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cuckold relationship - 3/17/2009 9:15:04 PM

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there are lots of internet talk of these relationships but do they really exist? I am new to the whole lifestyle so please let me know if you know of any \. Thanks

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/18/2009 1:39:14 AM

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They exist.

At first, the notion made me cringe and do that thing where you taste your mouth because your disgust is palpable. (Heavily influenced by my phobia of STD's. Not just "I don't want the clap" but a complete irrational fear of STD's)

As time went on, and humiliation and I became fast friends, I was able to appreciate (and eventually savor) all the little emotional nuances of cuckoldry. The sense of service and disposal, the humiliation and happiness... I could go on.

The way a couple goes about this is another factor. One side of the spectrum is an angry man, tied back, forced to watch rape fantasies play out with his wife, the other side is a well to do gentleman managing his wife's harem, of which she uses her man toys and then disposes of them, and everything in between.

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/18/2009 1:48:56 AM

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Sure they do. In more ways and versions than most people can imagine. You can find studies that show anywhere from 11% to 60% of all women having affairs. I assume these stats are based on "western" cultures.

If you are talking about the more recent explosion of the "cuckold fetish" than again, yes and yes. And again, there are multiple variations on what transpires, who knows what and when, active participation or not of the male, whether its a one time thing per partner or long term relationship, whether or not it ends up being some sort of S/M laden orgy of sorts etc. :)

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/18/2009 1:51:37 AM

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"... S/M laden orgy" - this has me grinning; thank you.

For the OP - it's real, it works for some and not for others.

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/18/2009 5:29:30 PM

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elusively soughtb after by subs but less desired by dommes ;(

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/18/2009 7:23:39 PM

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< shrug > Was in a quad relationship where one of the guys liked the idea of being 'cuckolded' so that his wife would bring him others mens' cum...not sure that really amounts to cuckolding but it was sure a pain in the ass to deal with his cum fetish! Cuckolding doesn't appeal to me personally.
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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/18/2009 9:50:11 PM

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yes it exists...
and like in one of ur post, sometimes sought after more by subbies.
there r some Dommes who desire it as well...

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/19/2009 4:50:23 AM

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They exist. I am in such a relationship. Ms. Mlicious, who has a profile on collarme, blogs about her infidelity to me on earthacatslair.blogspot.com
My blog links to hers. It's all true. She loves her lifestyle, and I love her cuckolding ways.

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/19/2009 6:35:58 AM

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Your not wrong to assume a mythical veil. The truth is that it is very difficult to find guys who are willing to date a woman who already has a boyfriend or husband. It's easy to find guys who want to have a one night stand, but usually without the cuck in the room or even in the building. A guy who is A type, worth dating, and willing to be in a bull position in a cuckold relationship is practically impossible to find. Guys are spooked off by other guys. The porno vision of a slutty woman who gets laid everyday by a gang of black, hung, pimps is completely fictitious.

This leads to two common sense conclusions. 1) One night stands are not sustainable due to a lack of supply (not demand), and therefore cuckold relationships based on one night stands are sporadic and produce diminishing returns. and 2) Quality guys worth dating over the long term as a bull are almost impossible to find, and therefore, relationships involving long term bulls rarely exist.

Do they exist? I'm sure they do, but as a percentage of the couples who would like to be in a cuckold relationships, I'm sure it's quite low.

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/19/2009 7:51:39 PM

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I can't speak for the masses, but I do know that the guys Ms. Mlicious dates are crazy over her. They would gladly step into a role as her full time man. She goes out with them occasionally, but she is with me most of the time.

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RE: cuckold relationship - 3/20/2009 4:32:08 PM

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The other issue I find which my boy (sfdrew) didn't mention (bad boy! 20 spanks!

) is that within the kink community I am damn near overwhelmed with offers to be a cuck without regard to the fact that I already have a slave who acts within that capacity. Part of it is the fact that they don't bother to read the profile or that they don't care what it says. Others tell me that since I also happen to have sex with by boy then he CAN'T be my cuck (anyone why reads his last few journal entries would understand why I would be incredulous at that) and therefore need a 'twue' cuck. I find using emotionally blackmail with cucks to be the most rewarding so the idea that just some guy at the end of a screen can be 'my' cuckold is ridiculous. Other times I find guys who are perfect...and I mean it...but they flake (either before or after meeting). Seems the reality that something they have been jacking off to all those years possible coming true is just too much for them. In the end, that is a situation where it is definitely for the best.

All and all, it doesn't help that I am super picky, as my boy suggested in his post. The reality is, that if I really wanted it, I could find all sorts of guys to fuck either with him out of the apt or in front of him but I have no interest in most of them (married, older than I am attracted too, needy etc). In short, as with all sexuality, this scene is fraught with many challenges.

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RE: cuckold relationship - 10/18/2010 4:43:31 PM

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Another difficulty is the vaste differences in the cuckold perspective from those that want a ltr with love, honesty and simple cuckolding (sleeping with other men) to those who want to add humiliation and domination all the way to those who want to also be sissfied and crossdressed. It is often difficult to find a serious relationship amidst such vast definitions of the lifestyle.

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RE: cuckold relationship - 10/18/2010 5:01:04 PM

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To anyone - is there a term for a female version of cuckolding? (Or male version - whatever is considered the opposite.)

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RE: cuckold relationship - 10/18/2010 5:10:31 PM

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If the male is not an active participant in this "cuck" relationship then isn't it just plain old cheating?

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RE: cuckold relationship - 10/18/2010 5:11:40 PM

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that was supposed to be a reply to vanessa not a stand alone comment

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RE: cuckold relationship - 10/18/2010 6:01:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko

To anyone - is there a term for a female version of cuckolding? (Or male version - whatever is considered the opposite.)

Cuckqueaning.

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RE: cuckold relationship - 10/18/2010 6:08:06 PM

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This thread well over a year old. Please consider starting a new thread on the topic if it is of interest for you.

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