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LaTigresse -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 8:20:41 AM)
I am often attracted to strong women. Sometimes that woman ends up being dominant also. However, in most dominant women, as time goes on they tend to exibit personality traits that I see more as weaknesses which makes them very unattractive to me.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 9:19:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b Have you ever been attracted to someone on the same side of the kneel as you, e.g. dominant attracted to a dominant or submissive attracted to another submissive? What happened? Has anyone managed to form a successful relationship in this way? I've been lucky, I think. One advantage I've had in the household structure we've created is that I've had the joy of having close, intimate relationships with several folks on the same side of the kneel as myself... and even managed to sustain some incredible, close, intimate relationships with people as I journeyed between sides of the kneel myself. Right now, I'm still living with a companion who is in the midst of determining whether xhe might want to shift sides of the kneel hirself. I feel like I can cherish hir, regardless of which side xhe ends up on, and, having made that journey myself, I feel like it increases my capacity for compassion as well as love for hir.

LaTigresse -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 11:36:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I am often attracted to strong women. Sometimes that woman ends up being dominant also. However, in most dominant women, as time goes on they tend to exibit personality traits that I see more as weaknesses which makes them very unattractive to me. I just now read a thread on weight control that emphasizes the bolded part perfectly. Sadly, it is apparent, the person has zero clue how they appear.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 2:07:52 PM)
Twice. Or is it once? Or is it somewhere in between? The first time i was attracted to a switch male i know. At first i wasn't aware of his switch side, but after i was i thought "Okay." i thought i was "in love" and all that jazz. But as time went on W/we realized it would never work in the long run. The second time it was another submissive female. she & i both acknowledged it, agreed on the attraction, and talk about it still now and then, but distance is a factor so it will probably always remain unknown whether it would've worked out or not. Sometimes it's better that way.

catize -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 3:53:35 PM)
I guess it would depend on what you mean by successful. I have agood friend who is a submissive man. He is very attractive, sweet and funny. We have a standing coffee ‘date’ every Saturday morning. It is a platonic friendship, Sometimes I wonder (have fantasies) what would happen if we became intimate, but I know I can’t be dominant enough for him in the long run. We have a good thing going; I don’t want to ruin it with sex!

caelestis -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 3:53:54 PM)
Certainly. I'm often attracted to other s-types simply because they are cute, and I have a weakness for cute things. [:D] I don't think it'd work well in a relationship though (at least not 1x1, maybe a poly, one D-type and two s-types). I can imagine us arguing over who was going to to what for who.

RavenMuse -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 5:36:13 PM)
I've found the occassional Dominant Woman attractive in that way, however that has always been accompanied by spotting some small signs of possible submission in them. It has never been acted upon as I wouldn't insult them by presuming that even if what I thought I saw was there it is a large enough part of them to be acknowledged let alone acted on, which is the only way such a relationship could work as when I care (In a relationship sense) I control.... Ain't going to happen if She is also a Dominant. I simply accept We are not compatable and don't give it another thought!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 6:41:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse I've found the occassional Dominant Woman attractive in that way, however that has always been accompanied by spotting some small signs of possible submission in them. It has never been acted upon as I wouldn't insult them by presuming that even if what I thought I saw was there it is a large enough part of them to be acknowledged let alone acted on, which is the only way such a relationship could work as when I care (In a relationship sense) I control.... Ain't going to happen if She is also a Dominant. I simply accept We are not compatable and don't give it another thought! Thank you for that, RavenMuse! So many mistake a gentle demeanor for submission, when it is nowhere near the truth.

CrazyCats -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 6:51:10 PM)
Yes, I tend to be interested in strong personality types. Usually it ends up being more like two wet cats in a small bag, but when ya find the right combination of strength, it does create a very stable and potent dynamic. My gal is a switch, subbie to me, but tends to be dominant towards other women, and well most everyone else in general till they hit that right combination of buttons.

RavenMuse -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 6:57:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Thank you for that, RavenMuse! So many mistake a gentle demeanor for submission, when it is nowhere near the truth. Just as many mistake confidence for Dominance on the other side, My girl has been mistaken for a Domme a couple of times which, if I'm nearby when it happens, never fails to make Me laugh as it confuses the heck out of her![:D]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 6:58:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Thank you for that, RavenMuse! So many mistake a gentle demeanor for submission, when it is nowhere near the truth. Just as many mistake confidence for Dominance on the other side, My girl has been mistaken for a Domme a couple of times which, if I'm nearby when it happens, never fails to make Me laugh as it confuses the heck out of her![:D] All of my submissive female friends get mistaken for dominants! Sometimes I think we really do need coloured badges! [:D]

RavenMuse -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 7:09:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus All of my submissive female friends get mistaken for dominants! Sometimes I think we really do need coloured badges! [:D] Tsk and spoil My fun at the horrified look on her face when some submale cringes in front of her asking if her 'divinity' would care to use him as an ashtray! LOL The 'hanky code' didn't get much widespread use in straight environs, I don't think badges would fare any better..... just like on the net, the fantasists wouldn't 'read' what they ment anyhow.

Lockit -> RE: Like attracting like (5/4/2009 7:16:48 PM)
I kind of like it when a male dominant thinks I'm submissive. It never fails to amuse me when I ask them if they like being spanked, because it sure isn't going to be me.

cravesdom -> RE: Like attracting like (5/5/2009 2:35:39 AM)
As you may know, when Bob and I met here on CM we were both looking for a relationship with a dominant person. I had never taken a dominant role with a man before and really had no idea if it was even something I would enjoy, much less be any good at. But getting to know who he was as a person made it something I was very willing to try. Fortunately for me, he was willing to give it a try too. We even discussed the possibility of opening up our relationship to include a third party or even another couple if for some reason we weren't able to give the other what we needed. We have been switching roles since the first time we met in person and it has worked out really well for us. There is never a power struggle over who gets to be in charge, at least not in more than a joking way. We are very much in love. He flies in tomorrow to help me move to live with him on Friday. It has been 10 months since we met in Polls & Other Random Stupidity. I know that this is still just the beginning of a long and wonderful relationship. I never thought I would fall for another sub, but thank goodness I was open enough to consider the possibilities when I did. I wouldn't trade my Bob for any Dom in the world. He is everything I want and need. I have never been happier than I am with him.

LyraLaLaurie -> RE: Like attracting like (5/5/2009 2:50:03 AM)
I've dated dominant males, but over time it got DRAINING--to have to keep proving I only switch in the bedroom and I do not have a truly submissive personality. The competition kept chemistry for awhile but in the end, I was just not "wifey" enough. I've had much better success with switch men. Not sure if I could date a true submissive...when it comes to love, I want to submit sexually, and when it comes to a fling, I like it ALL. I've heard of more common success between two submissives than two dominants.

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