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Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 9:24:35 AM   
ExKat


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Status: offline 		Ex and I are about to move in together, and it seems like I'll be getting a new, different set of rules to go along with it. He has plenty of ideas, and I'm interested to know what everyone else does.

What rules do you have/have to follow around the house? Are there any that seemed like a good idea but weren't (being naked all the time with snoopy neighbors, or frequent surprise visitors)?

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 11:17:02 AM   
BoundDragon


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Status: offline 		Ooooo, I like this question. You have got me thinking.

I am yet to move n with Sir, it is in the very near future though and all I know is that I will have to learn how to keep neat and tidy (instead of living with my usual organised mess).

Hmmm.... I wander what other conditions he may come up with.

Damn it... now I'm really curious myself!!!!

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 11:54:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		These are a few rules I have for my submissive;

. No sexual playing with yourself unless asked – it also means it has to be asked if you can cum or not. If not you are allowed to play it just means you can’t go all the way.

Shaving – All private areas are to be shaved and smooth especially before any sexual activity or coming within contact with the Ms. And is subject to inspection at any time.
Plug Training starting at 2 hrs a day working up to all day, alternating between vaginal or anal.
Naked at times that is allowed. - We keep a robe or long night shirt close by for the just in cases.


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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 12:10:57 PM   
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quote:

I'll be getting a new, different set of rules to go along with it. He has plenty of ideas


personally I like rules because they ad something or prevent soemthing. I don't like rules in a house..because they sound lifestylish.

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 12:15:39 PM   
Drakontos


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Status: offline 		zaphira is naked always, unless Master say's otherwise. If company comes to the house, Master either tells zaphira to put on clothing or to not put on clothing, it depends on his mood. If Master is gone, and someone comes to the door, zaphira is not allowed to answer, no matter who it is.
Other standing rules include:
zaphira is not allowed to use the phone unless she has first asked permission and Master has granted it.
zaphira is not allowed to watch television or use the computer without first asking permission and Master has granted it.
zaphira is not allowed out of the house without first asking permission and Master has granted it.
zaphira is not allowed to speak without first asking permission and Master has granted it.
There are more, but zaphira believes that this gives a pretty good idea of what the rules are for Master's home.

To date, zaphira has found nothing wrong with these rules and has had no issue with following them.

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 1:50:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like your rules but can I ask how you ask for permission to speak ?

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 1:52:18 PM   
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personally I like rules because they ad something or prevent soemthing. I don't like rules in a house..because they sound lifestylish.




oops typo

I meant

quote:

personally I like rules only if they ad something or prevent something. I don't like rules in a house..because they sound lifestylish.

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 1:53:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		As of now, Sir has not issued a list's length of rules for me ,but, what rules there are in place are as follows:

1. As long as Sir is present and able, I am forbidden to light my own ciggarette.  If he is only detained for a few moments,  I must wait till he is available and then approach him.  The only exception to this rule is when we are in the truck and he is driving.  At that point I am simply to let him know I am lighting it before I do so. 

2.  There are no closed doors in the house between He and I-this includes when I go to the bathroom-unless I'm given prior approval to do so.  I directly disobeyed this only once, when I took a Xanax and any measure of self control went out the window.  I was already frustrated  with Sir over something but the Xanax took away my ability to restrain myself.  Once I was in my right mind again, Sir gave me a stern talking to and only adminstered a reminder spanking as He took into account I was "bratting under the influence" at the time. I don't think he would be so inclined to give me the same latitude should it happen again though.

3. Never get Sir's attention by yelling out "hey!" before addressing him as Sir.  It's a pet peave of His and I'm in no position to argue with it.
4. Because I live with both my Sir, and my Daddy/husband, any open disrespect shown to Daddy , Sir will hold me accountable for  as Daddy does not practice the lifestyle 24/7-mostly in the bedroom-and Sir is my Dom 24hrs a day.
5.  I am never to put on or take off my own collar that I wear during play sessions.  Sir decides when it's time for those as they signal the official beginning and ending of any session. 
Of course, there are the elementary elements respect and protocol that Sir can enforce or relax at His discretion.  I'm sure as time progresses, Sir has other rules he plans to put in place, but, is patiently waiting for the right timing and my readiness for them.
dove

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 1:55:08 PM   
taaliba


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Status: offline 		In the past, house rules i have had include not being allowed to sit on anything other than a cushion on the floor on which i couldkneel or sit unless stated otherwise.  Alongside having to clean the house in specified uniform, cook all meals, ask permission to use the bathroom etc....

