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jakelogan01 -> the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 2:59:07 AM)
the search for that special someone can be long. it's being long for me. what keeps your hope alive?

stella41b -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 3:09:58 AM)
That I'm still a long way from Calgary.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 3:49:00 AM)
not whining about it in threads like this

sirsholly -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 3:55:09 AM)
this site has brought so many together...it WILL happen![:)]

TaoWoman -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 4:32:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jakelogan01 the search for that special someone can be long. it's being long for me. what keeps your hope alive? Personally, i am "manifesting" the man i intend to find...that will happen when the time is right. In the meantime though, i am out there enjoying the partners that life has given me in the short term. On another thread, someone mentioned some vanilla dating sites in regards to getting intouch with local folks that might have a penchant for kink. You might want to try that route~

sfdrew -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 4:52:02 AM)
quote: not whining about it in threads like this An easy thing to say when you are already in two relationships. I was starting to feel like I would never meet anybody when I met Mistress. Part of my problem is that I was only looking local. I ended up moving to NYC and I couldn't be happier. Long distance might be the only way to find that special somebody, but it can be hard.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 5:00:52 AM)
still it took me a long time to find Daddy and my pet however i didn't whine about it either when i was searching

CatdeMedici -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 5:03:24 AM)
A full and active life, a firm grip on the reality that it isn't a need but a desire, and a peace that I have a happy life if it never comes to fruition. edited for typos before coffee

LadyLupineNYC -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 5:16:29 AM)
OP- doesn't help that you are married (and, as you point out, it's not 'open'). What would be the appeal. Maybe if your wife was also involved and it was a poly situation, but you are basically sneaking around. Very few woman would have such low self esteem to feel that would be all they are worth, even if they are an s-type and I know that this is a hard limit for a lot of people. Would you want your slave to be married to another man?

sfdrew -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 5:18:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici A full and active life, a firm girp on the reality that it isn't a need but a desire, and a peace that I have a happy life if it never comes to fruition. I don't know if that is true for everybody. I haven't yet met a dom/domme who claimed it as a true need, but I think a lot of subs do feel that way. For me personally, it is a need. At least in the sense that I need to feel accepted for who I am even if I'm not living out fantasies, which are just desires. I could live a happy without it, but I would still be lonely and empty on the inside, constantly feeling like I had to hide something. I suppose it's a complicated topic which I am taking OT.

RCdc -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 5:46:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jakelogan01 the search for that special someone can be long. it's being long for me. what keeps your hope alive? Stop searching. Instead live life. That way you have experiences and also become more attractive to others. the.dark.

LadyPact -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 5:53:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jakelogan01 the search for that special someone can be long. it's being long for me. what keeps your hope alive? That it's soooooo worth it.

slaveluci -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 5:59:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl still it took me a long time to find Daddy and my pet however i didn't whine about it either when i was searching I hate "whining" as much as the next guy but I don't see any indication that the OP is doing so. He said "it's being long for me. What keeps your hope alive?" Where is there ANY whininess in that? Geesh, sambamanslilgirl. I usually see your point but I gotta differ with ya on this one. Go easy on him[:)]...................luci

InTonguesslave -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 6:29:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl still it took me a long time to find Daddy and my pet however i didn't whine about it either when i was searching i dont think he's whining about it atall. i can understand the frustration and after one or two dead ends that seem promising it can get a bit like Mission Impossible. throw in geography, symbiosis and a parallel need menu and frankly it can seem daunting. how did i keep going. optimism i suppose. the belief that He was out there somewhere and it was down to timing and bumping into each other and keeping a sense of humour at all times. plus dont make it the all important thing in youre life. the odd thing is, and ive noticed other people say the same, its often when you stop looking actively and just think, 'oh bugger it' that someone pops up.

DesFIP -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 6:34:00 AM)
The search is longer when what you want won't fit into your life. And I get the feeling that's what Jake's problem is. He wants someone who is his total slave, thinking only about how to please him while at the same time she can't ever depend on him to be there when she needs him. She can't call him on the phone for help if her car breaks down, she can't expect him to visit her in the hospital etc. Because he's hiding who he is and his relationship with her from his wife. If you keep doing the same thing and expect a different result, well that's one definition of insanity. Maybe do some searching and try to find a way to get your basic needs met that does fit into your life, and hers.

TaoWoman -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 9:45:57 AM)
I am with Celeste on this one 100%. I know another man who has been searching along time for a slave but he has not prepared for her so the Universe will not provide her. You are in a similar situation just different circumstances...people only come into our lives when we make room for them. Perhaps a swingers or extra-marital affair group would have women who can role play this fantasy for you~

CalifChick -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 9:50:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jakelogan01 the search for that special someone can be long. it's being long for me. what keeps your hope alive? The hope that one day... one day soon... you will stop looking past me and look AT me. Sigh. [;)] But if you ever shave that mustache off, the whole deal is over. Cali

Vanityfull -> RE: the search can be looooong (3/23/2009 10:25:44 AM)
"the search for that special someone can be long. it's being long for me. what keeps your hope alive?" nothing, you can have no hope, no want or need and out of nowhere you will fall in love with some sexarific stranger that apears from nowhere,in all seriousness its one of those random events that will screw with your life no matter what. as for me personally what keeps a hope going, thats kinda one of the things im lookin for right now, i am bitter from the whole bad relationships in past but i guess just accepting that someone could walk into your life any second and your drive to connect with that person may be pretty hard to stop even if one's jaded and numb to things, its a hard process to become unbitter tho, you have to smell alot of flowers in life... like leave your house 10 minutes earlier for work alot..

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