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ORIGINAL: foxglove716

Yep Im one of ya. Hello my name is foxglove and I am a poser.

As told to me by a *reliable* source on this website.

*Sets down a tray of brownies and coffee for the support group*

I propose for our first fieldtrip we seek out the REAL submissives on this website and grovel at their feet and look at them in ardant wonder, for us lowly sub-subs will never be as glorious as they.

*sigh*

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ORIGINAL: champagnewishes

I was recently told i'm not "real". Does this make me an inanimate poser or a fake poser?

this poser stuff isn't as easy as it appears

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ORIGINAL: Gauge

In the 12 step tradition I thought I would try to come up with some guidelines for recovery from being a poser.

1. We admit that we are powerless over being a poser and that our lives are pathetically unmanageable.

2. We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to being REAL submissives and dominants.

3. We made a decision to turn our lives over to the care of a REAL dominant or submissive as we understand them.

4. Made a searching and fearless inventory of our wrong doings to others that are clearly better than ourselves.

5. Admitted to a REAL dominant or submissive the exact nature of our posing and how lowly and pathetic we are for trying to deceive others.

6. We were entirely ready to have the REAL dominant or submissive remove these defects of our posing character.

7. We humbly ask the REAL dominant or submissive to remove our shortcomings and tendencies toward posing.

8. We went through our blocked list and became willing to make amends to all of those we had posed before.

9. We made direct amends to those people unless the insolent bastard blocked us.

10. We continued to take a personal inventory and when we are posing, we promptly admit it.

11. We read everything we possibly can on BDSM written from REAL submissives and dominants seeking only for knowledge of their fucking standards so that we won't be accused of posing again.

12. Having had a deep revelation that we were REAL dominants and submissives as a result of these steps, we tried to take our message to other poor sods that are posers and to practice these principles in all of our online communications.


I think we can improve these steps, but I think that will get us started in the right direction.

I also think that we need a catchy slogan for our group. Something that will encompass what message it is we are trying to convey. You know like, Just Say No or something like that. I will make the first suggestion.

Don't Be A Posehead!

My name is Gauge and I am a recovering poser.