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maia09 -> RE: Flexing your dominant or submissive muscles (6/24/2009 10:08:58 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Lockit
I can see Leadership's point in being careful when interpreting someone's intentions. Yet, I think that is how I function... by my interpretation of whatever I see. When I have told myself to not be so something or other and give people a chance to prove me wrong or something to that effect, I am often sorry I did! lol I learned to listen to my gut instincts and experience to determine many things and not to doubt them. When I feel someone is playing a game, I don't just go on that, I wait things out and let whatever is going on be proved to me in a more solid way most of the time, but sometimes... I just roll my eyes and go with my gut. lol
I know I can be seen in different ways and people have been shocked at how much heart I have because they see me outside my posts. I have had different posting styles through the years and have become very direct and maybe even jaded or judgemental at times. I do try to look at this.
But sometimes you know someone is just trying to impress or smooth talk their way into something and it is just a turn off. I want to see who they are, not who they think they need to be because of a title basically.
There was a guy I was talking to that did the slave talk in a serious way. I finally just told him to stop it and stop it now and talk to me without it and just as one person to another. Actually I have talked to a number of men who did this but this one stands out far more. All of a sudden I was talking to another person and I asked questions of course. He did it because he thought it was expected by all dominants and it was the way it was supposed to be and he wanted to impress me. I was far more impressed with the person he was after he stopped trying to impress me.
i so agree with listening to one's gut instincts. i used to do the same thing - "oh it's just your perception" well - yes, it is and my perception happens to be my experience and i've learned to trust it too. In terms of "slave speak" for lack of a better term. If it's not asked for by the D, then i view it as a manipulation to attempt to get the Dominant to act in accordance with the so-called sub or slave's desires or needs. i don't view it as service to the D at all, just another way of getting the fix they want. From my perspective, my position with my Master is to serve Him in whatever way He wishes. If he wants me to be funny and amusing, then i have the opportunity to use my wit. If He desires a high degree of respect and protocol, then i can access that part of me. But there's a difference between pretending to be something and accessing different aspects of my personality in order to fulfill my Master's wishes.
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