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Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 8:59:48 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Lately I have been seeing a lot of references to Tantric sex.  I first heard of it when sting mentioned it.  I see that actress heathergraham also enjoys it.. And now I popped on here and on the main page where I start out my day I saw 3 profiles pass by that mention tantric sex.  So I looked it up.  Seems like normal sex to me. 
What is tantric sex to you?  Do you engage in BDSM trantic sex?  What is the difference between sex/bdsm in what it is that we do, vs tantric sex/bdsm?
I will admit to being lost. 
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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 9:20:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Tantra as it applies to sex covers  practices that are intended to get you higher than just going at it freeform.   Someone said once, if you consider sex as sacred then you might be into Tantra.
It all starts with the breath!  Barbara Carrella/s wrote a fine book called Urban Tantra.....good reading.

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 9:46:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ahh... lol now this just brings up another question for me.  I enjoy sex and for me it means I don't do it casually.  I believe sex connects me deeper to a partner I have already chosen for other reasons.  Is this sacred?  lol I don't know. 
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Someone said once, if you consider sex as sacred then you might be into Tantra.

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:04:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't say I do tantric sex, as I don't focus deliberately on breathing techniques, but absolutely sex is sacred to me, and what we do in BDSM is also a sacred act. It's one reason I can't play with just anyone. 

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:05:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Tantric sex is basically a way of finding your 'points' and achieving orgasm from places other than the usual genital areas or acheiving orgasm without the use of touch but using other stimulation.  It's whole body orgasms instead of it being just between your legs.
 
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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:11:34 AM   
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It is basically the use of sex in order to achieve a higher worth spiritually. It has been around for at least 5000 years, when Hinduism was forming.

Gods, I actually remember something from my college days!

Dark has it right as well...orgasming at a mere thought without touching is considered the highest point.

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:14:15 AM   
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It's whole body orgasms instead of it being just between your legs.

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Tantric, schmantric. If it's being done right, it's happening around more than just between the legs.

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:15:55 AM   
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Dark has it right as well...orgasming at a mere thought without touching is considered the highest point.

I thought most women didn't favor premature ejaculation?


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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:21:37 AM   
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It's whole body orgasms instead of it being just between your legs.

the.dark.

Tantric, schmantric. If it's being done right, it's happening around more than just between the legs.


Aw MrNihilus - you say things in the sweetest way to make the slaves swoon.
My impression is that sometimes, some people feel better naming something and defining it as 'different' because it make it easier to practise.  Bit like BDSM really.
 
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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:25:11 AM   
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What is tantric sex to you?  Do you engage in BDSM trantic sex?  What is the difference between sex/bdsm in what it is that we do, vs tantric sex/bdsm?


These are apples and oranges.

Tantric sex is erotic, yes, but the goal is spiritual energy, not hot sex per se. It's not a kink, and it has nothing to do with BDSM.

If you're curious, you should start first with Tantra. This will take a long time.

Otherwise, all you're doing is trying new positions.

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:26:37 AM   
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Dark has it right as well...orgasming at a mere thought without touching is considered the highest point.

I thought most women didn't favor premature ejaculation?



Pfffft.... nah - it's immediate floppiness that is the issue...
 
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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:35:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Aw MrNihilus - you say things in the sweetest way to make the slaves swoon.
My impression is that sometimes, some people feel better naming something and defining it as 'different' because it make it easier to practise.  Bit like BDSM really.

the.dark.

Touché.


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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:37:57 AM   
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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 10:49:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		**laughs** I am SOO tempted to say, "It's like the difference between aioli and mayonnaise. Pretty much the same but one costs more." But in truth, I'm guessing just like anything else, it doesn't much matter how specifically someone invests an activity with attention to detail. The act of doing it is plenty to make it special. So if it's with whips and chains or tantric stuff, it probably all comes out the same in the end.

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 1:13:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tantric sex is a concept involving ways to bring to people together to enjoy sex on a deeper level.  Those ways can be arrived at without ever reading anything about Tantric sex, two people who are deeply aware of and into each other can achieve the very same things, however, sometimes it is faster to read and learn from others than trying to reinvent the wheel.

BDSM is the same thing, some people think they are "doing it all" when in fact they are barely scratching the surface and another couple who know nothing about BDSM may have a very intense and kinky relationship without ever reading about the stuff we do.

