Aswad
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I think people get so caught up in the romance of it all that they do not stop to think about the ramifications. For some, a lifetime commitment is actually not just some poorly considered spur of the moment thing. Perhaps holding back "in case it doesn't work out" is a good sign you aren't ready to be committing to anyone in the first place? In my short years, I have had exactly one commitment, and it has lasted ten years now. Not because I had reservations about it, or because we're a perfect couple; neither of those are the case. It has lasted this long because we actually committed to it and put in the blood, sweat and tears to see it through. (Hey, those are good things around these parts, no?) People spend their lives holding out for, or actively searching for (i.e. serial monogamy trainwreck) that one mate that will be the perfect one, that will last forever, while really they can make virtually any relationship, at least remotely healthy ones, last forever by putting a bit of time and effort into making it last, rather than running for the greener grass all the time. It invariably tastes the same, and starts looking the same after a little while. Love, trust, devotion, loyalty... these are worked for, like everything else. Earned. Health, al-Aswad.
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"If God saw what any of us did that night, he didn't seem to mind. From then on I knew: God doesn't make the world this way. We do." -- Rorschack, Watchmen.
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