman may ever be able to match all your qualities. It may be a large scale item like she wants children before 30 and you don't; or small scale things like you want her to dress as Sailor Moon and she wants to dress like Sailor Moon's arch-enemy. When your list of fetishes is long or extremely detailed, your pool of candidates grows extremely small- maybe to the point where there is one, and only one person who fits that list, and she has genital warts and lives on the Isle of Man. Secondly, and maybe more importantly- Accepting someone who may challenge or contradict our list of demands is a good thing. There is a wonderful broadening of our souls when we encounter, understand, and accept another person who is different than us. You might discover something that you love, and yet never new existed- or come to love something new simply because of what it is like when done by a person you love. Even when our loved one doesn't share our passion for a certain hobby, we learn how to pursue it alone and enjoy our times of solitude, knowing she is waiting for us when we want to share other things. Bottom line? Seek out a person who you admire and enjoy being around, first and foremost. Your sexual fetishes will wax and wane and evolve over time, but a true soulmate- those are more rare than a Sailor Moon latex fetishist who knows what the hell cosplay means. BTW I have not one fucking idea who Sailor Moon is or if she even has an archenemy- I gather this is a Japanese comic book thing. But you get my drift.

AquaticSub -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/8/2009 9:04:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AnimusRex those are more rare than a Sailor Moon latex fetishist who knows what the hell cosplay means. Pstt... it means costume play. It's basically super geeks who go out in public dressed up like Batman, Lord of the Rings characters, Indiana Jones and other such figures. It's fun as long as you don't hung up on the fact that it's adults playing dress-up. [:D]

NihilusZero -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/9/2009 12:12:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub Pstt... it means costume play. It's basically super geeks who go out in public dressed up like Batman, Lord of the Rings characters, Indiana Jones and other such figures. It's fun as long as you don't hung up on the fact that it's adults playing dress-up. [:D] Or cute anime kittie-girls. ...just saying... ...

mydestiny2043 -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/9/2009 2:17:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NihilusZero quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub Pstt... it means costume play. It's basically super geeks who go out in public dressed up like Batman, Lord of the Rings characters, Indiana Jones and other such figures. It's fun as long as you don't hung up on the fact that it's adults playing dress-up. [:D] Or cute anime kittie-girls. ...just saying... 8 points[8D]......................................[sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif]I just had to do that for some reason[sm=imsorry.gif],no disrespect intended[:)][:)].

newneedexp -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/10/2009 2:21:59 PM)
260+ posts and so few replies? Anyone else wish to chime in with there 2 cets possibly?

AquaticSub -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/10/2009 2:25:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mydestiny2043 quote: ORIGINAL: NihilusZero quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub Pstt... it means costume play. It's basically super geeks who go out in public dressed up like Batman, Lord of the Rings characters, Indiana Jones and other such figures. It's fun as long as you don't hung up on the fact that it's adults playing dress-up. [:D] Or cute anime kittie-girls. ...just saying... 8 points[8D]......................................[sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif]I just had to do that for some reason[sm=imsorry.gif],no disrespect intended[:)][:)]. Eh... I don't really consider the cat-girls to be cosplaying unless they are portraying a specific catgirl from a show/movie/manga. Kinda like how I wasn't cosplaying when I was just wandering around a con in a corset and pasties but people still wanted to take my picture. It's awesome and fun but I've always heard cosplay defined as dressing up as a specific person so that's how it's defined in my head. [:)] Edited cause I can't friggin' type today

RedMagic1 -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/10/2009 2:30:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub super geeks who go out in public dressed up like Batman, Lord of the Rings characters, I http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DoP3C76ioTU And, Ms. Aqua!!!!! I step away from the computer and not only do you post your HOTTEST PICTURE EVER but you are now a newlywed!!!! Congratulations.

AquaticSub -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/10/2009 2:30:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: newneedexp 260+ posts and so few replies? Anyone else wish to chime in with there 2 cets possibly? People probably aren't responding because, after checking, they realize they don't have anything to add or what they would have said has already been covered.

newneedexp -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/10/2009 7:11:05 PM)
Ahhh very true, lol your so helpful Mrs. Aqua your significant other is very lucky. Thanks all who replied to my questions and if anyone has a view or a thought feel free to post its not going to hurt anyone.

Hierodule -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/11/2009 12:46:13 PM)
Join fetlife,if you haven't already. Then join the discussion group for your local TNG. Post a little, get to know people. Then start a thread like "hey anyone into cos play?" Don't make it a "i need a girl who is into cos play" thread, just a general talk on cos play. Have a conversation about it with everyone who responds, even the guys. I'm sure at least one girl will respond. VIOLA! you have found people both into BDSM and cos play. Next step? Go to the TNG munch dressed as Vampire Hunter D and watch the honies fall at your feet! ;-)

AquaticSub -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/11/2009 12:47:47 PM)
Oh that reminds me - Fetlife has a group for "kinky and geeky". It's a pretty fun group and that might help you out too!

Hierodule -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/11/2009 12:59:11 PM)
oh yeah, TOTES!

newneedexp -> RE: Please read these looking for some help or advice (11/11/2009 6:31:04 PM)
Sweet thank you for the fetlife info.

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