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sojourner9 -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/23/2009 9:02:43 PM)
If I have to do punishment, I prefer that it fits the offense. That it reinforces the original command that was broken. If they are late - make them show up 15 minutes early to everything If they forget to call - make them call every hour on the hour to say where they are and what they're doing If they speak in appropriately - restrict what they can say or when they can talk

MaamJay -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/23/2009 10:44:09 PM)
As a sub, the mere threat of corner time with nothing to do is enough to pull me into line ... my Mum used "chair time" very effectively when i was young! As a Domme, I also like to make the punishment fit the crime where possible. So a boy who masturbated without permission would be in chastity for a week. If he speaks out of turn it's the soap. If he slacks off with chores then I devise a really awkward way of doing them and sit and watch eg sweeping with your hands tied behind your back is really awkward! So is scrubbing the grout with a toothbrush held in your mouth. If I can't think of a suitable specific, the fallback position is either extra chores therefore less free time, or loss of privileges (no high heels for a week was a killer for My ex sub CD hub!), and as most boys it seems dislike writing, a written research assignment requiring a 300 word essay seems to be a megapunishment! However I do make it clear that I prefer NOT to run a punishment dynamic in the first place. Maam Jay aka violet[A]

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/23/2009 11:15:19 PM)
All punishment is painful (physically, mental or emotional) else it would not be punishment after all, would it?

Goddess2002 -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 3:11:18 AM)
Ignoring or telling a sub how disappointed one is generally tends to hit where it hurts, figuratively speaking. Or, if one is active int he local community, attending a local event and not allowing your sub or slave to serve you at the event can be a kicker.

sensura -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 6:39:50 AM)
Great comments so far. Yes punishment is painful whether it is mental or physical but Im just looking for different things people do. If I dont state non pain related then I will get tons ofphysical pain related comments which is not what Im looking for. Keep the ideas comming hugs and spanks sensura

CreativeDominant -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 7:30:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GotSteel quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant sarcastically witty while being derisive, non-respectful, name-calling? Washing the mouth out with soap. I threatened to make my sub a bar of soap gag the other day [;)] Nice one! I've continued to read this thread and have seen many of the ideas I use on here so tis nice to know that, the next time a submissive tells me what a "twisted, evil bastard" I am when I give a punishment, there is a place I can refer her to that shows I am not alone. More: 3. Make a serious complaint about how anal most dominants, especially me, are? The biggest butt plug I can find, worn while sitting on the hardest chair I have available. 4. When my second submissive was living with me, her mother called us. The mother's complaint? She'd not been hearing from her daughter, despite her daughter having told her she'd write at least once a week (at that time, calling to Canada was prohibitively expensive). I knew there were several reasons for not writing but the biggest one was just laziness and a dislike of writing. When we got off the phone from her, I took her to the store and bought writing stationary for her and told her I expected to see a letter of at least a page written to her mother each day.

Fitznicely -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 8:59:42 AM)
My preferences, in no particular order: corner time bondage telling off's I've not found I've needed much more than these...It's been amusing reading thru the thread and finding out other Dom/mes feel the same.

SteelofUtah -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 9:30:40 AM)
My Mother was good at these do they have to be BDSM Backed? If not here is a Page from My Mothers Punishment Book. Penny to the wall with the nose for the duration of a soap opera which I had to listen to Copy a full page from the dictionary Clean the baseboards ... ALL OF THEM even the ones in the Closets Wash all the window Tracks in the house and free them of all sand and dirt. Wash and hang dry Laundry by HAND even though we had a washer and dryer Research the meaning and etimology of a series of words that dealt with what I had done to get punished (Improper, Wrong, Unacceptable) Stack Wood ... By the Cord... For those who have central Heating you may not be aware but a Cord is a truck load. Chop Wood .... by the Cart .... A Cart is about 3 days worth of wood if you only burn in the evening (Dads Favorite) Dig a Hole. 3 X 3 X 4...... When done Fill it back in. Nothing else will be done until the hole was dug Write a letter to be read out loud explaining why what I did was wrong and how it could have affected the rest of the family. Things were a Load of fun at my home. Steel

