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ORIGINAL: Lockit
What do you think when you see someone presenting themselves as a title type thing and acting as one should in that place rather than just being themselves or am I seeing it that way and its not really that way?

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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

The only reason I do the capitalization thing is so as to not piss other people off.  I've gotten my ass chewed by people more than once for not doing it before.  I would much rather capitalize according to proper English usage, like I am in this post.  I think I will start doing that now.  Thank you leadership527, I did not intend to come across that way. 

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

I would tell any one who tried to toung lash me they could sit on it and spin. People who're not my dom, and do not have permission from my dom to correct me don't toung lash or demand shit from me.

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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

The only reason I do the capitalization thing is so as to not piss other people off.  I've gotten my ass chewed by people more than once for not doing it before.  I would much rather capitalize according to proper English usage, like I am in this post.  I think I will start doing that now.  Thank you leadership527, I did not intend to come across that way. 

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

I would tell any one who tried to toung lash me they could sit on it and spin. People who're not my dom, and do not have permission from my dom to correct me don't toung lash or demand shit from me.

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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

The only reason I do the capitalization thing is so as to not piss other people off.  I've gotten my ass chewed by people more than once for not doing it before.  I would much rather capitalize according to proper English usage, like I am in this post.  I think I will start doing that now.  Thank you leadership527, I did not intend to come across that way. 

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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

I would tell any one who tried to toung lash me they could sit on it and spin. People who're not my dom, and do not have permission from my dom to correct me don't toung lash or demand shit from me.

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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

The only reason I do the capitalization thing is so as to not piss other people off.  I've gotten my ass chewed by people more than once for not doing it before.  I would much rather capitalize according to proper English usage, like I am in this post.  I think I will start doing that now.  Thank you leadership527, I did not intend to come across that way. 

Thank you Toppingfrmbottom!  It was mostly when I was writing to other Doms still trying to meet the "right one."  One thing I'm still not clear on, am I supposed to be capitalizing "Dom/me or not?"  I don't want to posture or suck up, because I hate that.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I do have to admit that I am starting this thread on a sour note after reading a thing or two.  I have had disagreements with other dominants over someone we each looked at differently.  One would say they were polite or respectful where I might see brown nosing and kiss ass, setting someone up with pretty words.  Some might say I was jaded or fearful or many things they might see my take on it as and I must say if it is anything, I am simply bitchy or turned off or rolling my eyes, when I see what I think is buttering someone up to get what they want.  It is disgusting to me because I feel it is manipulation.

So here is the situation.  A submissive person comes on all humble like. “I’m just the submissive it isn’t my right to ask this of you.”  Then why ask?  If you had no right to ask, then why did you ask?! 

“You are the ones with power, the dominant, I shouldn’t tell you what to do or ask anything of you.”  “I am not a do me, I want a relationship and I am not about to direct things as a lowly submissive.”  Yet they are telling you how it is supposed to be! I don’t think a dominant needs to be told who does what and be reminded that they have the power over a lowly submissive showing he knows his place.  I find assumed power in a title distasteful.

So they can present better than most in the written word and they express themselves and that is a major plus, but because they can do this, it seems they use it to manipulate.  “See me… I am sooooo good… I understand… I know my place… see me… see… don’t you see and if you don’t… here read my profile and you will see that I am real.”  Does anyone see the sense of false humble and manipulation that I see?  It’s like we should be impressed with all that lowly submissive talk or something.

I would rather see someone speak as a friend or someone not trying to impress me with anything other than who they are.  I don’t like to be told how impressive they are as a submissive and just want the straight talk between one person to another.

I see dominants doing the same things.  They flex their dominant muscles and tell you how long they have been in the ‘lifestyle’ and all they can do and if that doesn’t prove it, they show you their toys.  It is different than an assurance of what they know and do and seems more a promotion of themselves.

Does anyone see this like I do?

What do you think when you see someone presenting themselves as a title type thing and acting as one should in that place rather than just being themselves or am I seeing it that way and its not really that way?

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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957
The only reason I do the capitalization thing is so as to not piss other people off.  I've gotten my ass chewed by people more than once for not doing it before.  I would much rather capitalize according to proper English usage, like I am in this post.  I think I will start doing that now.  Thank you leadership527, I did not intend to come across that way.