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MasterAlaster -> How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/11/2009 10:21:49 PM)
How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my life style? Also how do I get her to accept it as a part of who I am? I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home and she see's my slave/pet girl and freaks or over time becomes jelous and paranoid what can I do to avoid this from happening odds are if I tell up front it will be the same way so do just avoid vanilla women all together? A female slave once told me her old Master ended there relationship because his new wife diddnt understand and/or like the life style thats why I am asking.

DarkSteven -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/11/2009 10:27:36 PM)
Fella, you posted in another thread that you have a slavegirl and are developing a passel of online slaves. Now you're asking how to break this to a girlfriend? Is there any reason that you want to have forty women in your life? I get the feeling that you're trying to grab every female within reach.... The simple truth is that if you decide to have slaves, you're not going to have an easy time attracting a vanilla woman. The big question is what a vanilla girlfriend can give you that a slavegirl cannot. Stand back. Quit worrying about how to get multiple women in your life right now. Figure out what you need in your relationships, and accept that it will be easier to get the with few people than many. The interpersonal dynamics of multiple person relationships are not easy. If you decide to go the poly route, take some time to get into it, and not jump into it helter skelter.

SimplyIsaac -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 1:27:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven The simple truth is that if you decide to have slaves, you're not going to have an easy time attracting a vanilla woman. Simple and dead on. OP: As for telling your "vanilla" girlfriend, what's the confusion? To thine own self be true and all that.

LadyPact -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 1:42:33 AM)
Didn't she kind of notice when the nonsense unfolded about releasing your slave?

subtlebutterfly -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 2:28:06 AM)
OP I just read your posts and honestly? Honey, I don't think you quite know what your lifestyle is. You sound like you simply want women and to be in charge. Just the need of being in charge doesn't make you a dominant.

StoneFox -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 2:45:04 AM)
As someone who bonded VERY young to Her naturally sub but otherwise vanilla mate...and now also has a kinky companion...I would say if you are genuinely kinky and unbonded, then invest time in finding a kinky mate instead of putting vanilla people through the ordeal of having to adjust to your lifestyle (should you ever eventually have one). I love my mate dearly but there has been heartache on both sides in finding a balance and even still, I would sacrifice my kink if he required that of me. Love is about putting other peoples' needs first, regardless of what side of the power dynamic you're on.

Lashra -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 3:04:00 AM)
Meet a nice kinky woman with slaves of her own and then there should not be any worries. ~Lashra

LaTigresse -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 4:06:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterAlaster How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my life style? Also how do I get her to accept it as a part of who I am? I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home and she see's my slave/pet girl and freaks or over time becomes jelous and paranoid what can I do to avoid this from happening odds are if I tell up front it will be the same way so do just avoid vanilla women all together? A female slave once told me her old Master ended there relationship because his new wife diddnt understand and/or like the life style thats why I am asking. How about you take a big step back from the internet fantasy you have built in your head and start living life as step one.

IrishMist -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 5:18:59 AM)
quote: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my life style? Well...just coming out and saying it has always worked well with me. quote: Also how do I get her to accept it as a part of who I am? YOU can't. All you can do is be honest and let HER make her own decisions. Either she accepts it herself, or she does not.

justagirlinzh -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 5:56:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterAlaster How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my life style? Also how do I get her to accept it as a part of who I am? I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home and she see's my slave/pet girl and freaks or over time becomes jelous and paranoid what can I do to avoid this from happening odds are if I tell up front it will be the same way so do just avoid vanilla women all together? A female slave once told me her old Master ended there relationship because his new wife diddnt understand and/or like the life style thats why I am asking. Aren't you the same person who was asking about how to tell your Facebook mistress that you wanted to sub to other mistresses on Facebook?

DarkSteven -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 6:16:28 AM)
Nope, that was BoyDoggy in this thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2809261/mpage_1/tm.htm MasterAlaster has asked if he has control over his slave: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2841297/tm.htm and about his Domme-turned-slave using her own slaves to recruit additional slaves for him: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2841445/tm.htm Hard to keep everyone straight at times...

justagirlinzh -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 6:19:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Nope, that was BoyDoggy in this thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2809261/mpage_1/tm.htm MasterAlaster has asked if he has control over his slave: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2841297/tm.htm and about his Domme-turned-slave using her own slaves to recruit additional slaves for him: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2841445/tm.htm Hard to keep everyone straight at times... I think BoyDoggy and MasterAlaster are one in the same because BoyDoggy used the same self pic below his name.

