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Less and Less - 9/16/2009 5:32:33 PM   
martyh01


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Status: offline 		Is it me or are Subs & Slaves getting harder to find there are tons if wannabe's and dreamers but try to find a real committed sub or slave is getting near imposable.

I live in Thailand and it has always been hard here (a culture thing) but even in Australia and USA things are getting worse plenty of pro's but no body doing it for the love of the culture.
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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 6:17:22 PM   
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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 6:18:05 PM   
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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 6:19:33 PM   
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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 6:23:58 PM   
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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 6:25:28 PM   
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I live in Thailand and it has always been hard here (a culture thing) but even in Australia and USA things are getting worse plenty of pro's but no body doing it for the love of the culture.


Love of the culture?  Or love of (or if you prefer, commitment to) the person they are with? 

Big difference.


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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 6:41:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: martyh01

Is it me or are Subs & Slaves getting harder to find there are tons if wannabe's and dreamers but try to find a real committed sub or slave is getting near imposable.

I live in Thailand and it has always been hard here (a culture thing) but even in Australia and USA things are getting worse plenty of pro's but no body doing it for the love of the culture.



Well , unless your profile is in the middle of a re-write I am afraid it will not not be of much help in it's current state.

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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 7:21:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: martyh01

Is it me or are Subs & Slaves getting harder to find there are tons if wannabe's and dreamers but try to find a real committed sub or slave is getting near imposable.


no, it isn't you. this is drought season. try back in the spring when a fresh crop of submissive meat will be aching to take a bite out of your... wallet

porcelaine


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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 8:18:16 PM   
DemonKia


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Status: offline 		Yep, I'm with Leadership on this one, OP -- it's you . . . . .

Frankly, I find profiles like the OP's -- barebones, strictly about the kink, & seeking what sounds like a potentially extreme relationship -- creepy. Just a little feedback, OP . . . . .

I'd encourage you to display your full humanity rather than a comic-book sketch of you-the-master . . . . S-types aren't automatons who just serve anyone who calls themselves a D or an M, they are people first & foremost who are seeking to enter into relationship with other human beings . . . . .

There are a bunch of really great profiles by dominant men who post here on the boards. DarkSteven & Mnottertail spring immediately to mind . .. . . Learn, & refine your approach, OP, & you may get better results . ... .

Oh. & if you're looking at profiles that are way outside your league -- significantly younger, prettier, fitter / skinnier, etc, than you, that's probably part of the problem . . . . . My experience of cruising extensively thru the profiles is that the con-artists are heavily clustered in the most desirable demographic niches, particularly the young-fit-hot femme category . . . . . . If those are characteristics that are necessary for you, you're gonna need to hunker in & be patient & extra careful & (probably) work harder . . . . . .

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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 8:41:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

It's you.


see above.

< Message edited by sexisubi -- 9/16/2009 8:42:22 PM >

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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 9:00:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		In addition to the above comments, I see that your profile doesn't describe the woman that you seek.  What age range?  Do you want someone with college?  Also, will she not be able to get a job and must have you support her? 

Whenever I see a profile that is seeking without describing the person they seek, I wonder why...


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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 9:03:13 PM   
pompeii


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ORIGINAL: martyh01
Is it me or are Subs & Slaves getting harder to find


If they're harder to find, it's 'cuz the spammers are overwhelming the channels with their scams ...

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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 9:07:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

quote:

ORIGINAL: martyh01

Is it me or are Subs & Slaves getting harder to find there are tons if wannabe's and dreamers but try to find a real committed sub or slave is getting near imposable.


no, it isn't you. this is drought season. try back in the spring when a fresh crop of submissive meat will be aching to take a bite out of your... wallet

porcelaine



Do you seriously mean to tell me that this shit is seasonal?!

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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 9:09:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: martyh01

Is it me or are Subs & Slaves getting harder to find there are tons if wannabe's and dreamers but try to find a real committed sub or slave is getting near imposable.

