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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 10:30:06 AM

mdr080480

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February 20, of this year is when I registered.

In all honesty, I am not here for easy hookups, or quick thrills. Heck, at the rate I'm going it will be several months before I even consider looking, or even be ready to look, for a partner. I am not so much shy, it just takes me a while to warm up. I've gotten some great messages from several members, got some great links from one, and of course I've gotten the few spams. I made it a policy not to interact with people who send me a message without first looking at my profile. I'm quite friendly, and I like things to go slow, I'm in no rush at the moment. I am not so fussy on grammar and whatnot, but the messages that I've gotten I have responded back to, assuming they took a look at my profile first.

Typing and chatting is fine for me now, I don't have a private phone line at the moment, and I gave up my cell phone ages ago because I really hated the thing. I actually prefer face to face meetings and interactions, but until that day arrives, I am happy where I am at.

I'm really not in any rush, but if the right circumstances came along, well then, this whole post could probably be ignored.

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 10:50:06 AM

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it took about a month and 1/2... to meet My boy... and we have been together about 2 years or so...

I have met others here online and then moved into RT as well over the last two years.

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 1:34:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lameduck13

I'm just curious as to how many people have found a partner on CollarMe, and roughly how long it took. You can be as descriptive in who you found and how long it took as you'd like I'd just like to get to know the forum-ers a little better. I've been here since April of last year and am yet to come to terms with my shy-ness I'm working on it I do view others profiles often to see who said what on the forums but I am still shy/nervous about sending that message. A few times I've gotten the message wrote out only to chick out at the last second. I know right Lame.

But back to my original question how long have you been here and how long did it take to find someone?

About a year and a half and a few five bar gates... but don't listen to me.....

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 1:59:38 PM

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Hmmmm, within less than a month of creating my profile (I'd known of cm for years) I began conversing with someone who was a part of my life in a partner-ish sense for the better portion of a year. That relationship is over.
I've made some friends on here as well. :>
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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 2:34:36 PM

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i joined CM in febuary two years ago, and met Daddy in march of that year. he collared me in august the same year. (this was under a different name)

i'm still collared to him, but have relocated and remarried (i was openly polyamorous and married when i met Daddy, since divorced from that man) with Daddy's blessings. TheEngineer and i have a D/s relationship, he and Daddy know about one another and they are both satisfied with things the way wer are.

TheEngineer married me in december last year, we'd known each other about 9 years or so before that.

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 4:23:26 PM

cravesdom

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I have been on CM just over a year now. I started my search this time around on another site and one of the Doms I met told me about this site. When he was not a match for me, I created my profile here and wondered if I would really have any better luck. I met some really great people right away, but no one that was a match for me. Then 4 months after I started using CM and only 1 month after I started posting on the boards, I started flirting and talking with Shiver on the boards late one night. The rest as they say is history. We met in person, we fell in love, and now I am pregnant. We are buying a house and I am moving to Pennsylvania to be with him within the next month or so.

Keep an open mind and a positive attitude and you never know what will happen. If nothing else maybe you will make some great new friends. Good luck!

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 4:39:19 PM

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i have been a member here for nearly 4 years, Master a little longer, and although i didn't meet him on CM i did meet him on a similar site, and with exactly the same profile posted.

The only way of connecting with folk on any meaningful way was to put myself about on the sites i had joined so that folk got to know me and what i thought about all sorts of things. That, and after direct approaches just being myself, being honest, and making sure i had understood what i read before i belted off a response!

All the best for the future.

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 4:39:59 PM

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Well I don't now the numbers but I imagine that the ratio is pretty stacked against you. Lots of male subs....But then again there are lots of male doms in contrast to the number of female subs.

Here is your plan...Join the forums. Fire out a few answers and start a few threads. try to act normal if possible. If not, have your mom peruse your responses before you hit "OK."

This is a sure fire way to have you bound up and hog tied in nothing flat.

Don't thank me...It's what I do. I am the most loved person on CM.

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 4:40:05 PM

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Well, in my first 4 months,.i met two people, dated, (and stuff) and later realized that we weren't compatible.
i met The TDHO(my Domly One) after 9 months here...i'm pretty certain i'm DONE!!!!

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 5:10:05 PM

beargonewild

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Between this identity and my last identity, I've been on CM for nearly 4 years. I haven't found a partner on here and don't expect to either! Actually I found my partner on a different site which is what I figured would happen since I never was looking to find on here. I use this site other then trying to find a partner.

