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Exchanging "bdsm" for mothering/hugs? - 7/14/2009 11:23:55 AM

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Over the course of about 7 -9 months here I have talked to and met several men who initially started out with the usual BDSM discussions as to how we would match..hwo they would serve..checking out commanlities etc meeting for coffee etc and some initial meetings..

MANY times now..when we get right to the core of what the man wants and desires it is not BDSM or sexual kink
but nurturing and mothering....hugging ..holding..

For some the kink( age play..AB..DOm mom) gets in there WITH this as a trigger but
for the several..all they really wanted was someone to hold them..

I remember a saying back in the day
"(SOME)Men exchange affection for sex..(Some)women exchange sex for affection"

but I see it can go both ways.

I have engaged with two men and that is all that occured...
I held them..kissed them and hugged..them ...giving a Goddess energy as I believe in Goddess( not as in serve me.I'm a sex Goddess)

The process was profound..and amazing.It was as if they puffed to twice thier size..breathed easier and were re-newed and refreshed.

One man told me I should set up a professional HEALING HUG service...where men could lay on my lap and be held.

I would LOVE to do this..
AT this point in time I am bursting with a huge MOTHER energy
and have so much to give.. and it is a if I love every man I come in contact with..as a Great Mother energy anyway
I rememeber when studying with OSHO in India..he assigned me to
a man who came by for 1/2 hr a day to suckle breasts...thats it..
it changed his life.

What do you think?
Do you think it would be a valuable service or a corny cheesy notion?
DO you think ppl would come? ** no jokes

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RE: Exchanging "bdsm" for mothering/hugs? - 7/14/2009 11:29:05 AM

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I've shared with you that I thought/felt that you gave off tremendous Mother Earth energy.

What to do with it?
I don't know, but i am pretty sure Goddess will lead you.

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RE: Exchanging "bdsm" for mothering/hugs? - 7/14/2009 11:33:44 AM

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What do you think?
Do you think it would be a valuable service or a corny cheesy notion?
DO you think ppl would come?

I am sure some would, I mean Primal Scream therapy has a market, as do "healing circles" and many other bizarre seeming therapies. Personally I think that many people, not just men, would benefit from some good old fashioned mothering TLC at times. I know that when things are going particularly rough for me, a friendly hug can make things seem not so bad.

I am not sure about the legalities of starting a business along those lines, if one would need to be a licensed psychologist or something like that, but I think the idea definatly warrents further examination.

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RE: Exchanging "bdsm" for mothering/hugs? - 7/14/2009 12:13:25 PM

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The idea of touch as therapy is something that makes sense to me. Holding someone, regardless of the why and the wherefore is a wonderful gift. I've experienced this as both a giver and a reciever.
In the bdsm sense, this is why aftercare is so important for me. Both participants have exposed so much of who they are (I need more than just physical stimulation, again both as a giver and reciever) and there's a rawness...an exposure of the core...that only holding/touching/hugging can aid in coming down or grounding. I have rarely experienced this with the doms I've been with which could, along with other reasons, explain the lack of longevity of these relationships.

My experience with submissive males has been that if they're able to look beyond the kink/physical aspect of the experience and connect with that exposed rawness I mentioned, they're more than open...if not needy for...the "nurturing hug".

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I would LOVE to do this..
AT this point in time I am bursting with a huge MOTHER energy
and have so much to give.. and it is a if I love every man I come in contact with..as a Great Mother energy anyway
I rememeber when studying with OSHO in India..he assigned me to
a man who came by for 1/2 hr a day to suckle breasts...thats it..
it changed his life.

This quote is an example of just how beautiful touch can be.
May I ask if you've heard of Amma? http://www.amritapuri.org/amma/who/darshan/
A quote from the website reminds me of what you talk about...
"Amma's hugs and kisses should not be considered ordinary. When Amma embraces or kisses someone, it is a process of purification and inner healing. Amma is transmitting a part of Her pure, vital energy into Her children. It also allows them to experience true, unconditional Love. When Amma holds someone it can help to awaken the dormant spiritual energy within them, which will eventually take them to the ultimate goal of Self-realization."

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What do you think?
Do you think it would be a valuable service or a corny cheesy notion?
DO you think ppl would come?

A valuable service? Yes
Corny cheesy notion? No
Would people come? Those that need it and realize the value.

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RE: Exchanging "bdsm" for mothering/hugs? - 7/14/2009 5:53:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN
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What do you think?
Do you think it would be a valuable service or a corny cheesy notion?
DO you think ppl would come? ** no jokes

I certainly think yes to all of the above.

There have been times in my life where my submissive needs were very strong, but couldn't be met. I was blessed with a very caring pro-Domme. It was a lot more than just a fun time, it was a release and a great comfort that I really needed. There are certainly people who have similar needs for a nuturer and are at places in their lives where those needs can't be met. Why not a pro-nurturer? I think it would be a very valuable service.

More importantly, you seem very interested in providing this kind of support. You sound like it is something you would take pleasure in doing for others. I think that is the key to any job, especially one where you're hired to do something for another. If it is something you resent or just a pay check, you wont be any good at it.

I am certain you know this, but it is too important to go without saying. (Please do not take this as disrespect for your experience.) You are certain to get many of the kinky mommy play fantasies that are more about punishment or molestation than nurturing. Know how you feel about these things before you get asked the question.

I wish you the best of luck and hope you do well.

Mutt

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RE: Exchanging "bdsm" for mothering/hugs? - 7/14/2009 6:29:43 PM

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I've gotta say I didn't know where you were going with that at first but after I imagined it and thought of long past encounters of goddess like females that did just that a warm embrace with no other expectations that this is a wonderful idea it makes me wonder If I would be a calmer person now if these people were still in my life!

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