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RE: Playing From a Bad Place - 7/24/2009 3:30:48 AM

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it depends on the pain, for me.

fibro pain? yes on the playtime AND sex after AND then a hot bath.

sick? leave me alone, or snuggles

where i've been lately? with a gut so inflamed i could not bend over to pick up a towel without whimpering? dont touch me. no hugs, no nothing. stop TOUCHING me. i-will-call-you-everything-but-a-well-mannered-gentleman-if-you-touch-me-again!!!!

*sighs* the meds are finally working (now that the dosage is increased) so hopefully, soon. but DAYUM the last 2 months have been hell......

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RE: Playing From a Bad Place - 7/24/2009 6:14:50 AM

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I've read all the responses and the opinions really vary greatly. I find that very interesting. And oddly enough, I still don't have an opinion of my own yet.

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RE: Playing From a Bad Place - 7/24/2009 6:21:30 AM

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I think it all really depends on the individuals involved, their temperment, where exactly their heads are at, and how they react to each other.

For example, sometimes despite bad moods or frustrating days a good spanking or some other form of play can be just the thing to turn it around. But at other times it could be a mistake to go there. I don't see any simple dividing line because people are different... they're complex. Some days for me personally, giving a lass a good spanking would perk me right up... other days and other situations, I wouldn't even be interested and being pressured for it would annoy me. Knowing someone well makes these sorts of things easier to deal with... you get a sense where that "grey line" is.

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RE: Playing From a Bad Place - 7/24/2009 6:22:28 AM

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No not wise. I have played with issues going on in my life which at the time I believed bore no relevance and were issues in my 'private life'. bah! No such thing. I experienced sub-drop and then a full blown catharsis and then who was the only person I felt I could turn to to share this with? The then Master. Also not wise. It was the wedge that drove itself between us and in the realisation that I could not and would never be able to share emotional issues of that nature with this man I released myself.
No: not doing that again ever.

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RE: Playing From a Bad Place - 7/25/2009 7:03:29 AM

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Two more responses and two more opposing views, both of which I tend to agree with to some extent. I know how settling play can be when things are out of sorts, but I can also see where things could get out of hand. I can see it as being an occassional and temporary respite or an unhealthy means of dealing with problems.

Others' experiences? Opinions?

Thanks!

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