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CalifChick -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 10:40:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: evelinggirl

i've heard different opinions on this topic.  i generally don't mind sleeping with a guy i have a connection with but if i'm meeting him for the first time in person, i want to know what people think about that.  i mean besides the unsafe factor which i generally establish when i first meet a guy.  would it be more appropriate to wait for the second or beyond meetings? 


You're 24 years old.  What have you been doing up until now, and how has that been working for you?


Cali



Mercnbeth -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 10:46:37 AM)

~ Fast Reply ~
 
Back in the day, I 'slept' with people I didn't meet until the NEXT day! [sm=banana.gif]



LaTigresse -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 10:47:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

~ Fast Reply ~
 
Back in the day, I 'slept' with people I didn't meet until the NEXT day! [sm=banana.gif]


slut



Mercnbeth -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 11:11:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

~ Fast Reply ~
Back in the day, I 'slept' with people I didn't meet until the NEXT day! [sm=banana.gif]
slut
Yeah - I know. I tried 'SA' but going to a 'Sluts Anonymous' meeting but every time someone got up and 'testified' an orgy broke out.
 
"Hello, my name is Merc - I'm a slut."
 
"HI! MERC~!"
 
"Thank you! Just last night me and a few of my friends were hanging out Hellfire, when woman came in from the cold dark NYC night wearing a fur coat. Upon arrival he stripped it off exposing a leather bikini. She announced that she was offering herself to the club and wanted to experience all we could offer.
 
There happened to be seven of us there on that cold Tuesday evening; two couples, two men, and one, woman known for her cruel and intense 'play' methods. We had nothing planned, just chatting, preferring the companionship of common interest the club provided versus whatever awaited us at our homes.
 
The woman, as aggressive as she was beautiful and cruel, grabbed her, slapped her face and shouted into it; "How DARE you come into this place and demand that we serve your disgusting needs! On your knees and put your nose against the wall and maybe someone will amuse themselves with your body when they feel like it!"
 
Then..."
 
Well, I won't bore you with the details, but you get the idea. By the end of the story, people were naked. I don't think anyone ever got beyond the first of the twelve steps - but it was sure a FUN group!
 
Before you, or anyone, get all disgusted and make me, and others like be (beth!) the object of your wrath remember - SLUTS are people too!



mikeyOfGeorgia -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 11:19:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: evelinggirl

i've heard different opinions on this topic.  i generally don't mind sleeping with a guy i have a connection with but if i'm meeting him for the first time in person, i want to know what people think about that.  i mean besides the unsafe factor which i generally establish when i first meet a guy.  would it be more appropriate to wait for the second or beyond meetings? 


for me, it's a big "NO-NO". but of course, i won't do it on any meeting. it's not who i am, what i seek or why i'm here. i know, i'm strange.



susie -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 11:22:36 AM)

FR

I met someone on the internet. Chatted for a week. Arranged to meet. Booked a hotel and let him tie me up the first night. Had sex. Fell in love and been with him for 5 years.

Call me a slut if you like because I am too happy to care   [sm=pompom.gif]



sirsholly -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 11:31:48 AM)

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I met someone on the internet. Chatted for a week. Arranged to meet. Booked a hotel and let him tie me up the first night.

then call me a slut too.





LaTigresse -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 11:40:34 AM)

I am going to have to get you all t-shirts with a big red "SA" on them.

I will say that my first meeting with my first female love, was less meeting and more consensual rape. Annnnnnnnnnd I loved every second of it! (not sure about anyone else that might have been thinking about coming down that particular hiking path......though I was too oblivious to know if they existed)

Yes, I will need one of those SA shirts also.



DesFIP -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 4:25:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: susie

FR

I met someone on the internet. Chatted for a week. Arranged to meet. Booked a hotel and let him tie me up the first night. Had sex. Fell in love and been with him for 5 years.

Call me a slut if you like because I am too happy to care   [sm=pompom.gif]


Sluts, all of you! I waited till the second meet (because I had to catch a ferry the first time). 6 years later...

But the truth is we talked for hours every single day for almost a month prior to that meet. And we formed a connection of the heart prior to meeting. And that's what I need, a strong connection.

OP, what do you need?



Voodali -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 4:39:10 PM)

Although I've sampled it, I no longer sleep with anyone on a first meeting because I am extremely turned off by boys/men who don't even bother to win my respect before attempting to use me as a disposable wank-hole.  I prefer to pleasure my damn self, because I'm probably better at it than some random stranger with no respect for me.  I respect the ethical slut lifestyle, but it just doesn't work for me.  The kicks I get with other people involve far more than the genitals or the flesh...which I suppose is what landed me in CM.



domiguy -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 4:47:54 PM)

I would tell you that most of the guys in the world are total tools and should be avoided....However, if you ever find yourself in Chicago and for some reason we should have the chance to share each others company...We are fucking.

