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GoddessImaginos -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/25/2009 9:47:51 PM)

i am a mother of sons, though none of them so placed in his life as to have this particular fret - but i, like the rest of these good people, have your back. Blessed Be*~



FelineFae -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/25/2009 10:39:31 PM)

There is danger in everyone's life, your son is lucky enough to know what form it will most likely present itself. Trust in him.

The biggest thing you really have to fear is explaining to him why talking about sand-fleas is not appropriate conversation for the dinner table.

*hugs*

It'll be okay. Every day that passes in heart ache means that you are a day closer to his return. i'm sorry for the hurt that you will feel, but be glad your feel such hurt because it only bares testiment to how much you love him.



sirsholly -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 4:09:52 AM)

All the parenting books tell us that we have to let them spread their wings and take flight. But what the books fail to say is they take our hearts with them as they soar...and the little ingrates don't give it back!!

The only love stronger then that of a mother is the love of God. I pray for your strength as well as his safety.



VirginPotty -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 6:07:45 AM)

***Ammended to reply to the correct poster***



VirginPotty -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 6:53:10 AM)

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He will be a very well taken care of young man, they will prolly even get girls flown in to suck his cock every weekend


That's probably the most out of line/insensitive statement I've ever seen you make & you've made alot.  Do you talk that way to all parent's or are you just going for the shock value?  Do you really think she needs to hear that right now or do you even care?



mnottertail -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 7:08:44 AM)


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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

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He will be a very well taken care of young man, they will prolly even get girls flown in to suck his cock every weekend


That's probably the most out of line/insensitive statement I've ever seen you make & you've made alot.  Do you talk that way to all parent's or are you just going for the shock value?  Do you really think she needs to hear that right now or do you even care?



So, you find that insensitive.....too fuckin bad really. I do care, and a cryptogeek will be safer in afghanistan than his mother is gonna be in the united states and that is a fuckin FACT. He will be ensconsed with the most advanced crypto equipment in the world, in a heavily fortified barracks that will be protected from the air with a large force (and is gonna be pretty near the airport) a large ground force and heavily guarded, and if there is even a drop of water in the sink, a navy patrolling for miles around it. Cryptogeeks are not let loose among the general population (think about it), so he will be wined and dined and sleep in fine style in a fashionable but thick reinforced concrete structure...... the full force of america will not allow capture or destruction of the equipment or manpower of our secure transmissions throughout the world, washington, joint chiefs and president, local CINCs, London at downing street, Kabul and so on


now you can girlie touchie feelie and swoon, but I know something about this, and his biggest risks (in and out of that shithole) are:

1. He gets caught fuckin the generals daughter and his dick gets cut off.
(Oh yeah, it is so secure that the CINC Afghanistan may have his family come and visit him there.......been done before).
2. His mom says how frightened she is for him in an email and he spews coffee all over his keyboard shorting it and electrocuting himself.
3. STDs
4. A bad liver from lots of good liqour


Why should I tell her it is good to cry and worry? She should worry MORE about the kids she has at home, they are the ones at risk, comparatively speaking.

Ron



sirsholly -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 7:16:06 AM)

Ron...as a mom of a son i can in a very tiny way put myself in hejira'a shoes, and it is a sickening feeling. Nothing you are saying is appropriate right now. Please stop.



mnottertail -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 7:25:20 AM)

the truth is inappropriate.

ok, cause you asked.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 8:14:49 AM)

Knowing that he volunteered, should really help. Focus on that. He's going to where he's needed most. To where his skills, training and talent will be best utilized according to his wishes.

No one joins the Marines to stay home. Marines are warfighters- first in. He knew this when he joined. He volunteered. Be proud of him, for being so brave and honorable.

