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SweetPoosy -> RE: Looking for other's viewpoints. (9/6/2009 4:50:07 PM)
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Dear Dragonsbreaths,
I am sorry that you are facing this situation, but here's my 2 cents worth.
Oh, and let me pre-state that I am presenting a very complicated story in a very brief form, and the events are 20 years old, so please don't anyone get their knickers in a twist about anything, OK?
About 20 years ago, a friend of mine who had a family history of breast cancer went to her doctors and her health care plan and requested a mammogram. Because she was only about 33 at the time, they refused and ignored her other symptoms. As it turned out, when she was diagnosed, it was already stage 4 and too late to do anything much.
She felt as you do, that she wanted to get a settlement and make certain that her family was financially cared for (she had three children and a husband) and she also wanted to do everything she could with them before she became too ill to travel. So she did file a suit, and in record time she received an undisclosed settlement, and she lived her dream to travel and be with her children until the end.
From her experience, I can tell you that what you are planning could be very viable. I agree with Pahunkboy that long litigation is hard on someone, and if this looks like it is going there, then maybe it isn't worth it, but perhaps it will resolve quickly like my friend's case did. As for whether it is fair to someone else to bring them into this situation, as SlutSlave said, be very open, candid, and CAREFUL with anyone you choose to bring into your life, both for your sake and for theirs. Life your life to the fullest, enjoy every moment, and who knows? With a happy positive attitude, anything is possible. My friend lived for two years past the time limit she was given.
Also, I don't know about what you believe, but I firmly believe in karma, and in the fact that when we come to each lifetime, we choose certain people to interact with to form or resolve karma. So perhaps out there is a person, or persons who you are supposed to have this particular experience with, for good times and bad.
Another way to look at it is this...we none of us know that we have tomorrow. They say you are terminal, but you could cross the street and get hit by a truck long before your "expiration date" (Goddess forbid!), or you could outlive everyone around you! Having a diagnosis like that just makes you more determined to live well, and to savor each day. Pity the people who didn't know that today was their last, and didn't realize that they needed to let those they love know about it! If you do as planned, those around you will know that they are loved, for however long or short the time may be.
Finally, I love this quote...
“Life is not a journey to the grave with intentions of arriving safely in a pretty well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming ... WOW! What a ride!”
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