I can remember back in the day a friend asked if I had fucked my then current girlfriend before or after I met her parents..I replied, "during."

I like to fuck when I like to fuck.  It is a feeling thang.  I know this does sound hard to believe, but I have actually passed up on the snatch a time or two in my dating career. However, I have never done it enough times to allow it to become habit forming.....So my cute lil' Asian thang..What stays in Vegas doesn't get fucked by Domiguy...Come to Domiguy.

Charter member of SA...Would seek treatment, but the cure I have heard is truly worse than death.



Aneirin -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/19/2009 9:59:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: evelinggirl

i've heard different opinions on this topic.  i generally don't mind sleeping with a guy i have a connection with but if i'm meeting him for the first time in person, i want to know what people think about that.  i mean besides the unsafe factor which i generally establish when i first meet a guy.  would it be more appropriate to wait for the second or beyond meetings? 


Do what you feel is right, bollocks to anyone else and their thoughts, they are not you. If the mood runs to sleeping with another, if both are cool with it, why not, why ruin the moment, the same goes for fucking, if things go that way or appear to be heading that direction, if all are happy, follow where the experience takes you, for life is about experience, not rules imposed by others.

So called sluts of either sex,what a horrible term to be applied to someone who is comfortable enough with themselves to explore and take the best that can be had from life and humanity. I think people would do well to mind their own fucking business when it comes to the actions of others, perhaps they should examine themselves before they sling abuse around, could it be the name callers are just jealous.



LaTigresse -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/20/2009 4:07:09 AM)

Not everyone that uses the word slut, uses it in a derogatory way.



Phoenixpower -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/20/2009 4:11:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
most of the guys in the world are total tools and should be avoided....


I always thought tools should  be used [8|][8|][8|]



MmeGigs -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/20/2009 8:03:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: susie
I met someone on the internet. Chatted for a week. Arranged to meet. Booked a hotel and let him tie me up the first night. Had sex. Fell in love and been with him for 5 years.
Call me a slut if you like because I am too happy to care   [sm=pompom.gif]


Me, too.  Hubby and I met the first time for lunch.  He ended up sticking around through lunch the next day.  That was in August 1999.  Our 8th wedding anniversary is next week, and we still feel very honey-mooney about each other. 




MadAxeman -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/20/2009 10:40:39 AM)

Sometimes you have to sleep together on the first date.
All that fucking can be exhausting



SteelofUtah -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/20/2009 11:00:24 AM)

I have always done what felt natural. I have been with Many women and many of them I had sex with on the first meeting. Being alergic to Latex and having a severe alergy to the Non Latex Coating, I'm always taking a risk because I cannot wear condoms.

I find it is important to just be tested regularly (I get tested every 4 months because of the Latex Alergy and Promiscuity) and try to know the behavior of your partner before you go buck wild. As well as you can anyway. I have no issues asking, So do you do this often? and I am a Man who likes to Inspect my partner and going down on them is a wonderful way to determine the visual signs of the genitalia, Once inspected I make a decision and then write down the date and maintain getting tested, this way I can inform the person who most likely infected me and inform everyone who I may have passed it along to.

In the last 15 years I have never had an STD, or Vd from anyone I have been with. I have however been asked to come in and be tested 3 times because someone gave my name as someone that they may have inadvernently infected.

In this day and age you can be Abstinent and take no chance, Wear a Condom and take a small chance, or wear nothing and take a big chance, personally I will live with taking responsibility for my actions no matter where that leaves me.

I am very openly candid about my sexuality and so for those who want to get up on their soap box and tell me the risk I am putting others in I say that they knew about my sexual history and still chose to have sex with me, should someone have gotten something from me the responsibility would have fallen on them and them alone, I have never held a gun to someones head and made them have sex with me (Not that wasn't wanted anyway).

To the OP, do what you want just know the risks that you are taking and if you have the ability be as SAFE as you possibly can be.

Steel



sirsholly -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/20/2009 11:13:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MadAxeman

Sometimes you have to sleep together on the first date.
All that fucking can be exhausting



i should know not to have a mouthful when reading your posts, Max [:)]



TaoWoman -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/20/2009 11:42:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I am going to have to get you all t-shirts with a big red "SA" on them.

I will say that my first meeting with my first female love, was less meeting and more consensual rape. Annnnnnnnnnd I loved every second of it! (not sure about anyone else that might have been thinking about coming down that particular hiking path......though I was too oblivious to know if they existed)

Yes, I will need one of those SA shirts also.



That was pretty hot!



TaoWoman -> RE: sleeping with someone on the first meeting: do or don't? (3/20/2009 11:47:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MadAxeman

Sometimes you have to sleep together on the first date.
All that fucking can be exhausting



So true!



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