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VampiresLair -> RE: Message or wait to be messaged? (3/30/2009 8:42:26 AM)
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A few things.
1: as many have mentioned, refering to a dominant female as Mistress in your initial contact or thinking of them that way is not going to help your cause any. Many of us dislike that from someone who is not our owned property already and some of us do not even like it then. So, you might want to find a new honorofic for them, or you might want to stick to their screen name and refer to us as Dominant Women, not Mistresses.
2: With as many submissive men as are out there, most of them making first contact already, waiting for a Dominant woman to browse, see your profile and hopefully write is setting yourself up for failure. Many of us get inundated with mail, to the point where it is rare we browse and look on our own.
3: Presentation is EVERYTHING. AS I said before, a lot of us get inundated with mail. First contact and making yourself stand out from the crowd is key. Read the profile, and make sure you understand what it is trying to say. Make it obvious you have read it, and do not go directly into a list of what you want and what you need. A first contact does not have to spell every detail of what you hope will happen out right off. You want to get someone's attention and talk to them, make them want to learn more. IF someone tells me every detail, I do not want to continue the script. However, when someone talks to me and starts an actual conversation it will usually go somewhere.
4: spell check and proofread your email. There is nothing less impressive than a poorly written and misspelled first email. This is your first impression. Make it count.
Good luck
DV
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