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InTonguesslave -> RE: cyber matter (4/20/2009 3:47:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: hunnibunni09
in my honest opinion hun hes not being fair to you and you need to know where u stand with him, but how does this cyber online thing work? i dont really know how a master slave relationship can work that way other than for his ego trip ?!
i would think it is a mutual two way thing, otherwise, why would so many people indulge mutually.
i think cyber works for many people, like these two, who are married, probably to mainstream, but choose to remain married to people they love. i think many married people find outlets to keep their marriages alive or ticking, this is just one other way. i get a bit twitchy when folk get judgemental about this sort of thing. i see it differently. i see it as people caught in a marriage they value, but with needs that cannot be met and so find as near a perfect solution as they can. it is dishonest, i agree, but for some its a way of salvaging a lonlyness that othewise might eat away at a marriage, possibly with kids in tow and is therefore a means to a happier solution than divorce.
some cyber relationships can become incredibly deep. in a way, we have a taste of it as we get to know a person on the internet before we meet them. the intensity can be incredible and i imagine a bond can develop that is very strong indeed.
just to say here though, responsibility for the relationships we enter into is our end of the bargain. its a little tiresome to then turn around and accuse a man of spending time with his wife when the wife is the woman in his real time life after all and should be his first priority, especially over a public holiday when family may well be part of the mix. entering into such a liason means you have accepted that fact, if you cannot accept the fact you shouldnt enter into it.
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