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RE: The Power of Words - 5/19/2009 6:47:50 AM

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LP, I fully agree. As someone who has managed and owned businesses, as someone that works teaching people, as someone with a pet, it's no different in any situation. "You did well" is a very powerful and empowering statement.

It is truly the premise with which I "rule" (god I hate using that term, but for lack of a better one on no sleep...) my pet, all of them. I've found long ago that kindness and positive reinforcement go a lot farther than harsh words, cruelty and fear.

At least, this is how it works in my own situation. My pet wants to please me not out of fear of reprisal if he should make a mistake, but out of the reason that he actually wants to see me pleased, and knows that I will tell him of my appreciation.

Of course others may be in different situations, where that's not what their sub, or those around him/her desire, just my point of view from my own experiences. :)

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RE: The Power of Words - 5/19/2009 9:09:47 AM

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I absolutely love hearing 'those little words'
This weekend i was in a bit of trouble and quite downhearted that i was being berated. After though when the 'trouble' had been dealt with hearing the words 'good girl' was just so much sweeter.

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RE: The Power of Words - 5/19/2009 11:39:06 AM

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I agree LadyPact,

Praise, and appreciation, liberates and encourages positive self-esteem, and I am pleased to do so to mine, when due :)

My most utilised word is "welldone", they love that lol.

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RE: The Power of Words - 5/19/2009 1:30:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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Words well chosen and used in the correct context giving an incontrovertible manner and used at the most appropriate manner are probably the most powerful "weapon" humans have to be used for good or ill. It is my belief that words of praise have a huge healing and uplifting effect if they are meant and not just so much flim flam. For this reason I never flatter someone. if I am impressed with, proud of or just like some one I will tell them so even at the risk of embarrasing them.I bel;ieve that flattery is false and dishonerable. If I don't like some one I am rarely rude and say so unless the situation requires such frankness, but will be somewhat polite and avoid conversations with that person. I have found that they get the message rather quickly. I see no reason to cause upset to others for any reason unnecessarily unless the situatioin dictates I forgo the usual social conventions I was trained in. Of course I enjoy being praised for something I believe praiseworthy but take greater pleasure when others I love and care for are praised for their deeds.

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