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cpK69 -> RE: I Want the Roses AND the Thorns Thank You Very Much! (5/31/2009 11:08:52 AM)
~fr~ First, I have to ask, why does a lack of ‘goodies’ have to indicate a lack of love? As far as cake goes, I like eating it, but probably enjoy wearing it more; preferably, only when needed. It is discipline in patience; something I feel I lack greatly. To me, it is not a rose without the thorns. I prefer mine to still be attached to the roots. Predictability bores me quickly. Kim Adding; he once drove out of his way to pick me up, and give me a ride home when my vehical broke down. (He's an angel)

sleazybutterfly -> RE: I Want the Roses AND the Thorns Thank You Very Much! (5/31/2009 11:36:48 AM)
I totally have the best of both worlds. When I had surgery earlier this year, he took care of me the days after. Now that I can't carry heavy things, he carries the laundry downstairs for me and usually ends up doing it himself. He puts up with my animals that I love so very much. When my mom took ill while staying with us a lil over a year ago, he never hesitated to have her move in with us so I can take care of her. When we found out two of our favorite singers are going to be close this summer and we could only afford tickets to one concert or another (those prices are nuts), he surprised me with tickets to one I liked for our anniv.. The things he brings to my life are too numerous to mention here, and I feel I would only cheapen them by trying to find the words. On the other side.. When he tells me to do something, I do it. When he wants to use me, I let him. When he is feeling totally sadistic, I give him the canvas to take his art out on. I cook his meals, clean the house, and would do anything in the world for him. I have had the bdsm without the love, and the bdsm with it. In my mind, I couldn't have one without the other again. It's the most fulfilling relationship in many ways I have ever had and the true icing on the cake. SB

lovingpet -> RE: I Want the Roses AND the Thorns Thank You Very Much! (5/31/2009 5:22:59 PM)
Goodies could be anything from diamonds to a kind word. I really don't think of it as purely material, but a richness of affection. Thanks again to all who are sharing! I know that it is the little things for me that just set me flying. I appreciate them more than the grand gestures (though I will take both if offered [;)]). Little things mean that I am of every day significance and not just taken off the shelf when it suits. It is also those things which are hard, inconvenient, and even mundane that really leave an impression. I love to see one who can step up to the full measure of being a partner by doing things beyond the call of duty. How I am missing these special folks in my life today! sighs..... lovingpet

variation30 -> RE: I Want the Roses AND the Thorns Thank You Very Much! (5/31/2009 5:31:41 PM)
we're going to have to really nail down how we define love. I love all the women I've experienced, just in different ways. if we're talking about some kind of 19th century transcendental love, then no...that does not have to exist in any relationship, if it exists at all. but if we are talking about a recognition and appreciation of the sacrifice any woman gives when she submits (from a simple long kiss at a party to allowing herself to be reduced to a sobbing whore of a rug in a hotel room) and the desire to give her just as much as she has given you, then yes...for me that kind of love will always exist in any relationship.

cpK69 -> RE: I Want the Roses AND the Thorns Thank You Very Much! (5/31/2009 6:05:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet Goodies could be anything from diamonds to a kind word. I really don't think of it as purely material, but a richness of affection. I agree.[:)] I just don't think they have to be more than what is needed to be 'love', and I don't need a lot. There is one time, however, when he completely shocked me. He asked to see the "drawing" I made (using Paint), of something I saw once. It is a subject he does not care to talk about, so I was completly ecstatic. [:D] Kim

Sabrina26 -> RE: I Want the Roses AND the Thorns Thank You Very Much! (5/31/2009 6:43:18 PM)
The relationship between me and my sub is one that was built on love. With love comes trust. With trust comes the understanding and the ability to surrender to each other's wants and desires. I desire for him to give me the power that I have been so long denied in the real world. The ability to have ultimate control over someone. The ability to be in control is a new concept for me and the fact that he allows me to control him is what keeps me going most days. When the world gets hard, I think of the passionate sessions that we have shared and it renews me. So I want both. I want the roses and the thorns.

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