As for energy, it is a funny thing.  I don't believe in it in the way things like Reiki and Tantric thought make it out to be but at the same time I STRONGLY believe there is something going on.  I have had too many odd things like out of character dreams shared with a partner on the far side of the world or felt things that were far more intense than they should have been otherwise.

If you seek something more, reading about it can provide some interesting things to incorporate but I just cringe when people say things like "I do tantric sex and it is "better" than regular sex/bdsm/whatever" as if calling it something changes the depth at which you do it. 

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 1:18:11 PM   
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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 1:54:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Mmm... my kundalini energy has been going nuts lately (and here i thought i had killed her off completely!)  I've attended some Tantric workshops which were very moving.  If there's a weekly New Age or other alternative paper in your town, i would check it out and see if you can attend an intro class.  Most larger cities have at least a few.  It's certainly worth the experience.

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 1:57:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

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What is tantric sex to you?  Do you engage in BDSM trantic sex?  What is the difference between sex/bdsm in what it is that we do, vs tantric sex/bdsm?


These are apples and oranges.

Tantric sex is erotic, yes, but the goal is spiritual energy, not hot sex per se. It's not a kink, and it has nothing to do with BDSM.

If you're curious, you should start first with Tantra. This will take a long time.

Otherwise, all you're doing is trying new positions.


Amen to that


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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 2:18:25 PM   
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I have studied with a "graduate" of OSHO in INDIA an am considered a tantrika..
I appreciate it when posters have looked up a bit of info before guessing..

Western notions of Tantra are based on a PROFOUND misunderstanding..
of the TANTRIC path..which confuses tantric bliss and ordinary orgasmic pleasure.
 
Tantra has become synonomis with  "Spiritual sexuality" or sacred sexuality"..
a belief that the SEX ITSELF is capable of elevating participants to a sublime plane.

THis is "POP-TANTRA"...the concepts are there..the idea..BUT not the core elements
which are a TANTRIC life( full time)..including a guru or master..extensive meditative practices..and rules of conduct.

POP-TANTRA is not wrong..it is simply an interpretation and many parts can  enhance one's life.

TANTRA is a BODY of beliefs..rites and practices that
work from the principle that the universe we experience..
is a concrete manifestation of the DIVINE
 
Tantra means to reclaim..expand..to show..to weave..

It is based on harmonizing the polarites of the god(Shiva) and goddess(Shakti)
to harmonize as a whole
*Within TANTRA are SENSATE rites..
rites of Feast*coitius*charnel ground* waste renewal*and fecundity
so sexuality is only PART OF IT
*WITHIN TANTRA are meditative practices
*Within TANTRA are rules of conduct
*Within Tantra are rituals..pujas..mantras..yantras
* Within Tantra there is a Master..teacher..guru

Tantra formed about 6000 years ago in rebellion to organized religions which felt that sexual energy(LIFE) was not part of a spiritual enlightment.

TANTRA is a dance of the LIFE ENERGY all day....no beginning and no end..
it is circuitous..so that a LIFE ENERGY OR BLISS can be achieved AT ALL TIMES
TANTRA Seeks to SUBLIMATE not negate relative reality

THAT is a short short short summary..

I teach Erotic Expansion Courses and incorperate TANTRA breathing in and sexual rituals..such as erotic masage..prostate massge..g-spot massage etc..
The main thing about TANTRIC sex is YOU SLOW down and experience energy in many ways..learn about all the energy points and weaving energy with a partner..
IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT THE O..or penetration and pump..or genital focused
and takes at least 6- 28 sessions to even begin to get an idea of it.( my opinion).

Many practitioners of TANTRA are simply escorts..or sexual massage ppl.not wrong but again contributes to misconceptions

** BDSM and TANTRA can overlap
if the couple design their realationship that way..eg) in Tantra it is encouraged for one ot completly recieve and obey commands of another then switch..
and role play is encouraged..and sensations as well as O delay..energy build up ( tease and denial)//and more
..as well many couples bring the sensation play..role play into it with addition of rituals,breathing..interanl O practice..energy building..tease and denial etc for a delicious combo..

I could go on and on and anyone can message me if they like...


GQ

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RE: Tantric Sex? - 6/11/2009 5:08:53 PM   
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Awesome to know I have been doing something without a clue about why.
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Dark has it right as well...orgasming at a mere thought without touching is considered the highest point.


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