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Missing it oh so much... - 8/22/2009 10:11:38 PM

jeninvegas

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I miss scening a whole lot. N because of my choice to get into a vanilla relationship, I will not bitch about it too much. He's a dominant man, however, not into the lifestyle nor does he play like one who is so I find myself yearning for some play in life. Of course, I turn to the message forums, lol! :P

I'm just wondering if I can bask in all of y'alls' after-scening glow? What are some of y'alls' recent scene experiences? And yes, I will be imagining them with every single detail, LOL!

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/22/2009 10:15:18 PM

SteelofUtah

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Wow never met a Female Wanker.

I don't know how to feel about giving you Spank Fodder........ Or is it called Something else when women do it?

I just managed to get off two girls before handcuffing them to the Wall for the night and comeing out her to unwind.

That will have to do because I don't feel like typing out every sordid detail.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/22/2009 10:15:54 PM

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Don't worry Hon, I'm basically going through the same thing. You aren't alone lol.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/22/2009 10:23:12 PM

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LOL, Steel, I think a wanker is a wanker is a wanker! Dammit, I'm freakin' proud of (admitting) it!

Lol, thanks for letting me know that, JenTehLuv.

I'm happy about the relationship and there are other things to enjoy in a vanilla relationship as well so the only thing I can honestly say I miss about D/s relationships is the scene/play.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 12:41:20 AM

TurboJugend

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Did you ever say during sex......."don't do me like a boy...act like a Man".
Perhaps that is nice stimulance to make it a little rougher.

aja.. Did you talk about it with him..what your needs are.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 1:00:32 AM

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Lol, that's a great suggestion, actually. We've tried playing once or twice before. All I can say is that it's definitely not the same as playing with someone who truly is in the lifestyle rather than doing it just for play...ah, c'est la vie.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 6:23:59 PM

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I feel your pain. I really do.

I promise you that once I get to play with My boy again, I will post all of the sorted details.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 6:33:33 PM

pyroaquatic

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;_;

damnit. i miss it too.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 6:37:12 PM

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I know exactly what you're going through. Mine is deployed so I'm going nuts. You'll have to do like me and use your imagination,.....and b.o.b. of course....lol

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 6:37:40 PM

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Yes, but you're too far away to beat.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 6:47:49 PM

pyroaquatic

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I'm about to hop on my bike and take off. Just WOOSH.

but I cannot. Damn these prior engagements!

RAAAAAR.

*tears shit up*

Or get a REALLY long whip.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 6:47:50 PM

TearsofLove92

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I honestly don't think a relationship is healthy when somebody is missing something, especially something like you are missing. Sure, you can work through it for a long, long time, but in the end you will end up hurting him, and yourself.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 6:53:02 PM

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It is one thing to miss it due to absence of that special someone (don't even get me started today

). It is another when the relationship itself is missing key parts of what makes you tick. I hope you are being honest with both him and yourself about your ability to put this behind you and go with the vanilla. Best of luck sweetie!

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 7:02:41 PM

kallisto

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I agree with lovingpet. It is one thing to be missing something or someone because of distance or circumstances that keep you apart. Or to be missing it because at the time you're not in a relationship.   It is something else to be wanting or needing something in the relationship that isn't there.

Entering into a relationship knowing I'm not going to get what I need and want is something I won't do.

Back to the op ... I guess your imagination and others' enjoyment and fulfillment will have to make up the difference for you.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 10:22:13 PM

aBondageTop

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Tried vanilla. Didn't work. Now I know better.

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/23/2009 11:20:20 PM

pompeii

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When it' snot there ... um ... it's not there. I know this well. It isn't coming. Waiting at the door, hoping things will change, hinting at what he should do ... forget it (sorry to say).

There is a solution ... just like there is a solution to every problem ...you have to decide what that solution is ... one is to wank when nobody's looking - the other is to find a partner in crime ... happens thousands of times a day to thousands of people every day ... there's an entire system set up to handle unmet needs .,(porn, prostitution, escorts, clubs, bars, dungeons, etc.).

Lucky you you're not the first person to have unmet needs ... now you can take advantage of the oldest system on the planet waiting for you to join 'em. Good luck to you and to all!

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/24/2009 12:33:09 AM

Surata

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

I don't know how to feel about giving you Spank Fodder........ Or is it called Something else when women do it?

Yep. The onomatopoeical term for it is schlocking. *grin*

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/25/2009 12:02:13 AM

jeninvegas

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Schlocking? LOL!!!

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/25/2009 7:55:21 AM

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quote:

I miss scening a whole lot.

If this is how you feel now, imagine what you will feel like fifteen years from now, when you realize you just wasted fifteen years of your life you can never claw back..

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RE: Missing it oh so much... - 8/25/2009 8:01:04 AM

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There's such a thing as "settling" that's been discussed ad infinitum on these boards.
You have to ask yourself and be able to answer yourself honestly as to whether or not that is what you are doing. While it is a good thing to be able to recognize that we will not all we fantasize about getting when we enter into a relationship and it is a good thing to be able to have the important things and do without some of the "fringes", in all honesty it does not sound to me like scening is a "fringe" benefit for you. It sounds like something important and in that case my question is this: how long can you do without it? Is it fair to yourself...or even to him...to give up a part of yourself that is important?

Personally, I won't. I make it clear pretty early on where my needs and wants in a D/s and romantic entanglement are in terms of what must be in place. These include sexual frequency, the importance of playing, the desire for a D/s structure to be in place and entwined with the romantic relationship, and the importance of rituals and intimacies that will be made to be solely ours. These are the basics and the levels can be adjusted up or down but within certain limits and one of those limits does not include elimination of any of them from my life.

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