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leadership527 -> Is it normal? Do I belong here? (8/22/2009 12:48:16 PM)
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OK, so lately I've been seeing these sorts of posts crop up a lot and I wanted to take a moment to provide simple answers to newcomers who are tempted to ask these questions. As the regulars know, I faced a lot of these same questions myself. So here's my lessons learned...
Do I belong here? Yes. If you found this site and are intrigued enough even to ask this question, then clearly you're finding commonality wth some of what you're reading. That means that some others will find interest in what you write. I see it as a given that if you're here to start with, you probably belong.
Is it normal that...? Yes. Or, more precisely, it's normal to be abnormal. People aren't normal in general. It's not just kinksters, it's all of us. There are SOME parts of my relationship which are common with SOME parts of other people's here. That's about the bet you're going to get. And insofar as "normal" in the broader sense... go ahead and try to crisply define that for yourself and you'll see how tenuous that concept is.
Will I find someone who likes...? Yes. Trust me on this. Us humans have been having sex for a long time. Whatever it is, you didn't invent it. Whatever it is, there are others who like it too. And if there were anywhere on the internet that'd such people would gravitate to, this is a pretty good guess.
How do I post without offending...?For starters, you can't. There are hundreds, if not thousands of posters here. Any given day, a few of them will be having a bad hair day. Don't let it get to you. It also helps a lot if you post from your personal viewpoint. Nobody can argue with statements that you make about yourself nor do such statements impose on others. I try to answer questions in the form of, "Well, Carol and I...." You can too. You're experience is just as valid as anyone elses. It goes wonky for the most part when a poster starts talking about what others should do.
Yeah, you belong here. Relax and wade in.
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