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RE: Newly Owned - 7/8/2009 8:31:14 PM

rayne221

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Okay...i'll go out on a limb and while i think all the responses are very viable possibilities, i'll throw out another suggestion to you, albeit it maybe a long-shot.
Does he have some STD perhaps which he has not confided in you, that he has?

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RE: Newly Owned - 7/9/2009 6:47:44 AM

chamberqueen

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painslave, by letting him know your needs you will not ruin the relationship. It already isn't working for you.

I would suggest telling him what you told us - that you are not sure how long you can continue to serve because you are not allowed to please him in ways he has promised. You can put it respectfully, and show that you are more concerned about his needs than your own. You sense that you are being cheated, and that that mental frame you cannot be happy. If he is all promises but no action and that hurts you then you deserve a better relationship. You won't be a failure if he chooses to walk because you called his bluff.

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RE: Newly Owned - 7/13/2009 6:48:10 PM

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Well, just a quick update. Being the chicken that I am I haven't talked to him. We do have some fun moments together, but not much has changed otherwise. Again, I think I've received some excellent advice from all of you. I'm just a little depressed about the whole situation right now. Not sure where it's headed.

I do want to address one comment. The possibility that he has an STD. I too have thought about this. I can tell you that we talked about all of this before hand and we both let each other know that we've been tested and tested negative for STD's. Now I know that it's possible he is not telling me the truth, but I really don't think so. I don't think he has lied about anything to me yet anyways. All I can do is hope he is telling me the truth.

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RE: Newly Owned - 7/16/2009 6:28:22 PM

Bruticus

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I have to ask - are bi male or gay dominants really that hard to find in Atlanta and / or Kansas? (Helps to read the profile, no?) You keep talking about how you don't want to lose him - like he's the most precious resource on Earth - but in reading what you've written, I don't think you're in love with him.

Your dedication to being submissive (i.e. waiting for him to get around to fucking your brains out) is somewhat admirable, but also a little worrisome. You have to understand that he has a responsibility to you, too - contract or no contract. You identify yourself as a slave, which means that you have certain needs. Sex slaves need to be used and abused, and he's clearly not doing that. It's no wonder you're frustrated.

Something that (in my mind) a good dominant understands is that domination is a responsibility as well as a privilege - and submission is a gift. If he doesn't get that, maybe you should consider finding someone who does. You sound like you'd make a wonderful slave for a bi/gay Dom - and he, whoever he may be, would be lucky to have you.

Good luck.

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RE: Newly Owned - 7/16/2009 10:16:28 PM

crouchingtigress

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Oh honey, you need to talk to him, I know you are "chicken", but have you really thought about the cost of your silence and fear?

You have factored in your unhappiness...sure...but as you get more and more unhappy, wham there goes your service and your focus, and passive aggressive things start to happen.

When that starts, bitterness and anger start to take root, and before you know it your relationship is a thorny forest that you both get lost in..

So what are you really scared of?

Him dumping you? Well he is not much of a catch if he wont talk to you.

Walk up to him and simply say Sir we need to talk.....Dont back down.

Ill be waiting to see how it goes...

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