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leadership527 -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/17/2009 8:19:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery
Do you suppose a good slave should be a master first?
OK, on one level, I laughed at the accuracy of this answer. But then I got to thinking that there's a lot of merit in walking in the other man's shoes. Just because something is not my natural style doesn't mean that I can't do it for some period of time. Carol would certainly be able to take on my role for a period also without suffering some sort of mental breakdown. OK, granted, I'm partly saying this to be perverse. But honestly I don't think your statement is as ludicrous as it sounds at all. In fact, I spend a lot of time talking to Carol about good leadership in general. I figure if she knows how to be one herself, then she'll be able to spot one better were I to die. None of this would change our natural inclinations one iota, I just like to think of myself as flexible and adaptable.

I'm sorry, but I still believe Heinlein got it right when he said "specialization is for insects".



Musicmystery -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/17/2009 8:28:57 PM)

Well Jeff, from here we segue into the characteristics of a good leader.

One sign of a good manager, for example (and one most people get backwards), is that when he's away, everything runs smoothly without him.



ender66 -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 12:36:09 AM)

I dont think so, but me beiing a switch, I would like to get all of the bottoming I can do before I would even think of trying to have the responsibility of a master.

so no I don't think its necessary, but in some situations it could probably help.



BIGLOVENJ -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 12:52:32 AM)

Do you think a good dog has to be a cat first?



Justme696 -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 12:56:22 AM)

lol  people come with weird examples

horses and dogs can't chose to change to humans...but humans can change roles

we can look at Maradona one of the best soccer players in the world...but he sucks at leading a team. He would be a good slave..but sucks at Dominating. [:D]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diego_Maradona



kyraofMists -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 6:33:54 AM)


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

quote:

ORIGINAL: Musicmystery
Do you suppose a good slave should be a master first?
OK, on one level, I laughed at the accuracy of this answer. But then I got to thinking that there's a lot of merit in walking in the other man's shoes. Just because something is not my natural style doesn't mean that I can't do it for some period of time. Carol would certainly be able to take on my role for a period also without suffering some sort of mental breakdown. OK, granted, I'm partly saying this to be perverse. But honestly I don't think your statement is as ludicrous as it sounds at all. In fact, I spend a lot of time talking to Carol about good leadership in general. I figure if she knows how to be one herself, then she'll be able to spot one better were I to die. None of this would change our natural inclinations one iota, I just like to think of myself as flexible and adaptable.


The way I see it, there is no way for him to walk in my shoes and know what it is like to be a slave because he has no desire to transfer authority to his partner. He isn't going to know how I feel about being a slave. He isn't going to understand what challenges me, what fulfills me, what is neutral to me because he isn't a slave. Just like I cannot walk in his shoes and know what it is like to be master. Sure I can take on the role and make the decisions, but all that will show me is what it is for me, a slave in this relationship, to try and be master. Taking on that role would make me miserable and unhappy, so that sure isn't going to show me what it is like for a dominant to be master.

Through communication, he can appreciate what I get out of this relationship, how I feel and what it is like for me, but he isn't going to get that by taking on the role of slave.

In answer to the OP, no, I don't think a good master has to have been a slave first. And I don't think a good top has to have been a bottom first either.

Knight's Kyra



xssve -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 8:51:48 AM)

I don't know about being  a slave, but being in the military offered certain insights into the act of service for me, duty, etc., as well as the opportunity to observe the abuses of authority that people are prone to.




AlexandraLynch -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 10:36:40 AM)

I don't think so. See, I have a master, and he has a couple friends that work on me. My master likes pain. He messes with my mind so that a light pinch or pressure in certain spots is agony. He enjoys watching me struggle through it to get done what I have to do. One of his friends thinks it's funny to make me shit myself, or to afflict me with agonizing gut cramps. Another one likes to cut off blood flow to my fingertips and toes, watch them go blue, and then watch me grit my teeth with the pain as they rewarm. Of course, they're diseases, not people. But I have more than enough experience with submission, and the consequences of my actions. I have experience with public humiliation, and slow torture and how it fucks with your mind.

I don't need to sub to a human to get that.



leadership527 -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 10:40:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: i3ear
What do you think?
To directly answer this question, "No I do not." But I do think that for those who are flexible enough to actually derive some learning from it, the experience would probably be educational.

I think a good master has to be a good master. There are lots and lots of ways to skin that cat.



NihilusZero -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 11:28:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Surrenderwithin

0 total NZ points but working on that

Okay, that's too cute. [:D]

15 points.



Annabelle83 -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 8:26:52 PM)

edit: delete as Masters other girl is logged in and I just posted under her name. Bad Maggi



Surrenderwithin -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 8:31:23 PM)


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Okay, that's too cute. [:D]

15 points.

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Thank you much!!!
Maggi
15 NZ points



MasterAramis -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 8:39:46 PM)

You are either Dominant or Submissive. I find it hard to believe that someone who is naturally Dominant can act as a slave and pull it off. I know I could not. It would be like asking my slave who is naturally submissive to be Dominant. She would run for the hills as she wouldn't have the first clue as to how to conduct herself.

It's not about the actions, it's about who you are.

Just my opinion.

Aramis



AlexandraLynch -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/18/2009 9:19:52 PM)

I did it for a number of years. But I was financially dependent on the dominant individual, underage, and understood that my best option here was to bend, not stand firm and get broken, at least until I got out and could just, without any huge fuss, "drift apart" from the situation and the people concerned.



HerLord -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/19/2009 9:26:46 PM)

FR Not just no, but shit fuck fire HELL NO!. Do i need to know how to forge steel to hang my self?

What does knowing how to lead have to do with knowing how to follow/support?



HerLord -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/19/2009 9:35:26 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

Well Jeff, from here we segue into the characteristics of a good leader.

One sign of a good manager, for example (and one most people get backwards), is that when he's away, everything runs smoothly without him.
That's an excellent manager



BKSir -> RE: Do you think a good Master has to have been a slave first? (10/19/2009 9:39:04 PM)

Have to be?  No.  Of course not.  That being said, the time I spent serving was invaluable to where I'm at now, and I wouldn't trade the experience for the world.  It helped me, but, it probably wouldn't help everyone.  In fact, for some, I can flat out say that it would be a very bad idea.



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