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Prinsexx -> it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 3:55:47 PM)
..well soon anyway. He's asked me what do i want for my birthday. Well i know what i want... but that's not the point. So this is what i thought...i thought well if i tell Him what i want then that's not what i do, as i don't tell Him in that way. If i don't tell him i might ne disappointed if i don't get what i want and i also don't want to have to say i'm disappointed. Anyway i text back and said: if i tell you what i want it's not right for me, if i don't tell you and i don't get what i want i don't want to tell You i'm disappointed. He replied...that's alright slave, Master knows what you want. Big smiles. I think gifts are probably symbolic of how the dynamic goes. Different process for me than gifts betweeen friends and family. So: for s-types.... when it's your birthday would you expect a present from your D? What would you like? Would you get disappointed if you didn't get what you wanted or what you expected? For D types... do you get your s type(s) a gift for their birthday? If so is it what they want or is it what they expect or is it what they don't want? And also what is the best/worst gift you have ever had?

AngelGeena -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 3:59:06 PM)
edited for my lack of paying attention

Prinsexx -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 4:00:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AngelGeena [sm=candles.gif]happy birthday....it's my baby boy's b'day today too...he is 9.... no it's not today i'm one of those cusp people...but happy birthday to your um. i was interested in presents.

BKSir -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 4:05:12 PM)
Damn! What's with all these May birthdays? I thought they were all supposed to be in November or something. I'll say happy birthday now though, so I don't forget. ;) HUG

Kalista07 -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 4:15:30 PM)
Last summer was my first birthday since i moved in here with him. i did not really expect much ( He had not yet said He loved me) and i really had not ever had a 'good' birthday. Hell, even my mom forgot again this year....... But, on the day of my birth, He called me and said He was going to be late getting home from work...No biggy..Not like we were going to do anything anyway.... When He came home He had picked up the most beautiful bouquet of flowers... i loved them!!! And a card!!!!!! i was in freaking heaven!!!!! Then He said He was taking me out for dinner....As i was trying to get ready He just kept looking at me like i had lost my mind. He handed me another bag, and i asked Him what He wanted me to do with that. He laughed and said to open it....It was a digital cameral. When we look back at that He laughs because He thinks it's cute that i thought the flowers and the card were enough of a gift. But, seriously......everyday with Him is like my birthday. i'm so very blessed, Kali

Prinsexx -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 4:16:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BKSir Damn! What's with all these May birthdays? I thought they were all supposed to be in November or something. I'll say happy birthday now though, so I don't forget. ;) HUG aw thanks BK..doesn't anyone give presents here? i've had some pretty inappropriate presents. My mother.. trying to atone for a life time of booze...booked sis and i a week in an isolated cottege built into the side of a mountain in Wales. We were allowed one friend...she was a lesbian and i took an ounce. The rest is history.Mom also booked a strip club for my eighteenth. God rest her soul. I once had one of those nasty tacky nurses' uniforms from Anne Summers. It was too small anyways and i took it back and swopped it for knickers i think. i also not so long ago got a rubber hood... with one small hole at the mouth. That was thoughtful of the man. I guess it's also about how others perceive us...

Prinsexx -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 4:20:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalista07 Last summer was my first birthday since i moved in here with him. i did not really expect much ........... But, seriously......everyday with Him is like my birthday. i'm so very blessed, Kali o Kali that was such a sweet story. And i know the feeling. My man is a dream boat and even to get a text asking me what did i want it was like wtf? And then the words...Master knows...and now i have to wait!!! To be honest a look is enough...eye contact..

slaveluci -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 4:25:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx So: for s-types.... when it's your birthday would you expect a present from your D? What would you like? Would you get disappointed if you didn't get what you wanted or what you expected? I don't "expect" anything. I always get something and appreciate it greatly. Master usually does something similar to what you wrote about: He asks if there's something specific I might like. Sometimes there is. Sometimes there isn't. Either way, I tell Him. He sure can't read my mind and if I don't tell him and then I feel disappointed that it's not exactly what I wanted, then I'm an idiot, right? Yep. I just don't have patience for drama and to me, that's what it is when you don't answer a question and then get all worked up when you don't get exactly what you wanted but wouldn't admit. Frankly, we don't do big birthday presents. We each get things we want all through the year such as books, music, movies, etc. so there's never really any saving up of wants for a certain occasion. The one exception was this past Christmas when He got me an Amazon Kindle because He knew I so badly wanted one. I could've sat around for years expecting Him to guess but that's not how we operate. He asked if I wanted one and I said "yes, but it's too much." It really kinda was. Then He came into the room late one night and saw me looking at it again online. He ordered it right then[:)] Bottom line: You're pretty much always gonna risk being disappointed if you don't open your mouth and truthfully answer when He asks...........luci

Prinsexx -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 4:34:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveluci quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx So: for s-types.... when it's your birthday would you expect a present from your D? What would you like? Would you get disappointed if you didn't get what you wanted or what you expected? I don't "expect" anything. I always get something and appreciate it greatly. Master usually does something similar to what you wrote about: He asks if there's something specific I might like. Sometimes there is. Sometimes there isn't. Either way, I tell Him. He sure can't read my mind and if I don't tell him and then I feel disappointed that it's not exactly what I wanted, then I'm an idiot, right? Yep. I just don't have patience for drama and to me, that's what it is when you don't answer a question and then get all worked up when you don't get exactly what you wanted but wouldn't admit. Frankly, we don't do big birthday presents. We each get things we want all through the year such as books, music, movies, etc. so there's never really any saving up of wants for a certain occasion. The one exception was this past Christmas when He got me an Amazon Kindle because He knew I so badly wanted one. I could've sat around for years expecting Him to guess but that's not how we operate. He asked if I wanted one and I said "yes, but it's too much." It really kinda was. Then He came into the room late one night and saw me looking at it again online. He ordered it right then[:)] Bottom line: You're pretty much always gonna risk being disappointed if you don't open your mouth and truthfully answer when He asks...........luci i know what you're saying. About the drama. But we have known each other way too long before being Master and slave for drama now.