Every couples tastes are different x

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 2:00:38 PM   
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I like your rules but can I ask how you ask for permission to speak ?


Does seem a bit of a contradiction doesn't it? I've often wondered how many sub types get smacked in the mouth for speaking the words, "may I have permission to speak?"

Or how about this exchange during a flogging:

subbie: "Sir/Ma'am my I have permission to speak?"

His/Her Domliness: "Yes you may, my pet."

subbie: "Ouch!!!"

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 2:34:28 PM   
antipode


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quote:

being naked all the time with snoopy neighbors


That's always a big issue. I bought a house in the country, on wooded acreage, no worries, no excuses...

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 2:42:13 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Make his tea in the morning and put it by his chair in the kitchen, then wake him up and tell him where it is. If I bring it in, he falls back asleep dreaming that he's up and drinking it.

Don't open doors for myself unless he's really overloaded. Ignore the comments of our daughters and their rolled eyes. The boys oddly enough don't have a problem with this, only the girls.

No fruit ice cream, especially no berry fudge ripple.

If he's out of town, then one email for every five posts. I need an abacus to keep count.

If he's using the play collar then he puts it off and takes it off. Try to find time with no kids about to straighten out the rope bag so it's neat for next time.

Basically, the rules come about as he finds something he doesn't like and corrects it.

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 2:42:22 PM   
Drakontos


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missykink

I like your rules but can I ask how you ask for permission to speak ?

zaphira simply goes into the same room that Master is in, sits down on the floor and waits for him to acknowledge her. It was explained to zaphira early on in their relationship, that this is what zaphira had to do if she wished to speak to him.

quote:

Does seem a bit of a contradiction doesn't it?

It is only a contradiction when others fail to see that there are other ways of speaking other than opening one's mouth.

quote:

Or how about this exchange during a flogging:

subbie: "Sir/Ma'am my I have permission to speak?"

His/Her Domliness: "Yes you may, my pet."

subbie: "Ouch!!!"

Such would never happen with zaphira. Master does not partake of BDSM activities with his property.

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 2:53:47 PM   
amaidiamond


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drakontos


quote:

ORIGINAL: Missykink

I like your rules but can I ask how you ask for permission to speak ?

zaphira simply goes into the same room that Master is in, sits down on the floor and waits for him to acknowledge her. It was explained to zaphira early on in their relationship, that this is what zaphira had to do if she wished to speak to him.

quote:

Does seem a bit of a contradiction doesn't it?

It is only a contradiction when others fail to see that there are other ways of speaking other than opening one's mouth.

quote:

Or how about this exchange during a flogging:

subbie: "Sir/Ma'am my I have permission to speak?"

His/Her Domliness: "Yes you may, my pet."

subbie: "Ouch!!!"

Such would never happen with zaphira. Master does not partake of BDSM activities with his property.


I would totally agree that there are other ways to speak.
No BDSM activities at all? I have to admit that confuses me a little as I feel that submission/slavery itself is part of BDSM

Rules I have lived by

Masturbation/orgasm rules
smoking limits/unable to light cig
Rituals
internet limitations
diarys
things in their place
tv limits
curfew when out
dietry limits/requirements

theres more i cant think of right now

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 3:04:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: amaidiamond
I would totally agree that there are other ways to speak.
No BDSM activities at all? I have to admit that confuses me a little as I feel that submission/slavery itself is part of BDSM


i agree....to a point.

i am still his submissive and still his slave without being beaten, or being tied, or any of those other fun activities that we arent doing right now.

i still obey his rules (to be specific, TheEngineer's rules.  i am no longer bound to *obey* Daddy other than by showing him respect and love in the emails we exchange.  i moved away with his blessings, and we are no longer "together", but i am still owned.)

i am still his cherished belonging.  this means i have certain things i have to do to take care of his property, and those include personal hygiene, taking my medications, making sure to inform him if something is going wrong (he had to make that a rule, i'm devious and we both know this).

right now....we cant be intimate, we cant scene, we cant do a LOT of the things we were doing for a while.  i'm in constant pain, and if we cant get that under control, some stuff we just cant do.  but that doesnt stop me doing the things i *can* do, or obeying his rules.

it may not be *your* BDSM but it works for us. 

kitten

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 3:14:43 PM   
ishyB


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Status: offline 		Greetings,

I started writing a list but when I got around to about the twentieth rule I realize I wasn't going to be able to provide a whole list anyways.

zaphira's rules are pretty similar to mine, but when I was writing them down I realized that they have never been defined in a clear order.
Nobody ever told me that I'm not allowed to watch TV without asking, and still I know that that's the case because they have got one simple rule in place: I beg for anything I want/need/like.

