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TopChuck -> RE: Is it improper to ask questions - or is it vital? (5/7/2009 10:03:40 AM)
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It's the responsibility of the Dom/me to be in the submissive's mind. To prohibit questioning is to deny submission. Denying submission leads to and promotes the breakdown of the D/s relationship.
The submissive should be encouraged to reveal everything to the Dom/me, because to protect any part of the mind is to be unsubmissive. Being a Dom/me involves building deeper and deeper trust from the submissive, because at its essence, submission is trusting.
It's the Dom/me's responsibility to understand the submissive. Questions in the sub's mind are as important as any other part of the sub's brain.
The Dom/me controls the relationship, so, in any breakdown of submission, the Dom/me is responsible for analyzing and correcting; whether the breakdown occurred because of some action of the submissive or a lapse by the Dom/me.
Interrupting the power exchange holds no advantage. Denial of the elements of the power exchange, by the Dom/me, as punishment is abusive. (Commonly called a "mindfuck")
The structuring of the sharing of the minds between the Dom/me and submissive is up to the Dom/me, but that's what we get the big bucks for, isn't it?
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