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RE: Role Models for the Long Run - 5/20/2009 7:56:29 PM

Stephann

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Hi there,

You've received some pretty decent advice so far. Here's a few more things to consider:

How much a part of your life do you want BDSM and/or Dominant/submissive oriented relationships? Don't worry, you don't need to answer that question yet. Rather, you explore. Attend munches, dungeons, play parties, and meet people safely who can give you advice, share their lives, and help point you in the right direction. You might find that this is all just a fantasy, or you may find that it gives you the most thrilling, emotionally satisfying experiences of your life. In learning how 'much' it matters to you, you then may also make decisions along the way that don't interfere with your career goals.

Lots of people in the lifestyles have very busy, active careers. Before my slave started working as a model, she was an accountant and I was a software project manager. She was always my slave, but when at work, we were just 'normal people' living normal lives. Don't approach your life as an 'either/or' question; find ways to do both, in a manner that feels sane and natural to you. There's nothing worse than trying to live your life in a manner everyone else expects you to live; chasing other peoples dreams never leads you down the path to chase your own.

Warm wishes,

Stephan

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RE: Role Models for the Long Run - 5/20/2009 8:09:01 PM

leadership527

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I'm going to agree with what many others have said here. People are complex. You are not actually "submissive through and through" GQ said it nicely... you are LOTS of things... submissive is just one facet. Carol and I are lots of things too. But no matter what we are, she is always my wife... even when we are apart. And, in the same way, she is always my slave no matter what it is that she is doing. We don't live in any lifestyle but our own and that just happens to include the fact that she follows my lead as we work our way through life. As DarkSteven said, we don't advertise our bedroom activities, but then again, we didn't go around telling people about our sex lives before I collared her either.

There's no need to separate anything for us. It's just us being us.

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RE: Role Models for the Long Run - 5/21/2009 9:03:13 AM

Daddyluvsitrough

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It's a balancing act for me. I am not sure what your job is or your intended career path, but for me it's too risky to have face pictures up here, maybe at some point I'll put up something that keeps me somewhat anonymous.

I'm the same person in public & private, but I also have to be cognizant to keep my personal life separate from work. I have a public job in a small town, for that reason I can't have my pictures up for the whole world to see. It's nothing that I'm ashamed of, but I simply don't want to take the risk of my private life affecting my career. I'm generally pretty vague of what I do for a living, because just by giving out some details of my work anyone with a rudimentary knowledge of the internet can connect the dots and find out my identity. For other people it's not as big of a deal - everyone's different. You just have to find a balance that works for you. Just because you're not doing BDSM 24/7 or out in the public eye doesn't make you any less submissive.

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