IronBear -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 9:31:44 AM)
Most forms of punishment I issue are more in line with retraining if needs be and other menial tasks like polishing the brass ware or silver and additional house work which I can always find jobs which need doing. I believe punishments should firstly fit the infringement and secondly be of a constructive and educational manner with of course the corporal punishment being used only on rarer occasions. Those who enjoy such punishments such as the cane or crop only need ask and I will be happy to oblige with additional equally painful additions when it suits me to do so. Never when the slave expects or wants. That just wouldn't be cricket would it? Mind you I have in the past, required a slave to read a specified excerpt of Shakespeare and write me an synopsis of it [:-][;)]

InTonguesslut -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 4:18:06 PM)
Apologies [:(] Had my claws out like a bad kitty

SteelofUtah -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 5:01:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: InTonguesslut Clean the baseboards ... ALL OF THEM even the ones in the Closets Wash all the window Tracks in the house and free them of all sand and dirt. Wash and hang dry Laundry by HAND even though we had a washer and dryer You have got to be kidding me? Basic house work a punishment? Do these things not get done in your house unless someone is being punished - eww As a Child.... Yes these were punishments. Normally the main cleaning was done in Spring and Fall with a full wipe down of the house but if you were getting poor marks in school or were out after curfew then these would be added to your daily list of chores and they usually kept you in for the full day. My Posting of the list was to show a series of duties that expand beyond the regular daily ones. I am sorry if you took them as Squickish or that I live in a dirty home, as an adult I don;t feel the need to clean my baseboard with a tooth brush or clean the sand from the window track on a weekly basis. Just so many other things to spend my time doing..... many more valuable than washing the base boards or washing all my laundry by hand when I have a washer and a dryer. I spend the time I save on those projects with my family as that time is more precious. Steel

Phoenixpower -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 5:13:19 PM)
some contacts I was involved with (also my current one) stated that they wouldn't hesitate to ground me and to send me to bed early when they would have to (which would be quite a pain as a night owl or when you would like to see a particular show on TV...), or other restrictions, such as restrictions of using the phone, TV, radio, whatever... ....and grounding did already not work as a child, so I can even less see the point on something like that as an adult...though, as I said, it has been mentioned to me...

leadership527 -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/24/2009 5:30:59 PM)
I generally go with one of the two options.... If she balks at a command, I simply say "So are you mine or not?" That seems to do the trick. If she fails to perform to my expectations then after the fact I'll note her performance and my expectations. There is typically a bit of discussion so that she is sure she understands how she could've performed better. That also seems to do the trick. So I guess my after-the-fact punishment goes something like, 'Hey sweetie, next time I ask you to do xxx, I'd prefer it it happened more like...."

masterlink65 -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/25/2009 7:23:46 PM)
i also make the punishment fit the infraction. i have no set way of disciplining an infraction, i try to make the punishment as relative to the offense as i can. beatings are for pleasure, and when my slave earns a beating, i let it choose the implement if its pleasure. if pain equals pleasure,,, how can pain be used for punishment?

lighthearted -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/25/2009 8:52:39 PM)
usually I get the cold shoulder. it's pretty excruciating. the worst non-pain related punishment, (and obviously one of the most effective, since I always bring it up) was when my former master made me eat sushi. I HATE sushi. and we're not talking one piece, we're talking a full meal. I was so nauseated by the end! I don't even remember what it was I did wrong, but dang...I sure remember the punishment.

DaintyDemure -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/25/2009 9:18:45 PM)
My Lady prefers to use discomfort rather than pain. - Guarding the stairs. One of my wrists chained to the stair rail bracket half way up the stairwell. There is nothing to see or do and the stairs are pretty narrow and hard on the bum after a couple of hours. You can't sleep because when your body relaxes and slides down waking you up hanging by one wrist. - Corner time. With an eyebolt mounted in the corner of the room at head height my ballgag harness with ring attachment is put on me and is clipped to the eyebolt. Hands are cuffed behind back. It is impossible to turn my head at all. - Hanging by my ankles. Suspended inverted with my head only an inch above the floor. Wrists are cuffed behind my back. I have always hated being upside down.

DavanKael -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/25/2009 10:18:28 PM)
I abhorr the idea of being ignored and/or not being allowed to communicate freely; both are non-physically painful things that I would find extremely psychologically uncomfortable. Oh,yes, and being denied physical affection/intimacy and/or sex. Yeah, very bad things. Davan

sensura -> RE: non pain related punishment (4/26/2009 11:27:23 AM)
In regards to Masterlinks comment If the pain you administer is pleasurable then Its obviously not punishment. Anyhow keep it up people this is great luv and spanks sensura

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