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Pain - 4/15/2009 1:29:21 PM

subtlebutterfly

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So I started to think...when people receive pain they either go the silent route or the screaming route.
Does it differ, the way pain is handled in bdsm play vs. real life pain (accidental/sickness pain, mental pain..e.g. mourning somebody)?

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 1:41:36 PM

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I handle both the same.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 1:58:20 PM

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Hmm I do a mix of both... sometimes loud, sometimes soft (almost always start to babble after a little bit)...

that's pretty much for all types of pain.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 2:05:57 PM

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There is some pain in bdsm i despise, some i just dislike and some i love.
There is some pain i can tolerate in reality, some i cannot.
Mourning someone i will never enjoy or even tolerate well.

There is a big difference for me.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 2:45:42 PM

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I think for me, it has more to do with intentional compared to accidental. If I am able to focus on something else, or find enough purpose in it, I am able to turn pain off, or perhaps better described as, dispersing it faster. I have experienced doing that in both arenas; and I have been very wimpy in both.

There is one aspect of the topic, pertaining to myself that I find sort of intriguing, when the pain is sudden and accidental, I make a sound similar to an injured bobcat, when it is intentional, but more then I can stand, I growl.

I liked it when Sir, caused me to growl; though, he did not seem too impressed.

Adding, becuase I forgot about the mourning part of the question. My perception in that area is what a friend from work discribes as emotional detachment. She thinks I am 'wacked', because I am concerned that I won't cry, when others feel it is apropriate.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 2:55:13 PM

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couple of years ago i was really sick with an infection inside of me, the pain was incredible and i went totally inside myself. the doctors in the hospital had no idea i was so sick and nearly sent me home until my temp went high sky and after a scan i was rushed into theatre.

bdsm pain i yelp and cry.

i think it has something to do with the control factor. when i was sick there was a steady pain i could 'control' for myself, i knew it wasnt going away, so i locked into it, contained it and settled into a relationship with it. i knew i would be rescued eventually but until then i was completely on my own. it took two shots of morphine to knock me out, not the pain, the pain was still there.

bdsm pain alternates and is under the control of someone else, therefore it has a mind behind it that isnt mine and i cant control and apparently for that reason i react to it differently

mourning? - i havent lost a human yet, but ive had to have a horse put down infront of me and a dog and two cats. i held them in my arms, and keened and rocked back and forth and the pain i felt isnt the same as the above atall, its a feeling of inconsoleable emptyness that you know will never be filled by them again.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 4:08:19 PM

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I live with reasonably severe pain which can get far worse at times. Fortunately I have a high pain tolerance and mentally deal with most of it ok. However if I injure myself accidentally, I find a few loudly spoken four lettered Anglo-Saxon words works wonders. At other times I simply grit my teeth and keep a stiff upper lip. Some areas of pain, such as pain incurred in sport or such, I tend to be amused at being so bloody silly as to let someone land a hit on me.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 5:32:30 PM

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I've used pain-processing techniques from BDSM to cope better at the dentist or doctor's office or whatever, but it doesn't apply to emotional pain.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 5:44:52 PM

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Mourning involves different stages but I range from an all out emotional release including being vocal as well as quietly stewing.
I have a fair bit of chronic pain and most of the time people are oblivious to it. People who know me really well tend to be able to key in on restriction of motion and when I'm concentrating on trying to ignore or lessen the pain, I tend to be more quiet though will sometimes be snippy or irritable.
General pain, I tend to try to pull the energy into myself and deal with it quietly, though, as Bear pointed out, a few choice utterances can help diffuse things a bit.
Intentional pain, to this point, has generally been something that has been regarded similarly to the way in which I deal with the physical pains I stated above. One thing that appeals to me is to be in a relationship where I and my other may safely go beyond my maintaining that control of myself physically and let loose.
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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 6:16:09 PM

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It's the same for me...
I like dishing it out but not taking it!

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 8:03:44 PM

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I live with chronic pain.

I go inward with it, and get very impatient of anything interfering with my focus. I now know that when I start to get very generally bitchy it's likely to be time to med up again. (That is the job of a submissive as well, around here, to say, "With respect, Ma'am, when did you last take a pain pill?")

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 8:48:19 PM

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it depends on what the pain is...

during play differs, depending on if i've hit subspace or not, if i'm aroused or not...

mental pain i don't tolerate well, i try to shut every one out, and if i can't i get wicked bitchy.

Sickness I don't deal with well, i became a whiny baby.

Pain from an injury i deal with pretty well as i've had to deal with it a lot, i do what i have to do and rest when i can.

hope this helps

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 9:01:43 PM

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Whether accidental pain or bdsm pain, my reaction varies from time to time. I can go silent, scream, cry all depending on the type of pain and my mood. Vocalizing often helps me manage intense pain, though occasionally I do just grit my teeth and endure. Other times I go still and silent in an almost meditative state.

Emotional pain, loss, grave disappointment all make me cry.

Also, on another note, after I orgasm my pain tolerance goes WAY down and I'm not sure why.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 9:41:13 PM

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Being a "soft top", I like the wince that a slight unexpected pain evinces in a woman ... like that lovely little firm twist of a hard nipple ... gets her attention focused fast!

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 9:47:14 PM

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I mourn/grieve very openly. Otherwise, I internalize.

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RE: Pain - 4/15/2009 11:02:56 PM

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Dunno I man up and take the pain whatever it is

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RE: Pain - 4/16/2009 12:26:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Dunno I man up and take the pain whatever it is

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I don't. I store up my profanity quota for injuries. Nothing makes a stubbed toe feel better like a nice proud "mm-FUCK!" I grit my teeth and growl if I don't curse... Which is terrible for my teeth. If I were to bottom, a leather bit would be in the toy bag, no questions asked.

My pet has this "oo-ow-ow-hoooow..." sound she makes for less than sexy injuries, while she squeals for spankings, pinches, hair pulling, or slapping.

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RE: Pain - 4/16/2009 12:38:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

So I started to think...when people receive pain they either go the silent route or the screaming route.
Does it differ, the way pain is handled in bdsm play vs. real life pain (accidental/sickness pain, mental pain..e.g. mourning somebody)?

pain and suffering i think pain is a sign in a realtionship is a sign something is wrong!

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RE: Pain - 4/16/2009 1:18:31 AM

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interesting

cool, didn't know if it differed or not.
personally..if it's a minimum pain (accidental then) it follows with variously loud ouch and a couple of well chosen words..
but when it comes to heavy pain I take it with silence..same with mental types of pain..if it comes completely unbearable it gets followed with a snarl and few more well chosen words - about the other pain I wouldn't know.

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RE: Pain - 4/16/2009 4:41:02 AM

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I've yet to experience pain within a bdsm play (that's intentially applied :) ), however i truly hope that i deal with it differently than other pains. I have an unusually high tolerance for pain, and my brain tends to not register it until it gets severe. And with that i mean full-shut-down-pass-out severe. I really wish to experience different types of pain having fantasized about being flocked/whipped. From my understanding, the giving of pain itself can be pleasurable as can be recieving in this kind of scene. So I'm hoping that I can feel this sweet-sour-ish pleasure instead of it not registering like all other types of pain. So far i just grunt or yelp those times where I actually do pick up one of those pain signals. Emotional pain is very different, and I'm actually quite sensitve. Here as well I'm pretty much quiet in 'dealing with it,' however even though I'm quite shy, when I get passed that I'm quick to open up and share my feelings. This sharing really often helps me (however obvious this may be), I just carefully pick with whom I discuss what.

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