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RE: More of a friend than a Mistress - 5/19/2009 11:53:28 AM

CreativeDominant

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Stupid, basic question - if the Mistress feels she's better served by a friend, what's wrong with serving her by being one?

Not stupid at all, Dark...in fact, it is such a basic and relevant question, it's a pretty damn smart question.

Talk to them. Ask her if she seeks a friend more than a slave or a combination of the two. If what she seeks is not what you want, then you have a decision to make BUT I would look long and hard at that decision because Steven's question gets to a basic of submission; if submission is about yielding your will to another, then it stands to reason that not everything you do will be something you like unless your submission is made up of strictly submitting only to that which you do like. At that point, you may want to rethink your use of the term "slave" in a BDSM context.

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RE: More of a friend than a Mistress - 5/19/2009 12:10:08 PM

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i am slave jane. i am shortly to move in with my new owners (a couple) to take up my position as their slave. i am very excited and honoured about it all!. i have been staying with them for various weekends the past few months and i have noticed that, when Sir is not around, Miss becomes much more of a friend than an owner. i think that being a domme might be an effort for her and i think she maybe after a friend more than she is a slave. she is a wonderful person but i was really seeking to be owned by them both. can anyone suggest what i should do?! thank you! jane

Gosh, I kind of feel like there's been lots of really really good stuff written on this thread and from a lot of different angles.

So here, I'll toss in my own offering. Are you sure that the issue here isn't just one of communication? That is to say, perhaps she is, in her mind, being your domme but the particular way she is doing it is flying under your radar. I just speculated this about myself on a different thread. I have a pretty laid-back sort of style. I don't command, I ask -- almost always in the form of, "Hey honey, could you go [insert task here]?" Not very... well... master-ey. Happily, Carol doesn't particularly need overt dominance so it works out fine. But if she did, then there'd need to be some adjustment of style on both our parts to make it work.

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ORIGINAL: DarkStephen
Stupid, basic question - if the Mistress feels she's better served by a friend, what's wrong with serving her by being one?

OMG! What a gem! Although to be fair, there is still the issue of whether the slave's button's are getting pressed properly.

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