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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth
Also, here's a little heuristic I like to follow:
1) Can I do something about this (whatever I'm worrying about)?
A) If YES, branch to 2.
B) If NO, branch to 5.
C) If MAYBE, branch to 8.
2) I have effect on the situation. Is it time-critical that I affect the situation immediately? (i.e., is there a "window of opportunity" that will pass if I don't act quickly?)
A) If YES, branch to 3.
B) If NO, branch to 8.
3) It doesn't matter if what I'm about to do is the most effective thing to do; something needs to be done, and I'm in a position to do it. Let's get it done, and later, when we have the luxury of more time, we can re-examine and learn lessons for handling things more efficiently next time.
4) While working, did we make a mess that needs to be cleaned up, or leave any dangling/unresolved issues?
A) If YES, branch back to 1.
B) If NO, branch to 5.
C) If MAYBE, branch to 8.
5) Well, look at that. We don't have anything positive to contribute to the situation. Time to move on! Relax; make yourself a drink. Go for a walk. Invite some friends over for homemade cheesecake. Isn't life nice?
6) Are we still worrying about things we don't need to fix or can't control anyways? Why?
7) While we've been tracing back all the reasons why we're worrying about things we can't control, have we found something we CAN control?
A) If YES, branch back to 1.
B) If NO, branch back to 5.
C) if MAYBE, branch back to 8.
8) Huh. We're not quite sure what's going on. We need more data!
9) Guess what? "Needing more data" is a thing we can do something about! Branch back to 1!
THAT is AWESOME!!! Thank you so much.
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RE: how do you not worry all the time? - 
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You sound just like Lumus, Arpig. I'll be worrying like crazy, getting into a dither or massively stressed about something and He'll just look at me and say "so what the fuck are you worrying about? There's not a damned thing you can do about it so don't let it bother you. When you can do something about it, just do it and stop stressing." That usually gets me to stop a little and find something to distract me, like a book, knitting, a game or movie. Or come on here and bring my attitude to the boards. 
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