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Demetrius1029384 -> Starting... (8/15/2009 1:24:38 PM)
Well just to come out and say it.. I would like to start and host a munch in my area.. the closest one is almost 4 hr drive.. Any ideas on how I would go about talking to people about letting me host at their establishment and where to post where people might be able to find out about the meeting would be very helpful.. Thank You.

thishereboi -> RE: Starting... (8/15/2009 1:29:46 PM)
Find a restraunt close to home with a private room, call them and ask if they host private parties. We always tried to stay away from places that charged, but I guess that depends on where you live. In the Detroit area it was not a problem to find them. We usually told them that it was an adult internet group and I don't remember ever having any trouble with that. Then you have to let people in your area know about it so they can show up. Michigan has a yahoo group that announces all upcoming munches and events in the area and I am pretty sure NY would also. Good luck and don't get discouraged. Some months we had a lot of people and some months it was slower. It usually picked up in the winter months.

DarkSteven -> RE: Starting... (8/15/2009 1:30:58 PM)
Getting the venue is the easy part. Go to a restaurant or bar and say that you want to have a group get together at their place. Some attendees will order food and drinks, some will not. Especially if you pick a slow night like a Monday or Tuesday night, there should be no problem. Don't mention the nature of the group - it'll be a vanilla meeting anyway. Google for BDSM groups in your area to see where you should list.

Demetrius1029384 -> RE: Starting... (8/15/2009 1:34:01 PM)
Ok well I believe I found a place already.. Where would be a good place to post a d/t/l where people would find out and not offend the vanilla world??

DavanKael -> RE: Starting... (8/15/2009 2:39:02 PM)
You can post a meet-up, you can create a yahoo group, you can partner with local groups to publicize your event, you can post it on here in the appropriate section, etc. Best wishes, Davan

LadyPact -> RE: Starting... (8/15/2009 3:17:38 PM)
I'm in pretty much the same position as you are, OP. There isn't much of an active community here, so it looks like I'll be starting one. If nothing else, it means that MP has to take Me out to dinner once a month! LOL.

Demetrius1029384 -> RE: Starting... (8/15/2009 4:59:45 PM)
Never thought of that Miss LadyPact thank you.. I live in a bigger city.. Not a huge city like NYC but its still huge.. and surrounding cities are nice sized.. I mean theres cooperstown.. home of the baseball hall of fame.. the soccer hall of fame is right here in town.. nice sized cities here.. not sure why there isn't an active community local to here.. and why they are all over the major cities instead..

LadyPact -> RE: Starting... (8/17/2009 10:51:51 PM)
The answer to that can boil down to pure numbers. More people in bigger cities generally means there are more people interested in kink. Often, bigger cities will also have actual clubs, but the munches exist because it gives folks a chance to get to know each other where they can talk in a vanilla setting over dinner. What will often happen is that folks in surrounding areas don't see the need to start groups within a certain distance because there is already a functioning group just how ever far away. Don't let that discourage you. If you're feeling that however far it is to attend whatever munch is too far, there's a chance that there are other people close to you who feel the same way. Granted, when you're first starting out, it might just be you, sitting there having coffee by yourself because nobody else came. Other times, out of the blue, people will show up. From month to month, you might never know. I figure, the worst that can happen is that I get time to read a good BDSM related book.

littlesarbonn -> RE: Starting... (8/17/2009 11:02:24 PM)
I once couldn't find anyone in Michigan, so I got peeved and started my own group. Then a couple of months in, it actually was pretty popular. And then one of the local wannabe leaders decided he really needed to be leader of this group. A few months later, he revealed he didn't like me so I got shunned out of the group by him. I never got to attend the munch any further because he decided to take it private. [:(]

pompeii -> RE: Starting... (8/18/2009 3:48:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn I never got to attend the munch any further because he decided to take it private. Seems to me, if a "munch" is private, it's not a munch. Out here, in the San Francisco bay area, it seems almost every third town has a munch. To the OP, you can also start a mailing list to generate interest.

SouthernSpankin -> RE: Starting... (8/18/2009 1:04:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Demetrius1029384 Well just to come out and say it.. I would like to start and host a munch in my area.. the closest one is almost 4 hr drive.. Any ideas on how I would go about talking to people about letting me host at their establishment and where to post where people might be able to find out about the meeting would be very helpful.. Thank You. Regarding getting people interested in attending: go to the Collarme.com personals site and find everybody in your area, and then write them a letter explaining that you are putting together a local BDSM group and ask them if they are interested. Since the closest one is a four-hour drive away, I'm sure you will get replies saying that they would be interested in that, and some people even offering to help you out. Other than Collarme, you can go to the other BDSM sites like this one -- doing the same thing -- finding locals into BDSM and inviting them to participate. Other than that, create places on the web for your central New York state BDSM group... a webpage, a blog, a yahoo group, etc. Those sites will get picked up by google, and when people search "central new york bdsm" or "oneonta bdsm" or "otsego bdsm" or "cooperstown bdsm" or whatever, they will find your group.

pompeii -> RE: Starting... (8/19/2009 3:50:30 AM)
Taking that previous suggestion further, you could get on the calendar of other munches' web sites (e.g., contact the web admin). Likewise, get on the mailing list and discussion forum for other munches and discreetly mention that you have a munch too. Here are my three local munches' web sites in the three surrounding towns where I live in the San Francisco south bay or example (there are many more munches - these are just the three in the towns surrounding me). SAN JOSE MONDAY: http://www.smodyssey.com/?q=node/8 PALO ALTO WEDNESDAY: http://www.themunch.org/ CAMPBELL WEEKLY FRIDAY: http://southerncrossmunch.blogspot.com/

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