lucylucy -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 6:20:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven The simple truth is that if you decide to have slaves, you're not going to have an easy time attracting a vanilla woman. The big question is what a vanilla girlfriend can give you that a slavegirl cannot. I had to sleep before responding to the OP because of that old saying "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it." So here I am, 7 hours of sleep later, still thinking EXACTLY what I thought when I saw the original post. MasterA answers your question, DarkSteven, about what a vanilla girlfriend can give him that a slave girl cannot: quote: I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home See, slavegirls aren't nice. You know, the kind you take home to Mama. It's pretty clear to me that MasterA is a misogynist, not a dominant. I pity any woman - vanilla or other - who has the misfortune of having to spend more than a couple minutes in his presence.

CarrieO -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 6:23:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: justagirlinzh quote: ORIGINAL: MasterAlaster How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my life style? Also how do I get her to accept it as a part of who I am? I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home and she see's my slave/pet girl and freaks or over time becomes jelous and paranoid what can I do to avoid this from happening odds are if I tell up front it will be the same way so do just avoid vanilla women all together? A female slave once told me her old Master ended there relationship because his new wife diddnt understand and/or like the life style thats why I am asking. Aren't you the same person who was asking about how to tell your Facebook mistress that you wanted to sub to other mistresses on Facebook? I thought I had seen his pic before. OP....Step away from the computer. Go out and live life. Go to school. Get a decent job. Focus on the truly important things and not games. Live a responsible life. Why does all this matter? Any woman...slave, sub, girlfriend, vanilla, kink...will have little real time interest in a man who can't seem to decide who he is. Ask yourself this question...What do I have to offer a woman? This has nothing to do with sex or kink. Each of your posts sound like you're grasping at straws, trying to fit into some role-of-the-moment. Stop trying to master women and start mastering yourself.

DarkSteven -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 6:27:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy MasterA answers your question, DarkSteven, about what a vanilla girlfriend can give him that a slave girl cannot: quote: I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home See, slavegirls aren't nice. You know, the kind you take home to Mama. So the obvious answer is to kinkify his mother so she can handle it!

lucylucy -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 6:45:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy MasterA answers your question, DarkSteven, about what a vanilla girlfriend can give him that a slave girl cannot: See, slavegirls aren't nice. You know, the kind you take home to Mama. So the obvious answer is to kinkify his mother so she can handle it! Let's leave his poor mother out of it. I'm sure she's suffered enough.

IronBear -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 4:56:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterAlaster How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my life style? Also how do I get her to accept it as a part of who I am? I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home and she see's my slave/pet girl and freaks or over time becomes jelous and paranoid what can I do to avoid this from happening odds are if I tell up front it will be the same way so do just avoid vanilla women all together? A female slave once told me her old Master ended there relationship because his new wife diddnt understand and/or like the life style thats why I am asking. Man you are not a Master's ass. I've read you whining, whimpering and crying posts and threads. Get a grip on yourself bhoyo. Forget about slaves and just mingle, go to munches, read and try to learn what it is you want. As for telling a female friend about BDSM, either do it and if she walks, then she isn't the one for you, or forget all; about kink and blend back into mundane mediocrity. I'm not being unduly unkind to you. This is my cyber size 12 combat boot landing on your ass to kick you into some sort of reality check. Somewhere down the path you may even thank me for this.

GraciousLady -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 5:49:34 PM)
I agree with LaTigresse. This guy sounds like he is heavely into the internet porn sites that are not like the real lifestyle. He is going to make a huge mess of his relationship with his gf over internet (make believe) slaves. If he was sincere about his vanilla gf he would have told her everything long before things got to this point. Me thinks this is all fantasy anyway :-)

TheGaggingWh0re -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 6:47:25 PM)
I'm dropping the f-bomb: Fake. Not worth pouring your heart's advice out over.

Musicmystery -> RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifestyle? (10/12/2009 7:26:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterAlaster How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my life style? Also how do I get her to accept it as a part of who I am? I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home and she see's my slave/pet girl and freaks or over time becomes jelous and paranoid what can I do to avoid this from happening odds are if I tell up front it will be the same way so do just avoid vanilla women all together? A female slave once told me her old Master ended there relationship because his new wife diddnt understand and/or like the life style thats why I am asking. Get out of the dorm room. Get rid of the beer. Go for a nice walk. Then go to bed--it's a school night. Next time you're bored, read a book. They come in a variety of topics, and the pages load instantly.

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