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DomManSweden -> How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 1:46:55 AM)

I have been active here a month or two. I have contacted and been contacted by a number of women. Of them have unfortunately most wanted me to contact them through my private mail to their private mail. Some wanted me to call them directly to for example Africa. Since I refuse to speak in any other medium than this, part of contacts has ended. Those who have continued, after a while allowed me to understand that I must pay a fee for them to be able to move. For example, pay their travel when they arrived I can imagine doing, but it has so far not been raised. Instead evidence of classic fraud stories appear, a large inheritance which awaits them and some money must be paid to get a lot of money. I'm sure of you have heard it before. Typical Nigeria letter scam. In some cases it's about they are bought and sold and now bought again.

What I am now looking for is a way to quickly find out the degree of honesty of new contacts in the future. I don't want to waste my time and do not want to realize, in many cases, after a rather long correspondence. Do not think that all goes to reveal soon, some are credible a very long time.

So please give me the tip on one / some ways to help me to reveal them?

Regards
DomManSweden

P.S. However, I would of course love to find "the right person" here and I want to believe the best of all who contacts me. Not ALL of the women has been talking about money but at least 80%.




PyrotheClown -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 1:49:24 AM)

I dunno, but for just a few dollars, I can investigate the matter for you
(sorry, had to do it, don't worry, there will be a thousand more responses like this)



Fitznicely -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 2:07:08 AM)

Red flags (for me, at any rate):

- They're REALLY into you, from the getgo
- They've sent the same mail as that girl did a couple of days ago.
- They want money, ANY money
- They want to contact you through your MSN/Yahoo account soon - and the address they give you is something like "[email protected]"
- They're stuck in a training camp and their evil, but lovely Master is wanting to sell them on/they hate it and need your help to leave

There's more, I'm sure...



ster -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 2:08:34 AM)

It's a shame that the scammers have discovered collarme, for a long time (in holland anyway) it was a site that you only found through serious search.
However you are not unique, many on here including me are now getting these requests.

My solution is simple
I correspond on this site untill I know them better
and ignore it -
If the profile picture is of a beautifull young thing,
The initial mail is always very standard - cut and copy.
They immediately include an email address.
Look for a partner within easy travel distance for you. Because if it is real you will often be making that trip.

Don't send money and after several exchanges talk to the other person on the phone.
 



SavageFaerie -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 2:42:54 AM)

and dont forget the weight and height ratio, 65 pounds and 6'4"

Scams are so easy to figure out.

I rarley get any, I guess they dont go for switches.



sirsholly -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 2:47:08 AM)

if they say "i love you" in the first paragraph, they might be a scammer



PyrotheClown -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 2:47:26 AM)

I don't get any either...



not many scammers either



flogger -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 2:58:28 AM)

To this day he/she with a bunch of pretty pics is still trying to get me to send them money for a plane ticket out of??????



GrizzlyBear -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 3:02:50 AM)

I live in a somewhat remote area.  My profile says no more than a days drive away.  If they are on another continent, or clearly are not a native speaker of my language, they are scammers, guaranteed.  Or stupid, which amounts to the same thing as far as I'm concerned.



wandersalone -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 3:04:09 AM)

They send you a very long email saying that they just happened to be browsing profiles and saw yours and immediately had to write blah blah blah and they mention wanting to marry you [8|]

also a tendancy to be American's who just happen to currently be working in Africa somewhere (these are the scam emails from men I get so it may be a bit different to the ones women send)



pahunkboy -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 3:18:49 AM)

...SHHH!  We cant tell.





DarkSteven -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 4:59:28 AM)

There are numerous specific things I could mention.  But I have heard that collarme hopes that a full blown discussion will not take place, because them the scammers might stumble onto it and become more sophisticated.

Generally, a letter that offers unconditional love and mentions nothing specific about my profile or my posts, from a lovely woman who would have no problem finding dozens of men within three miles of her but lives 7000 miles away, is a scam.



angelikaJ -> RE: How to detect a scam? (6/26/2009 6:03:57 AM)

You could set your email filters to divert the emails from africa to your bulk mail folder.

I would suggest looking for people who live relatively close to you.



flogger -> RE: How to detect a scam? (7/16/2009 12:46:29 AM)

West Africa is knocking on my mail box this week. She got a nice young picture to pitch.



Gauge -> RE: How to detect a scam? (7/16/2009 8:35:48 AM)

I still insist that I am not a scammer. I mean, I know in my profile I am 6' 1" etc. but my picture is really actual size. This tends to make people think I am lying.

If you send me $9.95 I will send you a picture of me standing next to a ruler. For a bonus (and this is a limited time offer) I will throw in a pair of worn socks.



UglyTruth -> RE: How to detect a scam? (7/16/2009 9:03:25 AM)

If they ask for money, they might be trying to scam you.



Esinn -> RE: How to detect a scam? (7/16/2009 9:44:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

if they say "i love you" in the first paragraph, they might be a scammer



So, she really did not love me?  Shit!  I wish I read this when I fist signed up!

:D



Missokyst -> RE: How to detect a scam? (7/16/2009 10:01:15 AM)

You males tend to get the scammers that always end up needing money.  Women get the scammers that could care less about a relationship they just want a fast BJ.  We all get something but fortunately most of that happens in your first 3 months of joining, then dwindles down to nothing. 
What I tell people most is forget the ds part when you are in the early stages of communicating.  Ask what they like to do that is not kink.  Ask if they are employed and though you don't need to know in what company but that you are interested in the type of work they have chosen.  Ask if they have family and what their relationship is like.  Ask.. get to know you as a person, type of questions.  The less sophisticated scammers will generally send you a programmed response which have nothing to do with anything you asked. 
Kyst



Gauge -> RE: How to detect a scam? (7/16/2009 10:04:47 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst
Women get the scammers that could care less about a relationship they just want a fast BJ. 


You say this as if it is a bad thing? [;)]



Missokyst -> RE: How to detect a scam? (7/16/2009 10:08:03 AM)

LOL
quote:

ORIGINAL: Gauge


quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst
Women get the scammers that could care less about a relationship they just want a fast BJ. 


You say this as if it is a bad thing? [;)]



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