RE: Following In Your Footsteps

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Following In Your Footsteps

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Following In Your Footsteps

Page: << < prev 1 [2]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Following In Your Footsteps - 8/27/2009 9:41:46 AM

porcelaine

Posts: 5020
Joined: 7/24/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

Excellent thread, OP, and some excellent answers.

i agree. thank you for the kind sentiment.

porcelaine

_____________________________

His will; my fate.

(in reply to Level)

Profile

Post #: 21

RE: Following In Your Footsteps - 8/27/2009 10:40:55 AM

LaTigresse

Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: GraciousLady

When your children are adults they do as they please. My children were raised to be free thinkers and to do all things with sense. What I, or they as adults, do in private is our personal business. Play in this lifestyle is a personal thing equal to sex. Neiter child was allowed to have casual sex in the home and I did not have casual sex, or play in my home, when my children were living at home. My oldest is very traditional but my youngest is very much like me and I suspect he has followed in my footsteps. With all due respect to the OP I assume you have no children or very young children and do not realize the concept of raising a responsible child into adulthood. They have to be taught by example and counsel to do all things properly and with morals. I can't imagine what we would be teaching children if the family home was a free for all of whatever whim an adolescent or young adult conjured up!

Not terribly gracious words.

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to GraciousLady)

Profile

Post #: 22

RE: Following In Your Footsteps - 8/27/2009 10:41:26 AM

lally2

Posts: 2621
Joined: 4/16/2009
Status: offline

i hate to say this out loud, but isnt it a bit hypocritical of us and actually diminishing of ourselves to wish for our kids not to pursue this lifestyle if they so choose.

i have been a single mum of a now 13 year old boy for the past 7 years and i have to accept and admit that he is showing strongly Dominant characteristics. his father is Dominant and spends a fair amount of time with him too. my son is a gentle, thoughtful, caring dominant personality and im very proud of him actually. if he ever does enter this lifestyle i would support him completely.

in the end its not even a choice, its how we are wired and i wouldnt want him to go against his natural inclincations. that would surely just make him unhappy and result in failed and unfulfilled relationships. not something as his mother i would wish on him atall.

we're all having to go with it and so will they.

(in reply to porcelaine)

Profile

Post #: 23

RE: Following In Your Footsteps - 8/27/2009 11:04:32 AM

LillyoftheVally

Posts: 1826
Joined: 7/22/2009
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2
in the end its not even a choice, its how we are wired and i wouldnt want him to go against his natural inclincations. that would surely just make him unhappy and result in failed and unfulfilled relationships. not something as his mother i would wish on him atall.

I am not sure it is or isn't its a complex one. i don't have children and I would worry that I would try to influence them too much in my direction rather than letting them find their own

_____________________________

'My doctor says that I have a malformed public-duty gland and a natural deficiency in moral fibre, and that I am therefore excused from saving Universes.'

Nah I am not happy to see you either

(in reply to lally2)

Profile

Post #: 24

RE: Following In Your Footsteps - 8/27/2009 11:46:17 AM

Jadiken

Posts: 60
Joined: 7/4/2009
Status: offline

Ok, I am in the reverse situation...
I am 24 living with my Mother once again, after being married and now currently going through a divorce, but shortly after moving here I became involved in my first D/s relationship. My Mother and I are very open with eachother and hide very little... except those all too graphic details. As my mom has watched the dynamic between my Master and i she has seen examples of what she desires in a relationship. Now she is not as interested in the whole TPE type of relationship, or anything that "intense" but she wants some aspects of it. So, my ability to search for what I want, has given her a new freedom of sorts to search for what she wants... It has sort of opened her eyes to "why I feel this way" when she used to just supress it all.

As for playing in the house, we agreed that as adults with active sex lives, if we need the apartment to ourselves, we send the other one a simple text saying "playtime" and the other one dissapears for a while... This goes for both of us, neither one wants to be in the house while the other one is getting their freak on... lol.

I have a feeling that someday, when I have my own children, I will support whatever they chose to do with their lives so long as it doesnt put them in actual danger.

Good thread OP!!!!!

(in reply to LillyoftheVally)

Profile

Post #: 25

RE: Following In Your Footsteps - 8/27/2009 11:57:54 AM

lally2

Posts: 2621
Joined: 4/16/2009
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2
in the end its not even a choice, its how we are wired and i wouldnt want him to go against his natural inclincations. that would surely just make him unhappy and result in failed and unfulfilled relationships. not something as his mother i would wish on him atall.

I am not sure it is or isn't its a complex one. i don't have children and I would worry that I would try to influence them too much in my direction rather than letting them find their own

darn, i just wrote a reply and lost it. ho hum.

i havent influenced Tom in anyway regarding BDSM - i do not, never have and never will expose him to my adult activities. my Masters in the past have been acutely aware of the impact even mild Ms may have on him and so on that score 'things' have never gone on infront of him. i have never knelt before a Master in Toms company and i have never called a Master by any sort of title infront of Tom.

but, as a submissive woman i have influenced him in the way that i have brought him up to be dependable, self reliant, trustworthy and a strong decision maker. i have noticed how his friends look to him for leadership and he gives it.

if his nature is Dominant and he develops a proclivity for what we do here then who am i to stand in his way - by the time he is old enough to make that decision i really wont have a say in it anyway.

so, i fully accept that as a submissive woman i have brought my son up to be dominant in regard to his world and the values i believe are important, but they will carry him through life whichever way he goes.

(in reply to LillyoftheVally)

Profile

Post #: 26

RE: Following In Your Footsteps - 8/27/2009 12:24:02 PM

porcelaine

Posts: 5020
Joined: 7/24/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Jadiken

I have a feeling that someday, when I have my own children, I will support whatever they chose to do with their lives so long as it doesnt put them in actual danger.

Good thread OP!!!!!

thank you for sharing. it is never easy returning home and i don't envy you there. while my mother is well aware of my lifestyle and routinely suggests we visit the dungeon together. which generally prompts a gleeful hell and no in response. i can't say for certain that i'd be comfortable doing my 'thing' in her house.

porcelaine

_____________________________

His will; my fate.

(in reply to Jadiken)

Profile

Post #: 27

RE: Following In Your Footsteps - 8/27/2009 12:24:24 PM

tashina

Posts: 20
Joined: 8/26/2009
Status: offline

You know that is a good question...... I have a 23 yr old 18 yr old and 16 yr old sons, and I am not sure how I would react. I think with the fact that we have a very open relationship, and can talk about anything would make it much easier. As far as them bringing home someone to play with, I don't think that would be something I would be ok with.....More because I am the Matriarch. than anything else. My kids know some and they either are very ok with it, or just ignore it. I have never been one to hide my sexuality form my children.. it is a part of life, and I think I am open minded enugh to be comfortable with their choices. I guess it is something that each of us would have to deal with on an idavidual basis.

(in reply to porcelaine)

Profile

Post #: 28