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RE: Getting to Know You - 9/22/2009 5:18:51 PM

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LOL....I'm afraid to ask!

C'on... Val would look so good in tight leather pants every day.

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RE: Getting to Know You - 9/22/2009 6:04:03 PM

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LOL....I'm afraid to ask!

C'on... Val would look so good in tight leather pants every day.

Oh, if only it were tight leather pants......lol

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RE: Getting to Know You - 9/22/2009 6:20:18 PM

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Tight leather pants... leather boots... give him a sexy little mask... definately would beat his jeans and t-shirt look.

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RE: Getting to Know You - 9/22/2009 8:47:10 PM

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My advice? I guess in general it would be don't be afraid to take risks. The odds of Eamon and I were against us. Most sane people would call him a rebound. Even I was betting against us when I looked at in terms of black-and-white but we were willing to gamble and see what happened. I guess when you risk a lot, you can get a big payoff!

excellent advice. something i forget about on occasion. but some risks are worth the uncertainty.

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2. how do you combat fears, disappointments, and expectations?

this slave combats fears by trusting in Him.
He has never disappointed His slave.
this slave makes every effort to live up to His expectations...there is nothing to combat.

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3. considering where you were at the beginning and where you are now. what have you gained?

enough fun times to fill 300 scrapbooks with the leftover pics, trinkets and memorabilia!

the most intense, loving, fulfilling intimate partnership this slave has ever been a part of with a caring, thoughtful, sadistic, sentimental, intelligent, protective, loving, witty Master with a keen sense of humor and an infectious "joie de vivre".

confidence in this slave's submission.

someone who would indeed help dispose of the bodies...if necessary.

you really nailed a few things here. a slave can truly flourish when she's in the right hands. it seems obvious you are.

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RE: Getting to Know You - 9/23/2009 7:26:44 AM

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i've noticed a number of threads referencing issues encountered on both ends at the onset of a relationship. i use the term lightly to include the initial period of contact as well as the first few months going in. there's a host of things to learn, experience, sift through, etc. that can be overwhelming, leaving many wondering where do i start?

i would like to address a couple of things and gain feedback from those that have been through it or are currently in the midst of getting to know someone. i leave you with the following questions in the hope they will serve others in similar situations.

1. if you could do it all again, what would you change and why?
2. how do you combat fears, disappointments, and expectations?
3. considering where you were at the beginning and where you are now. what have you gained?
4. parting words... your nugget of wisdom to share with someone else.

i look forward to your response. thank you in advance.

porcelaine

Other than wishing her to be closer so that I could spend more time, I would not change a thing
Through communication, you address fears and expectations thus hopefully keeping disappointments to minimum
Well we are exclusive to oneanother, so that speaks for itself.

Don't forget that people are human and men and women before they are dominant and submissive
the only rule this lifestyle has i... there are no rules other than the right thing is the thing that works for you and your partner
Communicate at all costs
Always remember there is no "I" in relationship
treat others as you would like a member of your own family treated
Forgiving a lie is easy, forgetting it, is an impossibility
None of us walk on water
perfection is defined as ones' best effort
Don't try to talk the talk if you can't walk the walk
To thy own self be true

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RE: Getting to Know You - 9/23/2009 12:59:09 PM

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1. if you could do it all again, what would you change and why?
2. how do you combat fears, disappointments, and expectations?
3. considering where you were at the beginning and where you are now. what have you gained?
4. parting words... your nugget of wisdom to share with someone else.

i look forward to your response. thank you in advance.

porcelaine

1. if you could do it all again, what would you change and why?
I believe I always do it differently as I am constantly changing.

2. how do you combat fears, disappointments, and expectations?
Fear is inevitable in all human endeavors at lerast those endeavors that I value most are those that involve fear for me.
Disappointments are reciprocal to expectations so relinquixhing one means relinquishing the other. As I grow (older) I am getting better at letting go of expectations.

3. considering where you were at the beginning and where you are now. what have you gained?
I do not mark a beginning because it has all been process. But what I have gained is undoubtedly an increasing capacity to FEEL: joy, pain, ecstasy, pleasure, loss. The sheer luxury of emotion.

4. parting words... your nugget of wisdom to share with someone else.
Good karma, blessings and I wish you well.

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