This question is posted on an almost daily basis.  SSDD
 
Look to how you advertise in your profile.  Do you give the impression of being a "real committed" dom...is there such a thing?  Or, do you come across as yet another man wanting his fantasy fulfilled.  You offer nothing but kink (and poorly written at that)...nothing about you, nothing but demands of "fully willing with no holds barred...strict limits...must be willing bi sexual" nonsense.  What sets you apart from any other man advertising for his very own live blow-up doll here?  Why not try looking for a person first instead of a label?  Why not try to be original and set yourself apart from the "uber-doms" and the HNGs that seem to populate this place. 
 
There are real people here...if you take the time to show you have something to offer, maybe you'll be fortunate enough to meet one!

I live in Thailand and it has always been hard here (a culture thing) but even in Australia and USA things are getting worse plenty of pro's but no body doing it for the love of the culture.

What culture?  Are you refering to Thai culture?  Maybe its hard because there are issues with regards to the sex-slave trade in Thailand.  All the more reason to be very mature and responsible about your decision to seek/advertise for a bdsm sub or slave. 



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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 11:09:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've been having the same problems with free blowjob handouts. *shrug*

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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 11:13:11 PM   
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I've been having the same problems with free blowjob handouts. *shrug*


i would totally give you a free blowjob but you have to wear leather pants  

oh shit, the distance is kind of a problem...negates the free part...

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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 11:18:17 PM   
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i would totally give you a free blowjob but you have to wear leather pants  

oh shit, the distance is kind of a problem...negates the free part...

This obviously totally proves you're a "fake".

See what I'm talking about, people? *sigh*




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RE: Less and Less - 9/16/2009 11:31:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

This obviously totally proves you're a "fake".

See what I'm talking about, people? *sigh*





i am not a fake!! please send me your bank account number and your social security number so i can send you a tribute showing you how real i am...

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RE: Less and Less - 9/17/2009 1:32:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: martyh01

Is it me or are Subs & Slaves getting harder to find there are tons if wannabe's and dreamers but try to find a real committed sub or slave is getting near imposable.

I live in Thailand and it has always been hard here (a culture thing) but even in Australia and USA things are getting worse plenty of pro's but no body doing it for the love of the culture.


I'm not in a relationship to a culture, have never been in a relationship to a culture nor do I see how that's possible other than the difficult process of adopting a new culture as an attempt to 'fit'.
One is either inherent in one's own culture or an observer of others'..
My bdsm is built on personal relationship not enculturation.
Encuklturation is the process whereby one's own culture 'hardens' when one travels to another. Simple example is taking one's eating habits along to another place and maintaining them I guess as an English girl the most simplistic example of that would be my need to drink tea with milk (not easy in Thailand).
In my humble opinion bdsm has multi faceted cultures. The Leather Culture. The Berlin/German Fetishist Culture. The English (caning) Culture. Poly Culture. Gor. Daddy Doms. Club Culture. Munch Bunch. And so on and so on.
Knowing which bdsm culture one attaches to helps to narrow the field and make personal choices easier.



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RE: Less and Less - 9/17/2009 2:28:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: martyh01

Is it me or are Subs & Slaves getting harder to find there are tons if wannabe's and dreamers but try to find a real committed sub or slave is getting near imposable.

I live in Thailand and it has always been hard here (a culture thing) but even in Australia and USA things are getting worse plenty of pro's but no body doing it for the love of the culture.



Before everyone sticks the boots into the OP, I have to agree with him. It has always been jolly hard in Thailand based on a cultural basis. Australia has it's own issues being a relatively small BDSM population. About the USA, I have no first hand knowledge other than I probably talk to more slaves in both the US and Canada who are genuine (I either know their Masters/Mistresses past and present or have met and spent time with them personally. The propblem the OP mentions may be because there are more floozies here on places like CM and alt.com due to the size of the respective memberships. I could be wrong in this but it is a logical answer in any case.


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