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pahunkboy -> RE: Men have problems when their wives make more money than them. (4/9/2009 5:03:52 AM)
I was in a gay live in for 7 years. It floored me how he could attempt to use $20 as tho it was the last $20 on the planet. We had a friction between us- as I wanted us to buy, not rent. But that would have taken 2 incomes. He was afraid that "we" buying would mean somehow it would end up being just mine. So failure was "safe". Once I got to where it was possible to own via just me- that is when the real fights started. So he left. At the time, I was crushed. But it actually was a huge favor. Today I own and he rents a room above a bar room. I know a guy whose wife makes more then he does. She wont blow him. So. Maybe there is a connection there. He actually is a good catch. Hard working tradesman. Stable job and paycheck. They seem to get along great. But there is that one little bedroom item. So I dont know. The guy isnt grubby. So I dont know why she has an aversion to it. I for sure am not gonna ask her either. lol

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Men have problems when their wives make more money than them. (4/9/2009 5:14:06 AM)
Isn't it just leftovers from when the wife worked at home and the husband worked and supported the family? Now the husband doesn't have to be the sole income in most households and they have a problem accepting that....especially when the wife's starting to provide the main income of the household.[8\|]

colouredin -> RE: Men have problems when their wives make more money than them. (4/9/2009 5:22:02 AM)
FR It doesnt shock me that men get worried about it, just as much as they get worried when their girlfriends/wives are 'smarter' than them. Its a basic lesson in masculinity, as much as it is out dated men are still more often than not bought up to be the 'bread winners' that is a sign of being a 'real man' so it would be threatening if their partner earned more.

MrRodgers -> RE: Men have problems when their wives make more money than them. (4/9/2009 7:09:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder I grew up in an area where it was frowned upon for a woman to make more money than her husband so I've seen a lot of relationships sour after the children were grown and out of the house and the wife decided to go back to work and she still ended up making more money than her husband or she was wiser in the ways of saving her money. It made the husbands insecure and paranoid. What is she saving her money for? Is she going to leave one day? What does she need me for if she can do it all on her own? Men there like dependent women. Independence is a threat to their manhood. Me personally...it makes no difference to me as long as we're both pulling our weight and being responsible adults. In an ideal world, it wouldn't matter but for me such income is a great opportunity to save and invest in order to 'retire' early...and very nicely. There is also the ability to invest in life insurance leaving everybody 'whole' when a bread winner passes away. BTW, my 3rd sub in life all those many years ago...is now an MD/PHD and even back then, made very good money...good. My first 'slave' was a JD and made a whole lot more than me. "Great, let's get into the market."

pahunkboy -> RE: Men have problems when their wives make more money than them. (4/9/2009 9:47:17 AM)
fragile egos. yup.

SilverMark -> RE: Men have problems when their wives make more money than them. (4/9/2009 3:29:20 PM)
Funny thing....on paper I have a much larger asset base then my wife yet because I work for myself I put most of what the company earns back into the company and when I do take a salary it is fairly small in comparison to what she W-2s every year....Her income has no bearing on our relationship, she out does me by 20-30 k a year in salary. I have yet to feel weakened nor threatened by her income just happy that she has the ability to earn as she does and is very happy in a well paying profession.

Vendaval -> RE: Men have problems when their wives make more money than them. (4/9/2009 4:23:39 PM)
Mark, you appear to be a happy, well-adjusted man who is secure in his masculinity and marriage, wish more guys took clues from the men like you.

honeygirl -> RE: Men have problems when their wives make more money than them. (4/9/2009 7:26:10 PM)
I haven't read the rest of the thread yet. I felt compelled to respond to this! I know many women who have great positions in Wall Street firms who absolutely did not sleep their way to the top. Really now. Just because your wife/ex-wife/what-have-you did doesn't mean that most do!! [:'(] ** updating to answer popeye1250's question! I actually have been in a couple of relationships where one of the reasons things didn't work out was due to a disparity in income. Some of my female friends have had the same. That said, I know several happy couples where it hasn't made a difference at all. quote: ORIGINAL: slvemike4u Wall Street is a boy's club...woman who get ahead there ...usually give head. Sorry if that's misogynistic...I call it has I see it...by the way ...she was too dumb to come in out of the rain without directions. Sorry for the rant...thought about pulling it,decided what the fuck...I get to be an asshole once in a while.

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