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RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifest... - 10/13/2009 3:31:56 AM

Acer49

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How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my life style?
Also how do I get her to accept it as a part of who I am?
I know the day will come when I meet a nice girl and I take her home and she see's my slave/pet girl and freaks or over time becomes jelous and paranoid what can I do to avoid this from happening odds are if I tell up front it will be the same way so do just avoid vanilla women all together?
A female slave once told me her old Master ended there relationship because his new wife diddnt understand and/or like the life style thats why I am asking.

Well if ignorance is bliss then someone is in heaven. You have a slave at home who is ok with this arrangement or are you planning to just waltz in one day with this "nice" girl and expect her to be all warm and fuzzy with it? I think you are running a major risk of having your head handed to you, both of them.

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RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifest... - 10/13/2009 6:10:04 AM

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You have a slave at home who is ok with this arrangement or are you planning to just waltz in one day with this "nice" girl and expect her to be all warm and fuzzy with it? I think you are running a major risk of having your head handed to you, both of them.

Acer, I'm not 100% sure of this, but I believe that his current slave(s) is/are all online.

Back when I was a teenager, there was a transition from dirty pics of women to dating the real thing. I think that OP is thinking about the same transition, except that he's currently in the Internet version.

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RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifest... - 10/13/2009 6:46:44 AM

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Go look at my thread ("my 1950s housewife blah") for an experience related to possibly vanilla women and bdsm

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RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifest... - 10/13/2009 7:22:43 AM

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It's like ADD. First he's a sub, then he's a Master punishing everyone including people that don't belong to him, then he's asking if he, as a Master, has complete control of his slave, then he has a vanilla girlfriend.......

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RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifest... - 10/13/2009 4:02:41 PM

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First he's a sub, then he's a Master punishing everyone

I feel punished every time I read one of his posts . . .

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RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifest... - 10/13/2009 4:16:01 PM

GraciousLady

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This guys profile is gone and hopefully so is he. He made his profile on the 8th of this month. Posted numerous times on the 9th and has been pretty much run out of town 5 days later. His last log in was today.

I believe he was a teen age boy who watched way to much internet porn and was proably living a fantasy here on the message boards. He basicly posted about 2 relationships in his short stay. His slave that was his Domme that he dismissed and his vanilla gf. I doubt either really existed.

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RE: How do I tell my vanilla girlfriend about my lifest... - 10/14/2009 2:37:32 AM

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If you tell her and she accepts it and wants to participate she is imeadiately not vanilla. How do you know she would not be receptive... many people often say they think things are not acceptable because they are protecting their own secrets... Perhaps though you have answered your own question intuitively... if you are into kink, why date vanilla.. you can't be happy if you can't be honest and share things...especially if you neeed to share things sometimes it has to be up front and honest to have a relationship.

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