You've got to learn to do some thought control, and redirection. Also it helps to stay really busy. Get involved in the Family Readiness Group (that's Army terminology- not sure what the Marines call it but they must have it too)of his unit, to stay connected with the other families, and to help him and his Company with whatever you can do stateside for them. Get involved!



sunshinemiss -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 8:40:04 AM)

Darling hejira,
It is hard of course when the ones we love are far away and in harm's way to some extent.  My nephew was over there 4 times and I have another nephew over there.

Ron has a point.  Your son will be well protected.  Now is the time for you to do all you can and then let it go.  Find a way to get settled with this and then make a commitment to write him (real letters are amazingly popular - especially if cookies come with it... there's a good way to send them. Catch me on the other side if you want to hear).  Hand written letters take time and they are a joy to receive... and it can be calming.

Hugs and stuff,





mnottertail -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 8:41:35 AM)

real letters are amazingly popular .............

and they are read, again, and again, and again, and again, and again.

R



sirsholly -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 8:43:20 AM)

and pictures...of anything and everything they associate with home, family, friends, etc.



GreedyTop -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 8:55:26 AM)

CDs of favorite music.. cookies.  silly little gifts (like those stupid toys they vend outta 'gumball machines'?.. silly stuff that wont take up a lot of space)



sunshinemiss -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 8:59:25 AM)

But no porn!  Seriously.... nothing that you wouldn't want your mom to see.

hugs and stuff.



purepleasure -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 9:24:06 AM)

along the lines of the no porn... you might want to contact the ombudsman as to what items are not permitted.  No matter how lavishly he's treated, contraband is contraband.  But, feel free to send Ron the porn.  <grin>



MasterMaceWindu -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 9:27:04 AM)

Cryptologic OPS have the tightest security and the greatest buffer any brass can ensure, so rest a little easier knowing that is in his favor... however that may be little consolation given the fact that he will still be thousands of miles away and you will have little or no news unless he is allowed to send you a postcard every now and then... I empathize with you, as a mothers son myself and gives you warm hugs of comfort and reassurance that I hope help to soothe the moments of doubt and despair that you will experience.



LadyPact -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 9:42:30 AM)

I did want to stop by on this thread again and thank DrkJourney for her kind words.  It kind of goes with what I was saying, too.  You find support in a lot of places.  CM itself has been rather good for that in a lot of ways.  Not only are there some good connections and resources here, a lot of people too numerous to mention are supportive.  There are some folks out there who will just drop you a note to say hi or make you smile.  Believe it or not, that stuff really helps.

I know you already do this part, but spending some time even just reading the P & S section on a bad day will do you wonders.  When MP was in Korea, that did Me a lot of good.  It helps while clip is gone, too.

Oh, and don't be too hard on Ron there.  From the sound of it, he's going to be pretty far back and that's a good thing.  Anybody around really expensive equipment is usually in a pretty good place and well protected.  That's a positive.

All of the rest from everyone was good advice, too, so keep all of those things in mind.  They came from good supportive people.  Remember they are there when you need them.  Going crazy or not.







everhope -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 10:25:12 AM)

speaking as a mother of two sons...i can relate to hejira's feelings.
also having a Master, who has a sharp, sick sense of humor much like Ron's...i know, if i were in hejira's place ..he would laugh me out of my place of worry.
in my opinion....what Ron said was funny, realistic and simply facts.

girls like candy coatings. i appreciate the fact that some men don't know how to do that. 



everhope -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 10:33:47 AM)

Dearest hejira,

big hugs enfolding you.
you will worry..you are a mother.
you might take some of these good suggestions because you are a bright one.
i like seeing the people who are going through the same thing with a loved one reach out to you.
you are blessed with those that love and support you.

in motherhood,
brenda




porcelaine -> RE: I don't know how to handle this. (10/26/2009 11:09:33 AM)

i'm so sorry that you're hurting. words and well wishes will never replace the parental concerns and desire to have your child safe. it is my sincerest hope that the time passes quickly and you remain in the company of those that can soothe the ache and keep your spirits high while he's away. you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

porcelaine



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