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TemptingEve -> RE: Open and honest relationship with threesome (11/10/2009 3:28:06 PM)
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As someone who has had a few couples contact me about such situations, I thought it might be appropriate to give an opinion from the "third's" pov. When you have the Dom of the situation contacting you, and telling you that he is sharing all of the conversations and information exhanged with his partner, why would the third person have any reason not to believe him? In my situation, both of the couples I've spoken with (but never actually met) initiated the contact with me themselves even tho my profile clearly stated that that wasn't what I was here looking for. But I was interested in them and wanted to get to know them - both partners in both couples. In both of the situations, the men seemed to be the ones who were directing the search for the "third" as well as getting to know the third before bringing his partner into the mix. In both cases, it was the man who was doing this for their partners, wanting to find the right woman for her to play with to make her happy, and not for some malicious reason (not that I knew of at least). As a sub, I had no reason to question any of thin is. So I guess my advice to the OP would be that you should make it cleear from day one, when you are getting to know someone, that you expect equal communication with you as well as your Sir. Also, since you are the ones who are searching, perhaps you should take a more proactive role in getting to know the third. It's quite possible that she felt as I did - that the man was sharing everything with his partner. I even questioned this and was assured that the communication we were having was absolutely fine with the partners and all information was being shared. As the potential third, I did not feel comfortable initiating contact with the women or being too pushy. I felt that if the women were interested in me after they learned about me from their Sirs, they would contact me. Perhaps I was totally wrong in thinking that way, I'm not sure. In any event, all I can say is my intentions were completely good with both of these couples that I communicated with. I would also say that you might want to discuss this with your Sir and set some rules for finding your next potential third - maybe he will allow you to be the one who does the searching instead.
Ok everyone, please be kind..it is my first post, and yes my profile is not here. I removed it some time ago because of some of the unbelievable (and quite frankly rude & disgusting) emails I was receiving. I have made a few friends here that I correspond with and do enjoy these message boards immensely so I still frequent the site. And thank you all for all the wonderful information I've found here over the last few months. As someone new to this all, these boards have been incredibly helpful.
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