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Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/17/2009 6:33:25 PM

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While I do not want to derail this entire site I have been wondering recently as to how this intersection of life exists on this site. As far as I know I have never met a person whom was hermaphrodite and would be happy to open a discussion or two.

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/17/2009 7:26:41 PM

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There are intersexed people on this site. You can probably search the term on the other side and locate some of them. By the way, most prefer the term intersexed to the old term hermaphrodite. Many blend into society by picking a gender and dressing to match. Others do not feel the need to fit in as one gender or the other.

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/17/2009 10:37:33 PM

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I am curious as to why you think this topic would "derail the entire site".

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/17/2009 10:44:29 PM

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Plenty of them here I'd say. Both if you're talking about the trans-sexual community (I'm not saying you are, but a lot of times they're erroneously considered one in the same), and true, biologically born hermaphrodites. I know a couple on here that I also know in person who were literally born hermaphrodites (born with both sets of plumbing).

As far as them being open to discussing it or bring it out into the public at large, I couldn't say, that's up to them. But I have found that if they're comfortable with the people around, they have no issue discussing it. If they're not, then, well... why would they discuss it. But that's entirely their call, and that's not speaking for every single trans and/or hermaphrodite out there. All comes down to the individual in the end I guess.

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/17/2009 11:30:31 PM

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I know of one member, and I shall not give her name out of respect.

She was born in Canada and as a baby they "decided" it was a boy. This backfired when he got older and grew a nice set of boobs. This person has had many problems in her life, and has explained that gender is more in the mind than the body. We had a very interesting discussion to say the least, and to maintain privacy I can reveal very little of it.

She also let me know something. In the past I got a bit interested in the subject, had a video. I now have it on PC and could share it on P2P or send it out in parts via email. Two nice looking Women, but when the clothes come off, it becomes clear they have penis', and yes they did fuck each other at the same time. I mean really, up until I saw that I was really thinking "Why don't they just....", and they did !

I can't say for sure, but I think it was a blast for both of them.

Public opinion ranges from "Yick" to "Why couldn't I be born like that ?". In the late seventies/early eighties the incidence was one in three hundred thousand, but now is down to one in about fifty thousand.

These people do not have an easy life. I myself have had a taste of that because I am a shrinker, or more politely put a grower not a shower. The locker room, gym class, all total hell. But I came through somehow. In a way I might be like they, those who are different. I have also been busted and searched by the cops while wearing a chastity device. Luckily that happened when I was much older, imagine a kid having to go through anything like that. I have a very strong mind and a very strong and effective support from family and friends. I can handle shit like this now.

But when one is young sometimes they don't know it, don't see it, or know how to use it, and that's if they have it. Where I come from sticks and stones might break my bones, but just wait MF, your time will come. Words cannot hurt me. The way I was raised was instrumental to my emotional survival, but not everyone has that, and I know that now.

Just to give you an idea, remember those movies, Naked Gun maybe, something like that with OJ Simpson and Leslie Nielson ? "And don't call me Shirley:. Those movies. The chick with the dick wanted him real bad and they went to a room, once she revealed herself to him he puked all over the place. Yes everybody had a good laugh, but I thought, what the hell was she thinking at the time ? \

Can you imagine that happening to you ? A guy pukes once you pull your panties down. That would really suck the big one wouldn't it ? In my case, I would've either known already, or just said "I can't do this". I would be as polite as possible, but the fact is I should have been told already.

Right now, that's my slant on it. More later maybe, but why full grown people act like fifth graders is not my fault. I know why, but it is not my fault, I didn't do it.

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/17/2009 11:56:47 PM

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There used to be a highly involved forumite who is intersexed. She no longer posts here though.

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/18/2009 1:44:41 AM

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My apologies to the community I was not aware that the term Intersexed was the currently accepted term.\

As for my concern for posting the question ... CollarMe is about S&M, Leather, BSDM, Master/slave forms of relationships. It is fundamentally not about gender or gender identity.

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/18/2009 3:05:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrPBK

My apologies to the community I was not aware that the term Intersexed was the currently accepted term.\

As for my concern for posting the question ... CollarMe is about S&M, Leather, BSDM, Master/slave forms of relationships. It is fundamentally not about gender or gender identity.

MstrPBK
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Well, yes and no. For some people, that can certainly fall into play in their bdsm dom/sub lifestyle. It's just an aspect of their lives just like any other. Some people would LOVE to have an intersexed sub or dom, or a crossdresser, or whatever, just like some people would LOVE to have a big ol hairy bear for a sub or dom (no, I'm not specifically singling out any one handsome bear here). ;)

I like to keep my pet boy in girls things more often than not, and he enjoys it as well, some people would hate that though, but it's how he identifies sometimes.

Just as every other part of what it is that we do, it's about preferences of the individuals matching up with inherent circumstances, hopefully making everyone happy in the end. :)

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/18/2009 5:48:38 AM

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I know of one member, and I shall not give her name out of respect.

She was born in Canada and as a baby they "decided" it was a boy. This backfired when he got older and grew a nice set of boobs.

I recall her as well. She was great fun; great sense of humor. I was always laughing when I read her posts. I exchanged a couple of cmails with her as well. I hope that she is alright. I miss her presence on the forums. She was also pretty.

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/18/2009 8:36:41 AM

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Yes Rule. She was quite well expressed and pretty well adjusted under the circumstance.

Addl. info. IIRC I read that many herms (for short, no offense intended) are born with testes but not a scrotum. They are like shoved in there at the sides of the vagina. This makes (female side) coitus painful for them. Not all but some.

What's more we can't just slap one label on these people, I guess some have the plumbing to have kids, others do not. This too comes in many forms.

What happened to our friend amounts to genital mutilation, and I think the incident resulted in a "no touch" law up there. But then think of it, if you are in your forties you were born in the sixties. Attitudes were different then, and though they probably thought they were doing the right thing, they fucked this girl up pretty badly.

What must have been worse was the locker room, like at school. As a shrinker I had a hard enough time, imagine this ! And you can't even bitch that people are acting like school kids because they are fucking after all,,,, school kids ! Nowhere to turn, don't want to tell anyfucking body, so now you can't even rant. Must've been one hell of a childhood, and I fully intend the pun here. It is hard enough for anyone who is considered abnormal to be accepted by adults, or supposed adults. Perhaps things have changed a bit, but sometimes I don't think so much.

Even interracial kids had problems, and it is the same thing, they were born that way, what the fuck do you expect them to do about it ? People are born with all sorts of deformities all day long. When in public a facial abnormality for example is still met with some resistance to acceptance, but that is out in the open. This one gets one right between the legs.

I wish every one of them the emotional strength to deal with it, and a black belt in karate so they can kick the hecklers and fools right in the ass, or slap them around.

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RE: Hermaphrodites and the CollarMe Comminity - 10/18/2009 8:39:05 AM

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CollarMe is about S&M, Leather, BSDM, Master/slave forms of relationships. It is fundamentally not about gender or gender identity.

You obviously have missed the rash of recent gender threads that went multiple pages with responses.

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