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cpK69 -> Weakness (4/7/2009 6:26:53 AM)
Hide/Expose Shun/Embrace Inability toward action/Something more Your thoughts? Kim

DarkSteven -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 6:37:59 AM)
Tough one. As a Dom, I will try to work with my sub on any perceived weakness of hers. But sometimes there comes a time when I have to admit that I don't have the strength to continue any more and need a break. Same with my own weaknesses.

cpK69 -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 6:47:59 AM)
A thought toward the post; where is the line drawn between weakness, and It is what it is”, or does one even exist? Kim

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 7:07:04 AM)
That line is a very personal one. If the weakness is something which causes one great problems and is one they wish to 'fix', then one should take the time and focus on methods to overcome that problem. If the weakness is one that doesn't cause any strife to oneself or the one's they care about, perhaps it doesn't much matter and can be left well enough alone - unless of course in a person's quest of self-improvement they wish to tackle it, by all means...do so. Some weaknesses are extremely difficult to improve upon (hence why they are weaknesses to begin with) and may take years to gain any headway. The road to self-improvement and strength is a difficult one at best; however, I've yet to regret tackling any of my own.

cpK69 -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 7:28:11 AM)
If it is not something that causes great problems, what constitutes it as a weakness? Kim

Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 7:38:59 AM)
I cannot lift anything that weighs more than 5 lbs over my head. To me, that isn't a great problem, there aren't terribly many things over 5 lbs that require me to lift them over my head and the ones that do, fortunately I have someone around who is willing to do that for me. It is a weakness, it is something I cannot do. It doesn't cause me or the person who assists me any problems. I could go through the rest of my life never having to lift anything over my head Why is it a weakness? Because it is something I cannot do for myself. Will I try to fix it? Yes. Why? Because I do not like HAVING to rely on another to do it for me - even if that person doesn't mind. I hope that illustration helps explain. Anything that you personally find as a weakness within yourself - is one. Even though no one faults me about my weakness regarding lifting things over my head (hell most people don't even notice or care), I notice it and I fault me, therefore it is a weakness, a perceived flaw, something that I am not proficient in or capable of doing. Something I wish I were capable of or proficient in. Something I continue to focus on and try to improve. Edited: For accuracy.

colouredin -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 7:48:35 AM)
Emotional weakness is something defined by the individual who feels it I think. Its like we all deal with things differently like grief or whatever it doesnt make us weak to have a different process of getting over it its simply that we have to do what is work. I think there is a problem with judging everyone by our own standards or how we deal with something we all have a unique upbringing and are who we are due to that. Its not as simple to say well because this has happened to me and I did this you should do the same thing because we may not take all the factors into consideration. I am weak when it comes to saying no, I tend to be too keen to please that I will make sure everyone else feels good before I even consider how I am feeling that to me is a weakness, to someone else it may be a strength but I know it hinders my personal existance. its all about how you handle things as is so much.

Kirata -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 8:10:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cpK69 Hide/Expose Shun/Embrace Inability toward action/Something more Being "weak" may be a little pejorative here... sounds more like just being afraid. K.

cpK69 -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 9:06:06 AM)
If you were in need of putting something on a shelf that was over your head, and you got a ladder to raise you, is your inability to lift things over your head still a weakness? Kim

GreedyTop -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 9:09:32 AM)
I think weakness is either something that one is physically unable to do, or mentally/emotionally unwilling to face. In the former, acceptable. In the latter case, a deal breaker, for me.

cpK69 -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 9:12:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin I am weak when it comes to saying no, I tend to be too keen to please that I will make sure everyone else feels good before I even consider how I am feeling that to me is a weakness, to someone else it may be a strength but I know it hinders my personal existance. its all about how you handle things as is so much. Wouldn't that make the weakness in knowing when, instead of the action it self? Kim

cpK69 -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 9:17:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kirata Being "weak" may be a little pejorative here... sounds more like just being afraid. K. I guess that is what I am wondering, but I recognize my inability to speak what is on my mind, with out comming off as such; thought it best to keep it brief. Kim

kittinSol -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 9:18:34 AM)
Strength comes from being aware of one's weaknesses.

cpK69 -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 9:25:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop I think weakness is either something that one is physically unable to do, or mentally/emotionally unwilling to face. In the former, acceptable. In the latter case, a deal breaker, for me. I am having a hard time assessing what constitutes "physical strength". Kim

cpK69 -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 9:29:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kittinSol Strength comes from being aware of one's weaknesses. My thoughts are running parallel to yours, leaning toward; “There is no such thing as weakness, only hurdles to overcome.” Kim

UncleNasty -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 10:19:19 AM)
From a journal entry of mine on 3/22/08: My strength comes in many forms. One form is in acknowledging my weakness. If I deny it I become its puppet. Uncle Nasty

RCdc -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 10:32:16 AM)
My thought tends to echo Kittins. I love my weakness'. I like this thread. I was thinking earlier about a similar thing, contemplating a thread about it. You often see people ooze about the strength of an s-type. You so rarely see the weakness unless it's all complaints. Weakness rocks. Darcy is totally into exposure. I am totally open to it's exposure by Darcy - without exposing it you cannot embrace it... I noticed Kirata stated about being afraid. Fear for some is a weakness... so it's all swings and roundabouts really. the.dark.

LaTigresse -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 10:55:58 AM)
Weakness doesn't bother me. Denying the existance of it, can be dangerous.

Vendaval -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 11:15:55 AM)
Interesting question, Kim. I take a functional, pragmatic approach. Does the weakness interfere in daily life? Are there ways to adapt around it? Physical examples are the most obvious; the use of wheels, ladders, a moving platform or a pulley. Mental and emotional weaknesses usually require adapting new coping strategies through behavior modification, therapy and/or medication. Most people feel depression from time to time after certain types of events, but when the depression lasts long enough and strong enough to crush the joy out of everyday life, then outside help is needed.

Kana -> RE: Weakness (4/7/2009 11:20:45 AM)
Hide/Expose Shun/Embrace Inability toward action/Something more Weakness:We all have it. Start there. Anyone who claims otherwise is insane or deluded, neither of which I want in my life. I expose them. When I was a kid, I tried to hide from them, run from them, be what I thought was strong. I embrace them, lest how can they be turned into strengths? My weaknesses goad me towards constant improvement. I am rarely satisfied with what I did or who I was yesterday, there is always room for improvement. The fool denies he has weakness, the wise man embraces it, and in doing so, frees himself.

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