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 6:06:20 PM

TaoWoman

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Don't thank me...It's what I do. I am the most loved person on CM.

Yes you are!

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 8:31:58 PM

antipode

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quote:

You can be as descriptive in who you found and how long it took as you'd like

Thank you very kindly, I was so waiting for your permission.

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 8:34:30 PM

antipode

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quote:

At least you get message from people, teach me oh wise one

For one, SailingBum doesn't call himself Lame, and he never goes on about how shy he is, dunno why.

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RE: How long did it take?h - 3/31/2009 9:24:08 PM

greeneyedreamer

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Well, I was here about 6 months or so before I got the NERVE to meet anyone. And that was after about 10 years on AOL, trying to deal with my submissives/domme qualities. I didn' t know what the hell I was. Talk about LAME! Well, I met a great guy here and although that didn't work out and a few others didn't, I finally found the PERFECT dom for me. It's a fits like a glove, type and I am really so happy it's nauseating. LOL

Don't be shy. Most here(some people may disagree, I know) are nice people and although I don't know many submissives personally in person, I have met a few of the dominant men. MOST have been great people and even if they weren't great for ME? Most are good friends even after we figured out we weren't compatible.

Feel free to send me CM mail if you would like to know anything else. OH and WELCOME and relax... no boogie man here

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RE: How long did it take?h - 4/1/2009 6:01:12 AM

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I think you'll find a wide range of experiences, lameduck13, since different people are looking for different things and there are so many different variables.

Personally, I joined CM strictly for the forums at the strong insistence (ok, really pestering!) of a friend who thought I'd love the boards. I was happy with my life, was not interested in having a partner, content with my friends, critters and home in Idaho. I started posting regularly and met some great people. I was shy at first, it seemed like everyone had been here so much longer and knew everyone, so I kept myself a lot to Polls & Random Stupidity, a fun section. Within a few days, I was chatting (cautiously and carefully) with someone who seemed like a great guy. It was all on the boards, back and forth banter, until he joked about sending a bunch of the ladies pictures of himself. I jokingly said "HEY! What about me? I want pictures too!" and found some pictures in my cmail shortly after. I discovered that this man who already had my fascination for his sense of humour, personality and intelligence, was the most atttractive man I'd even seen. (His profile pictures really did him NOOOOOOO justice!) Since I wasn't looking for anyone though, and neither was he, I figured I was lucky to be his friend.

Within a few weeks, I knew that this man had captured my heart forever and he told me he loved me as well. Within 6 weeks, we're were talking about me going out to Canada to him. Collaring was assumed, the bond was so strong between us. Then he asked me to marry him and the plans were on for me to move permanently to Ontario. So the timeline is - we met within a few days of me joining CM through P&RS, in April he asked me to marry him, in May I moved to Ontario, Canada from Idaho to be with him, July 4th he collared me and on October 31st, 2008, we were married at a local harbourside park on Lake Ontario. And every single day I am most grateful and thankful that I met him via CM. He has made me the most incredibly happy woman on the planet even though I thought I was happy. I was - I just didn't know I could be even happier with the man of my dreams.

Ya - CM works for some of us!

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RE: How long did it take?h - 4/1/2009 6:10:17 AM

ChampagneMojito

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I was on here for about 1 year and had almost given up before meeting my Domme. We traded emails for some time, but I chickened out of meeting her. Miraculosly, few months later we got back in touch just before christmass 2006. We met that January. We got engaged in Nov 2008

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RE: How long did it take?h - 4/1/2009 11:53:34 AM

heartbound

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Mistress and I found each other shortly (maybe a month?) after I joined CM, and we have been together for about 2 1/2 years. We just happened to be at the same place at the same time and connected perfectly.

However, I can also say that I have been on other services before like alt.com and bondage.com and never found the right person. There is no formula as to how long it should take to find the relationship you seek. My advice to you is to be patient and don't give up.

-heartbound

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RE: How long did it take?h - 4/2/2009 10:35:08 AM

GotSteel

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Just over a month, I met my sub the 2nd or 3rd time I visited collarme. We've been together close to a year. This wasn't the first online place I tried but it's definitely been the best. Also, I'd want to talk to someone as opposed to meeting them based on text. Based on scams I encountered on A

t I'd be very wary of someone who wouldn't talk to me first. Your not having a phone doesn't make talking to someone first impossible, there's telephony software and audio and video features in most of the common messaging programs including the video chat room on this site.

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