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lucylucy -> RE: Others and comfort (10/27/2009 9:44:03 PM)
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I’m assuming you trust him and believe him when he says you are his “primary,” whatever that means to the two of you. It seems to me that just because you can do something, like “exercise turf law,” which I assume has a particular meaning to you and him that you have discussed at length, doesn’t mean you should do something.
Why should he be happy? He wanted her to come over and play, you said no to the playing. What you did was within your rights, according to what it sounds like you and he agreed upon, but that doesn’t necessitate that he will be happy about it.
If you had said yes to her coming over and playing, he’d be happy, she’d be happy, and you’d be miserable. As it is, all three of you are probably miserable. You can’t change his loving her by not allowing them to play. If he loves her, he loves her—simple as that. You cannot control that, no way, no how.
It sounds like a confusing situation that needs to be discussed with him (and possibly her) at length.
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