That ranges from anything between using the bathroom, getting a glass of water for myself, mastrubating, leaving the house, to using the TV/phone/computer/furniture, basically anything you can imagine.

Other than that:
- I'm sit kneeling with my knees apart (nadu) regardless of where I am (yes this includes in public) unless otherwise specified by Master or Mistress.
- I heel them when we go somewhere, meaning that I walk a pace or two behind them to their left.
- I open the doors for them. Which sometimes leads to hilarious situations because I am walking behind them and then at the last minute 'racing' gracefully to the door to open it in time. I've not yet ran into either of them so far, but it seems inevitable that it will happen eventually...
- In situations where I know I'm allowed to sit down on chairs, like the car or a restaurant, I always wait to sit till they are seated.
- I am required to make sure that both Master and Mistress always have a drink at hand during the day and night. The last thing I do at night is place a drink besides on their nightstand and the first thing I do when they get up is get them a fresh drink or a cup of coffee.
- I cannot leave the house without having made the beds and have cleaned up the kitchen counter and sinks.

I wish you well,

ishy


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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 3:25:50 PM   
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No BDSM activities at all? I have to admit that confuses me a little as I feel that submission/slavery itself is part of BDSM

Perhaps for most; but for zaphira, her relationship with Master is one of service only; this service does NOT include BDSM activities or sexual activities. zaphira usually refers to herself as property, but this seems to confuse most; so she instead uses the word slave

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 3:30:06 PM   
amaidiamond


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ORIGINAL: pixidustpet

quote:

ORIGINAL: amaidiamond
I would totally agree that there are other ways to speak.
No BDSM activities at all? I have to admit that confuses me a little as I feel that submission/slavery itself is part of BDSM


i agree....to a point.

i am still his submissive and still his slave without being beaten, or being tied, or any of those other fun activities that we arent doing right now.

i still obey his rules (to be specific, TheEngineer's rules.  i am no longer bound to *obey* Daddy other than by showing him respect and love in the emails we exchange.  i moved away with his blessings, and we are no longer "together", but i am still owned.)

i am still his cherished belonging.  this means i have certain things i have to do to take care of his property, and those include personal hygiene, taking my medications, making sure to inform him if something is going wrong (he had to make that a rule, i'm devious and we both know this).

right now....we cant be intimate, we cant scene, we cant do a LOT of the things we were doing for a while.  i'm in constant pain, and if we cant get that under control, some stuff we just cant do.  but that doesnt stop me doing the things i *can* do, or obeying his rules.

it may not be *your* BDSM but it works for us. 

kitten



Hi there, I totally understand that - I think I need to clarify what I mean by BDSM activities,
To me, BDSM is not about sex of scening, it is about power exchange and control - so if i am owned by someone regardles of if we "play" it is still to me BDSM..... if i am controled it is BDSM - maybe not playing but the control is the key point.

I'm unsure if that makes sense but i hope so.


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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 3:32:12 PM   
amaidiamond


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Drakontos

quote:

No BDSM activities at all? I have to admit that confuses me a little as I feel that submission/slavery itself is part of BDSM

Perhaps for most; but for zaphira, her relationship with Master is one of service only; this service does NOT include BDSM activities or sexual activities. zaphira usually refers to herself as property, but this seems to confuse most; so she instead uses the word slave


Hi, that makes sense - i think the difference being is that for me service is BDSM, like if i am cleaning his house or obaying his commands in any way (not necessarily sexual) it is BDSM...
For me, cleaning shoes is a BDSM activity if it is something i have been told to do by someone i am in a D/s or M/s relationship with.
I hope that makes sense, my clarity is lacking at 11.30 :)

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RE: Rules around the house - 7/19/2009 3:32:18 PM   
Drakontos


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Hi, that makes sense - i think the difference being is that for me service is BDSM, like if i am cleaning his house or obaying his commands in any way (not necessarily sexual) it is BDSM...
For me, cleaning shoes is a BDSM activity if it is something i have been told to do by someone i am in a D/s or M/s relationship with.
I hope that makes sense, my clarity is lacking at 11.30 :)

*grins* It makes perfect sense. You and zaphira just see the same 'word' as different things is all. zaphira sees it more of play (flogging, caning, scening, etc ).


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