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RE: Rushed Choices - 5/29/2009 10:05:52 AM

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my husband and i met in June of '83' and were married in Dec of '83' ..... Still married to each other, have 2 grandkids

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RE: Rushed Choices - 5/29/2009 12:14:22 PM

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It's so sad to watch some people I love and respect going slowly and testing every step and literally WASTING time trying to safeguard themselves only to end up alone anyway a couple of years later.

I've seen that too... and worse. I've seen them so focused on "I'll be safe so long as I go slow" that they go slow but with blinkers on, with people that are obviously not compatable just because they are also prepaired to go slow. Sure the guy maybe willing to go slow.... maybe because he can only sneek away from his WIFE once a month!!! They skip getting really basic things because "We're going slow so it is OK that I don't have his landline number or home address"... "We're going slow so it is OK that he doesn't want Me to mention him on My profile, it isn't because the others he is stringing along behind My back might notice".

I don't focus on going fast, I focus on finding compatability and going at whatever pace feels right given the compatability so-far discovered. Sure taking risks when those risks seem justified... and no, not all of those risks have paid off, but even where they haven't I've had some wonderful experiences, met some lovely girls, some of whom remained good friends for years afterward.

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RE: Rushed Choices - 5/29/2009 5:04:23 PM

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I have the Dharma & Greg fantasy going!

I know it is a sitcom, I know it isn't real. But it DOES happen, it CAN happen.

I want to meet a girl on the street, have instant chemistry, marry her 8 hours later and spend the rest of our lives exploring each other's soul.

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