SteelofUtah -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 4:41:01 PM)
I always try to make her Birthdays Special. I proposed to her on her first Birthday and took her to see Cats. On her second Birthday I took her to see Les' Miserables. and on this one cooming up I plan on taking her to see Blue Man Group. She was never into Theater and so I am introducing her and she LOVES THEM so each Birthday no only is she experiencing something new I get to tag along. She Loves it. Steel P.S. Happy Birthday...... This is For You >>CLICK<<

dreamerdreaming -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 5:12:32 PM)
I've always forbidden my slaveboy to buy me presents. The gift I want from him is what he gives me every day. Himself. (Not his submission- the gift is him.) The only other gift I ever ask for from him is his writing. He writes me lovely poems and stories, and is just finishing his latest book. So that's nice. He makes me very happy with his gifts! I'm a lucky girl. [:)]

MsFlutter -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 5:23:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BKSir Damn! What's with all these May birthdays? I thought they were all supposed to be in November or something. I'll say happy birthday now though, so I don't forget. ;) HUG There's apparently a fleet of us May babies. I get a federal holiday for my bday. Life is good :)

kallisto -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 6:10:58 PM)
Well I'm in that fleet as well [:)] I don't expect anything.

missturbation -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 6:22:24 PM)
quote: for s-types.... when it's your birthday would you expect a present from your D? No i don't expect a gift for my birthday. I don't think i have even told my Sir when my birthday is. I plan to keep it that way too [;)] quote: What would you like? Erm a good book is always a good pressie for me. My best ever b'day pressie was from my ex sir, he gave me my first taste of needles. One through each breast downwards anf then lit candles in them. Oh and i had a sign that said 'happy birthday cunt', his nick for me [:D]

kuriouswitch -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 6:30:16 PM)
i've never really celebrated my birthday and I've only been with Master for six months, we got toether after my last birthday so we really had a chance to celebrate mine. I made Master a birthday card for his birthday, and I made a trip out to visit him.

DesFIP -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 7:24:39 PM)
If he told me to give him an idea of what I wanted for my birthday, because he's not great about picking creative gifts, then I would tell him. Because that's what he told me to do and it isn't my job to tell him not to ask that. I would worry about exceeding his budget for it, but that's something else. So yeah, when he asked one year what I wanted, I told him that I needed gloves and a matching hat for winter. I got them in three different colors. But yes, I would feel hurt if he ignored my birthday or Mother's Day for that matter. A card, and a token gift are enough but some acknowledgement is expected. Otherwise it's a form of ignoring me.

Miyani -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 10:15:37 PM)
~FR~ I haven't yet reached a birthday with My boy, we're only at the 8 month mark, but I absolutely plan on celebrating it with him, and giving him presents. Matters are a bit complicated by the fact that his birthday is My husband's and My wedding anniversary, but a celebration will happen, even if it's for only half the day. If I choose not to ask him what he wants, I will still be getting him something(s) he thinks he wants, and I know him well enough to have a fairly good idea of what that is. If I do choose to ask him what he wants, even if there is a chance he may not get it, I will expect a full and complete answer. If I do ask, I will be asking for a list, and telling him not to expect anything from the list. But he will most likely get at least something he's asked for, and the list ensures that I have things to choose from. Also, the gifts I get him won't necessarily be kink gifts, or gifts for "us." One of them definitely will be - it's a skill I've already begun developing, so that I can surprise him with it. he doesn't know I've begun to learn it. I may also get him something for his little side. But I love a full and complete person, and I plan to acknowledge that by getting something that the rest of him will appreciate as well.

DavanKael -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/9/2009 10:38:27 PM)
Regardless of dynamics, I prefer to receive gifts that show the person has thought about me as do I prefer to give gifts that show I have thought about the person. I'm not terribly keen on consumables as gifts but there are exceptions. Hmmm, a really thoughtful recent gift: The boy I was seeing awhile ago collected action figures and we had talked about my wanting Transformers when I was a kid but I wasn't allowed becausae they were a 'boy's toy'. One day when I went to his house, on the pillow on the side of the bed where I slept was Optimus Prime, my favorite Transformer. :> Davan

Sunnyfey -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/10/2009 12:04:05 AM)
I was told to tell my Sir what I wanted for my birthday. I told him, I got it. It seems kind of like you dont trust him in a way, I mean its JUST a birthday. So what if you dont get exactly what you want? It's the thought that counts. I mean I'm not trying to flame you here or anything, but truly, it seems ungrateful to me. Why cant you tell him a simple thing like what kind of gift you want? You dont trust him to pick out a smiple necklace or whatever it is? This really smacks of "the untrustng partner" syndrom.

ranja -> RE: it's my birthday... (5/10/2009 12:33:39 AM)
It's lovely to get a surprise that is just perfect...some years we have been good that way but other years we have totally missed the point. nobody should be expected to get it right everytime happy birthday

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