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MasterDarkSadist -> How to respond to posts that contain opinions (4/12/2009 3:26:17 PM)
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While I have been posting here, and using my personal situation(s), and opinions on how I would go about conducting my relationships, I have encountered a very.......how should I say it.......problematic inability to take an opinion for what it is. This has led me to post this, in hopes that maybe we can all get along a little better.
Here is a (condensed) example of what I mean;
I posted a reply to a topic of what to do with a sub/slave type who was not following orders. The orders were not outlandish, dangerous, or otherwise onerous. She was just not following them. I replied that I would have a problem with that, and that I would make it known that it was unacceptable for this to happen, and that if it continued, our relationship would be over. I also stated that this ultimatum would come after I had exhausted all other possible remedies to this problem.
I got several responses, which, considering their unique situations, could have caused an order to be unfulfilled. This, on the surface would seem to be a valid point, however it is not.
In order to create a post that would take into account each and every possible situation that could arise, no matter what the topic of the post was, would require a hugely long, dry, and researched paper in order to make an argument that could not be dismantled by an unusual example of why another could see how a reply that was stated in general terms could not apply to a specific case.
I think that the point I am trying to make is this. We post replies in order to share our personal experiences and based on those experiences, we have formed general guidelines about how we would respond to a situation as general as our general guidelines. If the situation does not fall into those guidelines, I am of the opinion, that like myself, we would alter our response to account for the variance. If we did not account for the variances, then we would be stupid. I am not, nor do I think the rest of you are either. What I do think is this: we need to take each post for what it is, an opinion. If it is not how you would do something, please, using the same terms as the post you are replying to, state why.
It is erronious to post a reply, that does the following;
1. Takes something out of context, twists words, or changes the general meaning of what one said.
2. Post a reply to a general post using a specific case which would seem to rule the general guideline useless. I could go through every post on collarme, and dismantle it with a specific case that would render the advice (on the surface) to be wrong.
3. Post a reply that does not articulate why you are of a different opinion. If you took the time to reply, yet said nothing of value, then why even bother to reply? "sigh" is not an articulated point. It does not make an argument that is valid. You cannot change one's thought process with "sigh" alone. If you want people to know, and understand why you are of a different mindset, then articulate why, and not just let them know you are unhappy with that. "sigh" alone is a passive-aggressive way to put someone on notice that they offended you. If you post "sigh" in response to one of my posts, I will acknowledge you are unhappy with what I said, but I will also disregard what you feel because you cannot, or didn't feel it important enough to back it up with any kind of logical argument. Therefore "sigh" might as well have not even existed. It is pointless.
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