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Jadiken -> just need to vent... (8/25/2009 5:57:19 PM)
Just need to vent... dont care if anyone responds or not... just didnt really have anywhere else to vent... I have absolutely NO stress relievers right now... NONE! what I used to use to relieve even a little stress has become a new stress... I am an "emotional eater" and now I cant even do that becuase of this strict diet I am on, though it is working... :/ I cant afford to start martial arts back up right now... I am sooooo sick of living with my mother, but again, cant afford to live alone just yet... Summer here is a little too hot to go horseback riding, though even if it wasnt cant really afford that either... Sometimes I feel Master is too busy for me and isnt as serious about this as I am, but then I remember I am being fined for something that I was unable to accomplish... damn it... I dunno... I am just super stressed out and no way to deal with it right at the moment... Life kinda sucks right now, Yes I know it could be worse but I was dealing with worse about 3 months ago, arent things supposed to start looking up sometime soon? Sad part is I cant even cry right now... maybe I need to watch a really sappy movie or something to trigger the tears... Oh well.. there is always tomorrow...

dreamerdreaming -> RE: just need to vent... (8/25/2009 6:03:39 PM)
hug "I am sooooo sick of living with my mother" Try living on the street for a while. Then you'd appreciate how good you had it when your mother was letting you live with her. 'nother hug

Rule -> RE: just need to vent... (8/25/2009 6:14:34 PM)
Do some yoga exercizes or simply dance, if not inside then outside. Best wishes.

pahunkboy -> RE: just need to vent... (8/25/2009 10:11:56 PM)
hugs. things here are too loud..... so many of us have bad days

Rhodes85 -> RE: just need to vent... (8/25/2009 11:50:19 PM)
Well I would suggest getting a punching bag. You'd be suprised how much that can help when you're stressed.

mixielicous -> RE: just need to vent... (8/26/2009 1:13:47 AM)
hot (or cold) shower, loud music, practice your naughty gyration. Lots of scented soap! fresh sheets, shaved legs, clean PJs and new polish always makes me feel better too Up your B vitamin intake. Stop and shop carries a product in the produce section, drinks by bolthouse farms. I like the white one, tons of b vitamins. Increase your sun intake (vit D) clean your room! tedious, but you feel better being in it! (which if you hate living w mom I bet youre in there a lot) joy rides in muscle cars just a few of the things i do to make myself feel better and relieve stress watched sex and the city movie recently, it made me cry. [8\|]

angelikaJ -> RE: just need to vent... (8/26/2009 6:09:38 AM)
Find some free or nearly free fun things to do in your area. Walking is a good stress reliever. You might be able to find some yoga DVDs at the local library. Find ways to be out of the house doing things you will enjoy and then try to have positive interactions with your mother. Do something nice for her. Think about the things in your life you are grateful for and write them down... and keep adding to the list. And yes, tomorrow is another day, but you don't need to wait until tomorrow to start over. You can do that anytime.

Lockit -> RE: just need to vent... (8/26/2009 7:13:10 AM)
I left my mother's home and went right to my husbands home and I was not of age yet. By the time I was eighteen I was frustrated because all I wanted was an education and for a number of reasons I couldn't get it. Someone told me that I needed to learn to be alone. I'm eighteen, why should I plan on being alone??? I think I resented this at first, but I wasn't happy and wondered if that was part of it. So I had some almost friends who were going to the Colorado River and with two dollars, a jar of peanut butter and a loaf of bread, I took off for a week. I didn't stay in our camp much and walked the road and met all the campers on it. They accepted me and liked me and I grew some confidence in that I wore crappy clothes on purpose and didn't bring anything but myself, trying to see if I would be accepted or rejected and if I could do it on my own. I did it. I then went home and told my husband I was moving into the other room until I could find a way out and of course he limited what I could do at that point. I needed a job, had no car, didn't live by any bus lines and was stuck. I had to get creative. I was determined to make myself even if that meant I had to first create myself. Within a week I had a job as a housekeeper and someone to watch over a guy about two years younger than I was. I had been a step mother, so this wasn't a stretch for me. I got my hands on some self help books and read whenever I wasn't doing housework or my job. I even started reading the dictionary to improve my skills. I wrote about my feelings and life. I learned to be alone. I learned that I liked being alone because I could listen to music... my music... I could find enjoyment in the books that were helping me understand myself and I could take walks and think about it all. I healed from wounds life had made in this process because of my attitude of finding my way in life. Because I was determined, other's believed in me and other opportunities came up. I learned that if I was bored, it was not my situation, but coming from me. I had to find things in myself to broaden my world and myself. I never did get that education I wanted, but few knew that. I educated myself and reading was a major tool. I could work any job I could get to make it the next step of the way and eventually I created a number of different types of career's because I just wouldn't accept that my limitations were going to win and rob me of life... the kind of life I wanted. You are young and you may not like what I am saying and you may think I don't understand or I am bragging... I'm not. I'm trying to tell you that it's time to look within yourself and find something there that you can tap into that will keep you moving in a foward direction and not standing still, even if it is one small thing you determine to do. You must be determined to change what you don't like and make something of your situation no matter what it is. Had I not done what I did, I would would never have found the richness in life that sustains me today. Sometimes a bit of luck can help, but for the most part, you have to make your luck... you have to create your opportunities and a lot of that comes from within you. You are only defeated if you allow yourself to be. Don't think stuck... think of how to get unstuck so you can be free... in every way and in everything in life. Use the boredom to find who you are and go make her happy!

mnottertail -> RE: just need to vent... (8/26/2009 7:19:38 AM)
Any martial arts you know can be practiced without partners or walls with mirrors... Perfect the muscle memory in what you know. Do it like Tai Chi.........slow and deliberate with all focus. Gai Jin Kaine

TurboJugend -> RE: just need to vent... (8/26/2009 7:42:37 AM)
quote: I have absolutely NO stress relievers right now... NONE! mastrubate

Jadiken -> RE: just need to vent... (8/26/2009 9:23:48 AM)
Thank you all for the suggestions! I an feeling a bit better today, Master sent an e mail and I get to see him this week! YAY! Dreamer, thank you for the hugs, sometimes thats all someone needs to feel even just a little bit better, I know I have it good being able to live with my mom, its just frustrating... Rule, I plan on looking some yoga up online and I have been thinking about looking into meditation... pahunk, Thank for the hug too! Rhodes, I would LOVE a punching bag! That was one of my favorite times during my Martial arts training... but I have no place to put it... nor the funds to get it... maybe I can find one on CL and have an eyesore in the living room... lol. Mix, I am on top of the vitamine thing, I make sure I take them... will look into extra B though... my room is spotless, I had to clean it the other day I was going insane, and yes, I spend A LOT of time in it... lol I wanna go for a joy ride in a muscle car! or heck, even a sports car! I LOVE cars! Angelika, thanks, I will have to find the local library around here... Walking used to be a stress reliever for me until I had to do it twice a day... now its one of the stresses...Starting the list.... Lockit, wow... I am working on myself as we speak, both inside and out... I like you, moved out of my mothers and straight into my husbands... I was able to live alone for a while when he was deployed to iraq and learned that I really really liked it. I am trying to set me self up for success and get to the point where I am happy again. I will keep in mind what you said as it feels right to me.. Thank you. mnotter, never thought of that... will have to look some of it up to refresh my memory, but I may just have to try that... Ahhh and Turbo... I cant... one of my rules... well I cant with out permission at least... or else I totally would have by now.... thank you all!

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